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writes:Here's the Story.I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls.Her sister is in alot better shape then my gf and she has a biger brest size but the age game is far to big. But it turned out that My self and my gf's sister ended up meeting up and we started to fool around. Only hand I havnt touched her she did the touching.My Girlfridn found out by reading her sisters text and fliped out, I managed to fix things and keep my girlfriend and I am still with her.but few months ago I open up to my gf and told her i was bored and we started to have an open relasonship and I was aloud to have a girl on the side(no crazy sex just fourplay) Turns out It was her younger sister that was the side girl. untill she admited to loving me to my girlfriendNo everything is over and I am still With my girlfriend but I find my self still looking at girls that are in better shape but i know it's hard to find a good girl as her, She wants to settle down she alrady has a kid(thats some other guys) and I dont want kids I still want to be out enjoying life...What should I Do?! Pleae help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): First of all if she treats you great, why repay her by hurting her and betraying her? Especially with her sister, May I also ask the age gap? I think this girl deserves much better if she treats you amazing and wants to settle down with you, but you just want some young thin girls, and you expect them to treat you like gold. Im sorry hun but it's not going to happen. Just let her go and live her life, why hold her back and feed her false hopes. Its not fair. All in all, you either need to take a step back and look at yourself and ask is this worth it? Will I be happy? Who am I hurting.
Hope this helps you out.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (9 October 2012):
 Aside of that, there is no *insight* to be gained here. You either both want the same thing in life or you don't. The two of you do not, so be true to yourself, let her be true to herself, and leave. You know that is the proper thing to do, or you would not have asked the question.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 October 2012):
Yes, he definitely needs help, but he also says that she is ready to settle down and he isn't. She also wants kids (and has one already) and he doesn't. He still wants to be out enjoying life. My comment still stands. Tell her it's over, so that you can go out and enjoy life. If that is more important to you than having a "good girl" then that is what you need to do. I am not sure why this question is such a difficult one.
Also, I think it is still helpful to call people out when they have issues. Some people simply do not see the error in their ways/logic...and they need to.
It is what it is ...so now you need to decide what is more important to you. It's makes us no difference what you do. It seems to me like you aren't going to be happy living life with a "good girl" as you haven't been so far already.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 October 2012):
 sorry, OP or whomever you are, but ..is the word " ethics " familiar to you ?...
There are some things that are just a very bad idea, for everybody : male or female, young or old, single or married. One of this is screwing your partner's sibling , in most civilized societies , including the one you supposedly belong to , that's is an absolute no-no that will necessarily elicit negative reactions. If you expected congrats and pats on your back, well,..review your expectations.
If you get her to go to the gym and get a killer body, that's nice, but will that un-fuck the sister(s) that you have already fucked ? No. Your gf will get a killer body , AND a cheating amoral boyfriend that is capable of extreme betrayal.
She's better off with a few pounds of fat more,... and a callous cheating boyfriend less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionModNote: It appears that the Original Poster may be demonstrating some insight by suggesting things he could do to imporove the situation? Perhaps the OP can explain this? Woah, First off I'll deal with the Question in a second, But to the people have already commented on this. For starter's this is To HELP people not tear them down. He is looking for help not to be told what he know/thinks he already is. He does seem to think of his Girlfriend but not enough, So push him to fix it, Dont get on here and decided that because most are all female and most of you most likly have been cheated on rip in to this guy becuase of your past problems, Help him dont tear him down and juge him!As for the question: You have a girl that treats you good, and because you like smaller women why dont you and her join a gym. You seem to be the kind of guy who works out and wants to be fit anyways(by how you pulled this off you must have something going for you)You have something good, Make it better, What dont tear you apart makes you stronger. You and her join a gym or get more of a work out, try cooking in home insead of going out to eat. Think smarter and live healthy, You'll see the change and as for the sister(s) STOP! I'm sure from all the females in here you get the hint...
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Goodness gracious, your poor girlfriend. Like Cindy says, she's got boyfriend who would hook up with her sister(s), and sisters who would hook up with her boyfriend! I hope she's got some friends she can trust, because she definitely can't trust her family or the guy who is supposed to love her!
Do her the favor. I can't understand why she's staying with someone who is repeatedly disrespecting her and betraying her with her own family. She needs to have the opportunity to find a guy who loves her and her curves.
As for you, you shouldn't be in a relationship that bores you, or that drives you to cheat. You need to go find this skinny girl who can satisfy your desires and not bore you. I think it will be better for your relationship if she happens to be an only child.
Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (8 October 2012):
Poor girl. Double whammy. She has a bad boyfriend and also a bad sister ( or sisters ).
Let her go. Let her be. She deserves some peace of mind and to be shown some respect.
You are not the one to give her either, so just break up and go chase skinny girls, there are plenty around.
Do it , if nothing else, out of gratitude for having being treated like gold in these past two years. She deserves that you finally do something good for her in change- and this good thing is stopping humiliating her and setting her free.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Congratulations!
You have learned at a very tender age how to use women, be judgemental and manipulative and also learned how to be a successful cheat and liar.
You got a long life ahead of you my dear and you are going to be destroying a lot of lives and creating a lot of distress and drama...best get busy...the life of an disgusting asshole awaits you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 October 2012):
 What's worse than cheating?
You may think that nothing is, but there's a list of things that even break man-law when it comes to cheating.
1. Cheating on your pregnant wife/girlfriend
2. Cheating on your girl who has a terminal illness
3. Cheating with your best friend's girl
4. Cheating with your girl's sister
5. Cheating with your girlfriend's best friend.
You did a despicable act going for her sister.
You're also full of crap, because if you were bored, you'd leave your girlfriend, obviously freeing her to find a man who will actually treat her like she deserves instead of you.
If there's any heart left in you, let this poor woman go. You've done too much damage already.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (8 October 2012):
If you are looking at other girls and wanting to be with other girls, then do your girlfriend a favor and break up with her. She deserves a man who wants her and only her.
Honestly, what guy asks for an open relationship and then does his girlfriend's sister? A dog, that is who. Sorry to be so blunt, but if you want to screw around...then go screw around. Don't destroy other peoples' lives in the process.
As for girls in better shape than your girlfriend, how about you? Are you physically fit and buff? 6 feet 4 and bulging muscles? I bet you are. You'd better hope that one of these skinny chicks who like open relationships is willing to put up with you. I don't know many who would. Good luck!
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (8 October 2012):
 I know she treats you like gold, but this is not something you value, you value excitement, thrill of the chase and young thin bodies. I don't think you can have the cake and eat it too. She might agree to an open relationship right now but this is contradictory to her saying earlier she wanted to settle down. Leave the sisters alone. Live your youth at the same time not hurting anybody. Never promise a relationship in order to get sex only to get bored later. It's not hard to find a girl that good. You have to be just as good meaning no flirting no cheating behind your woman.
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reader, Confused_123 +, writes (8 October 2012):
Urgh. End it. You can't stay with someone because it's "hard to find someone that nice". Don't settle, she deserves to be with someone who actually wants to be with her, not someone to fools around with her sister and is only staying with them because they're worried they can't find better.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but it's true. You should break it off with her, for both your sakes.
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