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writes:I've met this girl who I think likes me. Infact, her actions suggest she certianly does. We've had 3 dates so far, and have talked a lot on msn inbetween. At the end of the third date she invited me for coffee and we held hands walking to her place. I asked to see her again next week, she said yes, then a couple of days ago she said that next week was too long away so we agreed to meet up inbetween as well. All good signs I know!Trouble is, I can't seem to accept that she likes me, and that it is going well and that maybe one day we might be a couple. I want that more than anything. My last ex messed me around quite a lot, and since then I have gone through about 20 rubbish dates... But now that I've met this one, I have totally fallen for her. I get depressed when I don't hear from her, I wonder when I will next hear from her. I get anxious and end up getting confused. I am clearly over thinking all this aren't I? I would never let her know any of this, I keep it very much to myself. I just wondered if this is normal?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 It is good that you have met a nice girl.
And I do hope it works out really well for you. Try to relax and curb your over-anxious tendencies. Because a relaxed confident person, who is at peace with themselves, is much more loveable. And more fun to be with in the long term.
But it's no OK to focus too much at this early stage. You need other things in your life. You'll have more to occupy your mind, and more experiences to talk about
Perhaps try to distract yourself with physical activities. Cycling, gym. Or best of all yoga as yoga will give you relaxation techniques and physical activity.
Try too not to make her too big a focus of your day.
Take it slowly, and enjoy good times with her. It does sound like she likes you. Enjoy!
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (11 January 2011):
You are over thinking and need to chill out and go with the flow.
You obviously have feelings for her because when you don't hear from her you 'get depressed' which to me is a sign you want to speak to her and be with her and from what you say she wants the same as she brought forward meeting up with you as a week was too long to wait.
Accept that she likes you and enjoy it otherwise you could risk blowing it.
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