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writes:I am still a virgin so I have no knowledge of such things, but it seems to me that If I had sex with the same girl all the time then things would get very boring, kind of like watching the same movie over and over and over again. Assuming that neither of them is cheating, how do couples not get bored of having sex with the same person?
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reader, devont  +, writes (15 May 2015):
 Sex is very personal, so this is my personal viewpoint. I would say sex with the same person is not like watching the same movie again and again, more like watching episodes of your favourite tv series - following the same plot and with the same characters, but different each time and still enjoyable. Sex isn't just about penetration, it's about the foreplay and enjoying pleasure with someone else. You have to make a choice not to get bored. You can't get complacent and need to make an effort every now and again, with a different position, a different place, or whatever. All of the above is assuming you are sexually compatible to begin with - you can't want to roleplay every night when all your partner wants is someone to stroke their back on a the third Monday of the month. One or both of you will get bored very quickly. You don't have to be into exactly the same things, but you need to be with someone you can compromise with, someone you are in sync with, someone you ENJOY having sex with to begin with.I hope maybe that's cleared it up a tiny bit!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 May 2015):
 This you'll find out once you fall in love.
But until then, think about it this way. You have a mother, right? Do you get tired of having the same mother every day? Would you like to have a new mom each and every day? No? That's because you as a human form an attachment to other humans. They're not objects, they're not toys you merely play with. You form an attachment, you care, you bond and connect. Sex becomes a way to be close, to be intimate, strengthening that bond between you and your lover. So that love grows deeper, and becomes more fulfilling.
Sure, right now you're raged by hormones and all you can think about is humpety hump, but as the need to plant your seeds is reduced to more normal levels, you will understand this better. You will come to find that you have a need to connect with another human being, and that sex is merely a part of this connection, and not an end goal. You will want to have stability, safety, care and love. When you fall in love you will also not be able to imagine ever being with anyone else, as the person you love becomes the most important person in your life, even more important than yourself, and you find pleasure in pleasing them.
But do not worry about these things, you will discover them, experience them, and find out on your own.
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