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*carface83
writes:Hi All.Thanks for reading my question and please reply as I am pulling my hair out with this problem and it's really getting me down.I split up with my girlfriend of a year and a half around 4 months ago. It was a very up and down relationship mostly down but the good times were so good. One occasion I know for sure of her cheating with her ex (as she admitted it when I asked) But I suspect she slept with him more as they used to go out in his car together spend time at either house together, she was in constant contact with her ex meeting him (as they share the same mutual university friends) texting him messages and sending constant emails about meeting up and how their week was going and general flirting chit chat. We broke up over this twice but twice I took her back twice because I believed it when she got upset and said it was me she wanted and it would never happen again as she loved me. I love this girl unconditionally and would do anything for her. We have remained friends and have continued to meet up, spend weekends together, sleeping together most recently in November when I paid for us to go to a country hotel. We even kept up the contact when she moved 150 miles away in December to be with her family. I spent hundreds of pounds on her birthday and the previous Christmas buying her all of the best presents I could afford but never received a gift when it was my birthday or Christmas. We recently stopped talking in December when I booked a surprise £200 pound weekend trip to London for the both of us but she dropped off the face of the earth and did not reply to my texts or e-mails to tell me if she could get the time off work or even wanted to go with me. So in the end I ended up taking somebody else. I was really deeply upset by this and have since not spoken since December the 12th even over Christmas and New Year (which killed me and took all of my self control. The problem is I am physically restraining myself from e-mailing or texting her as I feel so lonely and am missing having her in my life. I know she is SO SO SO not a nice person and not good for me but I can’t get over this feeling and the feeling of happiness when we were together. PLEASE help I am desperate for a way out of this.Kind Regards
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reader, scarface83 +, writes (8 January 2010):
scarface83 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for all of the reply's they really help,
I am confused what to do because I really do love her so much but I know I need to move on and try and be happy. I just feel I cant imagine myself with anybody else and think about her every minute of the day :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Hey,
I know this is a terrible answer, and I would hate hearing this as advice... but it's worked before, so, just give it some time. Whenever you find yourself wanting, just remind yourself that she hasn't returned the love you've given her. I'm all for second chances, but she sorta seems like she's taking advantage of you. Be strong, man.
Peace
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reader, Sarah2485 +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Be strong! Please dont contact her.. you deserve better.. concentrate on doing something you enjoy keep your mind off it! x
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