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26-29,
anonymous
writes:things have been a rollercoaster between my ex and I. We've been messaging flirty for a week then an argument for a week then the cycle repeats itself. I find myself to be caring more than he does. We then decided to stop flirting and be friends, thinking that we could hold a simple conversation but no, he has ignored me constantly. As i was confused i messaged him and he said he thought it would help me. We then agreed it would be nice to sort things out once and for all and talk about it. Then, he decided he didn't want to talk about it but just forget it. He's hurt me so much and i can't forget it. Now, hes told me he wants me out of his life, im not worth shit to him and he can't wait to never see me again. I know i should just forget it but we're in the same friendship group and because of my problems within myself (constantly worrying and crying and getting upset for little reasons) which i only told him about , its become apparent that i still care. Thanks for any help
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 January 2016):
 I think he can see that you need a bit more time than him to heal from this relationship, therefore he is saying he wants nothing to do with you so you will get over him.
You need distance, you can't just be friends with an ex there are two many feelings there.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (6 January 2016):
You simply need to get away from him for a while. When you break-up it's important to actually break up and give each other some space so you can both heal. Stay away from him as much as you can for a few weeks and it will get better. Don't see him at all if you can.You will always feel something for the other person when you break up, so don't worry about that. That's why you need time away from each other. You can tell your close friends what's happening as how you feel. Don't worry about it getting back to him, as I'm sure he'll be content that you're understanding now what's needed, and taking the proper action.As for his lashing out, he might have felt cramped, so again the space will help heal. You can get through this. Simply ask a few of your close friends to spend some time with you and let them understand you don't want to see him for a while. Time heals all wounds. You can make this.
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