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writes:Its been almost a year since me and my ex broke up ... He double timed and after knowing that i broke up with him .. He is constantly appologising and asking me to come back but i never forgave him... But yesterday he texted me that he attempted suicide... I tried to settle him down but he wouldnt... Then i called him and i had to tell him that i would give him a second chance to settle him down.. But honestly i dont want to give him another chance .... My board exams are in a week and my mind is messed up and depressed with this thing and i havent been able to study .. Please help me out
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 May 2014):
 Wow, he is NOT right in emotionally blackmailing you.
Tell him YOU need to focus on your studies and then STOP talking to him.
He don't think he will kill himself (but you can never be to sure) IF you seriously think he might, you SHOULD contact his family so THEY can deal with it. IT IS NOT your responsibility to "save" him from himself.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 May 2014):
 He's being a blackmailing manipulative EX boyfriend.
YOU owe him nothing and he is just trying to get you to do what he wants and does not CARE about you.
It's not your fault or problem if he harms himself. I would tell him that you are not able to be friends with him and you do not wish him to contact you and that if he says he is going to harm himself you will tell the authorities.
Then block his info and move on. It's hard to avoid all this drama at your age but it's worth learning not to be manipulated by others.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 May 2014):
 You're in Nepal, so I don't know the laws of your country, but here in the US, if someone tells you that they either attempted suicide, or they tell you they are GOING to, you are responsible and can be held liable if you do not notify the authorities that he is a danger to himself.
He is NOT your problem. I say this because I DID have an ex commit suicide after I rejected him. He didn't tell me he was going to, but he was acting manic and I should have picked up on it. But I do not feel guilty, as his decision was his alone. Likewise, your ex's decision is his alone.
What I suggest you do is notify the authorities now, plus his mom or dad or guardian - whoever that is if he's your age. THEN, tell him that you aren't getting back with him, and that you need to move on and he needs to get help.
As for you, he is your EX, not your boyfriend. Why are his decisions causing you to get upset?? You aren't his therapist, and like the anon said, he IS a manipulative jerk. Tell him you said what you said because you thought he'd kill himself, but you aren't taking him back, and that since he stated that he tried to kill himself, you are calling the authorities because he's a danger to himself or others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2014): Your ex is being a manipulative jerk. Even if he is depressed, there's no reason for him to be using his self-destructiveness to get you to give him a second chance. Don't let him play with your mind and emotions. I think you should tell him that you only agreed to give him a second chance because you were scared and wanted to calm him down. Then make it clear to him that you have no intention to go out with him again and if he continues to contact you and claim that he has attempted suicide or will attempt it again, you will have to call the cops on him.
You need to be firm with him and don't be afraid to bring the authorities into the situation.
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