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writes:im close friends with a guy, we've nown each other 2 years and ive helped him out of loads of difficulties. i like him a lot and recently mentioned to him the possibility of dating. he said he would date me but the friendship would be ruined if it went wrong. anyway since then hes distanced himself from me. hes become very arrogant and also is lying to me saying hes dating a model off of facebook. my confidence has drained and he knows this. i come accross as all weak and insecure now which i hate. whenever we talk on the phone he keeps telling me shes there and always looks for a reaction from me. i dont understand why hes doing this. i accepted what he said and have been a really good friend to him so why is he lying and what can i do to show him im not bothered pls help !he knows i like him and i think likes the face im always here for him but it hurts that hes changed so much pls help
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (6 June 2011):
Sounds like it would be good for your friendship if you create a bit of distance and spend your time on other people, perhaps seeing if you can date someone else. Maybe your friendship with this guy can then go back to the way it was before you suggested dating.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 How do you know he's lying about the model?
Listen to his words, "He would date me but the friendship would be ruined if it went wrong". That's a nice way of him saying he's not interested in you that way.
Wouldn't you think he would have asked you out if he actually liked you?
If I were you I would let this friendship go, it's gotten pretty awkward for you both. There's really no going back. Plus if you still continued to be friends, it would do you more harm than good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): He's doing this because he doesn't like you as more than just a friend. He's finding every outrageous excuse in the book to not have to date you so he doesn't have to tell you that he doesn't like you that way.
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