A
male
age
30-35,
*ntPain
writes:I broke up with my girlfriend of 18 months last tuesday. Overall i have taken it fairly well and not been very upset about the whole thing.However, im having some trouble with dealing with the fact she's already got another guy put love hearts all over her wall on facebook and her saying love matt on msn etc.Any tips on how to get over these old feelings of jealousy? or do i just need to wait until they disappear by themselves?
View related questions:
broke up, facebook, jealous, msn, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Firstly, looking at her profile won't help you move on so i suggest stopping that. Secondly, it's going to take time to get over your feelings for her so i suggest you find other things to do rather than checking up on her.
If you feel like you can't totally remover her from facebook, then at least change your settings so you don't see her updates, photos etc...
Do other things with your time now that you're single. Go out with friends more, study harder, get another hobby, anything to take your mind off her.
A
male
reader, kenny + ♥, writes (9 January 2011):
 I always say that time is the healer of all things, and this will get easier for you, most certainly. You only broke up with her last Tuesday, and she is with someone already, sounds like a re-bound to me, and in my experience re-bounds don't tend to last.
This is one of the reasons im not a huge fan of social networking sites, such as facebook. Because you are with someone when things are good, and you add them as friends, and their freinds too and when you split up you have to go through the pain of seeing stuff on their wall from their next relationship. If you want to forget about her delete her from your account, ditch her phone number and email to your not tempted to call, and any other memorabilia that remind you of her. As i said in the beginning just give it time and things will get easier.
Good luck
...............................
A
female
reader, Jen1689  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 For one, I wouldn't be jealous of anything she's written about this boy. He's obviously a rebound for her, and if she's already posting things like that all over for the world to see, she's wanting to appear as though she's moved on. That's the whole point. She's probably TRYING to make you jealous. It's a pretty immature thing to do, in my opinion. I wouldn't do something like that if I were truly over someone. It wouldn't be their business.
As far as the feelings of jealousy, just leave it be. Realize that she's probably just doing all of this to get your attention, and that you're still okay and probably better off without her. You two broke up for a reason, and that reason will still be there whether she's really over you or not. Just let the past be the past and move on.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Sounds to me like it's a rebound thing. Either that or she didn't care for you too much, how could somebody get over an 18 month relationship that fast and find "love" the next week?
Maybe she is trying to make you jealous or something? Who knows, maybe she could over you already (However, I doubt that).
Of course, it will take time to fully get over it, but you broke up with her, so you obviously didn't want to be with her.
Anyways, good luck mate.
...............................
|
