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I know this is not normal but... 

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Question - (17 September 2012) 11 Answers - (Newest, 18 September 2012)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Had a few drinks but was not drunk - I was performing oral sex on my wife when things got very intense and before I knew i slipped further down. To my surpise my wife moaned in pleasure and asked for me to do it again. I accomodated and before I knew it became just as intense as our "traditional oral". A few days have gone by and I've been thinking about it non stop. I get aroused by the thought and was wondering if other females enjoy this? I know men enjoy but that's mostly due to the anatomy differences. Also, for men is this considered gross?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012):

My girlfriend loves it, I used to find it a bit horrible (not in a hygienic sense) but there's nothing I won't do for her so I've gotten used to it and actually enjoy what it does for her.

I wouldn't consider anymore gross than licking a vagina with all it's bits of mucus, dead skin cells, and minute bits of left over piss. Or kissing a mouth with minute bits of food and bacteria in there. A clean anus is actually cleaner than the inside of a mouth.

Just be careful OP, you never go from anus back to vagina in the same session, the transmission of germs from that part to the other can lead to infection.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 September 2012):

Honeypie agony auntWhatever floats you wife and yours boat. Some love it, some people can't get past the ICKY factor. If you two can and enjoy it, who cares?

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (18 September 2012):

Yos agony auntIt's all good as long as you're clean. There's plenty of people of both sexes that enjoy it as far as i am aware.

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A male reader, daletom United States +, writes (18 September 2012):

Both men and women get very sensitive around the anus when they are sexually aroused. Neither men nor women like to admit it. My wife has NEVER asked for analingus, but she DOES from time to time position herself (while I go down on her) in a way that makes it clear what she's like to happen.

As long as the area is squeeky-clean (probably freshly showered) there shouldn't be any problem.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012):

I did that once with my wife, it was a fantasy I'd been carrying around for years. I loved it, she was OK with it at the time, but my sense is that it was a one-time only.

The thing is, what happens between two consenting adults is 'normal'. If you're in a relationship where you get to try things, then you're in great shape. No one has any business knowing what goes on in your bedroom. If you two are OK and happy with it, then bless you. A great sex life is really as good as it gets, and what works for the both of you is no one's business. Enjoy!

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A male reader, eddie85 United States +, writes (18 September 2012):

eddie85 agony auntI think if the area is clean down there then there is nothing wrong with it. There are a ton of nerve endings down there and it is easy to generate arousal in that area. I don't see any problems with it and if it works for both of you, all the more power to you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012):

Who cares if it's considered "gross" or not? If you and her both enjoy it, then do it. It's not like you have to tell anyone about it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012):

My boyfriend and I both enjoy giving and receiving this, and is part of our intimate time together. I don't find it gross at all.

Providing both parties are alright with it, I don't see the problem. Enjoy each others bodies :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012):

Myself an my partner regulary do this an find it wonderful

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012):

This is your wife. Anything goes in the bedroom as long as the two of you are comfortable. If the two of you like it who cares if everybody else thinks its gross. The two of you had a pleasurable experience that's all that matters! Best wishes to the two of you.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (17 September 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntanalingus is lovely... I've received it and given it. and I would do it again if the situation arose....

anything done freely and lovingly between two consenting adults is not gross....

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