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I like her but she is a prositute, how can I get her to leave that work?

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Question - (11 February 2017) 7 Answers - (Newest, 14 February 2017)
A male Nigeria age 30-35, *pcomputer87 writes:

Please help me. I have been in hiding wishing there was someone to love me with true heart. I am searching a true and honest woman to be my good friend and possibly marry her if God decide we should be together. I am tired of boy and girl friend things. All the girls I meet seem not interested to have a serious relationship talk less of marriage. I decided to check in brothel and see if I can meet the serious and responsible one. As i enter the hotel, a girl approach me where I was sitting and I ignore her because sex is not what I want, I know my purpose. She smile and came second time. she hold my hand, asking me some questions and what I want etc. I told her my purpose and she asked me if we can see and talk in private maybe in her room. We went upstairs, as we enter her room. she hold me tight and smile. playing with me, joking and do all kinds of funny things to me. I was surprise and asked her why she's doing that ask if she know me before and I haven't see prostitute that offer that to a client. I feel the girl is so nice. honest and friendly compare to the girls I meet. my spirit accepted her.I asked her why she's doing this business and she replied is because of money. I want to go far with her and see if things will work out for us. I want to arrange a date with her and have serious discussion with her to see if I can convince her to quit the work. Advice me on what to do. Thanks and waiting your kind response.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2017):

You sir are delusional.

I think you might consider some therapy.

Who on earth would ever want to marry a prostitute?

There are two types of women in the world. Women you bang (prostitutes included in this category) and women you marry.

This is not the kind of a woman you could ever trust to be faithful to you. She has to have a lot of baggage and psychological issues in order to put herself through that kind of work. No emotionally healthy and stable woman becomes a prostitute.

She is selling you a dream and being nice so you pay up. She does this to all the other men. Not just you. She is skilled and experienced at deception. For money.

Open your eyes for your own sake. Don't get further played by her.

And don't even get me started on diseases.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2017):

You surely don't expect anyone to believe that you went to a brothel to find someone you can hope to date and marry?

You went to a brothel to have sex.

You met a woman who gave you some attention and you feel that she might be interested in you??

First and foremost, this is what she does....makes men feel special so that they go back to see her and pay her for more attention.

If you think you are so wonderful she has developed serious feelings for you in such a short space of time, you are delusional.

If you think people will believe that you didn't go to a brothel to have sex and just met a woman in the foyer where she persuaded you to go to her room and talk, then you are delusional.

If you think that she will be interested in you enough to quit a very lucrative job that she's obviously very good at, then you are delusional.

What worries me most about your post is the background sub text which shows what your thinking is like. One word....entitled. You want her and that's all that matters. You don't care and haven't even thought about whether or not she wants you. You want her and that's all you care about. Have you ever spoken to her properly? Have you formed a relationship, a friendship? Any kind of a bond with her that doesn't include exchange of money for her company?

You are living in an absolute dream world of entitlement. How can she be persuaded to do what YOU want? That's all you care about. You do not care about her. You don't even know her. And I bet you are so entitled that you don't even know what I'm trying to say to you.

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A female reader, HisGirl0516 United States +, writes (11 February 2017):

That's her way of paying the bills, want her to quit? I'm guessing you'd have to offer her a stable life where she doesn't have to worry about her bills being paid. If you can support her then by all means take her out of there, if not then you need to let her do her. That's what's been working for her, you can't just tell her she should find a different job without guaranteeing her she won't be homeless or hungry.

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A male reader, jpcomputer87 Nigeria +, writes (11 February 2017):

jpcomputer87 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks for the advice, we can only be good friends and nothing behind it.....

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A male reader, Faint Dominican Republic +, writes (11 February 2017):

The answer is very simple, shes doing this because of money, that means she is in need of money to support her life style , study or maybe some other reason, if u want her to quit then u have to be able to grant her the money she needs, i mean life must go on, i believe she doesnt enjoy as much being a prostitude and that theres no other choice to get fast money ,theres no way shes gonna quit this job if ur not able to provide that much

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2017):

" I feel the girl is so nice. honest and friendly compare to the girls I meet."

She's not. It's all an act. All she's interested in is your money.

"I asked her why she's doing this business and she replied is because of money."

To her credit she is being completely honest and has made her intentions clear. Believe her.

"I want to arrange a date with her and have serious discussion with her to see if I can convince her to quit the work. Advice me on what to do."

Nothing, because there's nothing you can do. Prostitution as a lucrative profession and she probably earns far more than you do. If you ask her for a "date" she will charge you for every second she spends with you. That's her job; she is a business woman and her business is identifying lonely, naive, gullible males from whom she can get all the money she can, and when she's taken them for everything they have she'll then dump them and move on to the next sucker(s).

She's a professional whore and she's probably stringing along other lonely, naive, gullible men who also think they are "the one" who can convince her to leave the work.

You would be an absolute fool to ever have any contact with her again, and if do (as sadly I think you will) be forewarned that the financial and emotional cost will be devastating.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (11 February 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntFirst of all, you go to a brothel to have sex, not to find a wife.

Secondly, she can't leave that job without finding another one first. Not only that, but you can't expect a woman to leave her job over a guy she barely knows.

Find a woman you can get to know without needing them to quit their job. Also, don't date a woman who is having sex with others.

This woman is not for you and you can't find a wife at a brothel.

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