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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I recently broke up. The reason we broke up is because I found out he had stolen some money from my roommate. He is a person I believed would never do this but obviously he did. He says it is because he felt like he wasn't providing enough for me and saw it and took it to help get groceries. I also found out that he lied to me about a job interview. I still care for him a lot and he says he does for me also. I believe he was in a tough position and made a bad choice. I also believe everyone deserves a second chance but I am unsure as to if I should give him one. I am just wondering what an outsiders look on this would be. Should I take him back?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 What do I think of a person who thinks other people's money is free to take without asking? He is a thief. Who stole from a friend of yours! When he knew that he would cause bad blood between you and your roomate, and he did this anyways, so he doesn't seem to care how other people feel in general. And he has lied, as Emilysanswers said, twice now. So, unless you like dating liars and thieves, I would not take him back, No. Glossing over the entire reason and making an good excuse for bad behavior also screams out that he is cowardly and manipulative too. He didn't apologize, accept the blame or take responsibility for his own actions. He's a poor excuse for dating material and a bad bet for a boyfriend. Ask yourself if YOU have ever done the things that HE has done. I'll bet that you probably haven't (or you would be so bothered by it and writing in to us). He's old enough to know right from wrong at his age, and if he doesn't, you can't be expected to have to teach him, cure him or fix him. Sorry, but you are NOT his mother and you can't change other people. Find a new guy who actually has values, morals and hopefully, a job. Good Luck.
"When people SHOW you who the are, Believe them the first time."
- Maya Angelou (This is Oprah's Favorite Quote)
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 November 2008):
He hasn't lied once he's lied twice to you.
If he is that insecure that he is willing to risk serious trouble just to buy you groceries what else is he going to do?
I think people do deserve second chances but you don't necessarily have to go out with him to do that.
Don't call the police and remain friends for a while.
Good Luck!! xx
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