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writes:How do I get my prude girlfriend to do shit with me?!We have been dating for a few weeks and we have only made out. I try to feel her up and she just stops me. how can i seduce/persuade her to let me finger her or give me dome!? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 October 2012):
 Wow... You sound like if you don't start GROWING UP that you will be a lonely dude in the future.
No one wants to date a DOUCHEBAG!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (9 October 2012):
 Be very very very patient.
Show her that you care about her.
Show her that you're not just with her for sex, that it's about her personality and companionship.
Show her that you have willpower.
Show her that you respect her.
Take the time to get to know her, listen to her, pay attention to her emotions.
If you can manage all that, she's highly likely to 'put out'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2012): Break up with her and find someone who likes to move as fast as you do. That's about the only thing you can do. Pressuring her is only going to push her away, anyhow.
I just have one more thing to add, though. I think it's unfair how some guys will call a girl a "prude" if she won't do anything with him, but you can bet if she DID do stuff with him, then he would say she's a slut. It seems us girls can't win.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (9 October 2012):
 While I completely disagree with some comments here (women deserve to have whatever sex they want with whomever they want, period, and we're no one to condemn her for using her own body the way she wants.) I think that you are not compatible with her.There's nothing wrong with wanting sex. But consent is critical for the health of your relationship. She is not consenting to sex with you. So stop asking. Respect her boundaries, period, because men that don't respect boundaries end up coercing girls into "gray-area rape". CONSENT IS CRITICAL. She is not consenting, so back off. If you can't handle not having sex, you need to find a new girl who WILL sleep with you. Just as you are entitled to want sex, your girlfriend is entitled to NOT want sex. You can find someone who will be compatible with you. DO NOT PUSH BOUNDARIES, don't disrespect a "no". Men that do that feel that their desire to have sex is "better" than the woman's desire to NOT have sex.
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reader, crummyscreenname  +, writes (9 October 2012):
Break up with her. She deserves someone better than you.If all you want is sex, go hire a prostitute. Don't disrespect girls by dating them and pretending to care about them, then calling them "prude" behind their back and trying to find ways to make her do something sexual. Don't be so selfish. If you really cared about this girl, you'd be willing to wait. This attitude is a huge turn-off.Also, you've only been dating a few weeks and you expect her to let you touch her? Gross. I don't even kiss a guy until I've dated a long time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Cripes!!!! When I was your age I was still awaiting the next day's installment of "Spin & Marty" on the Mickey Mouse Club.... WHAT has happened in the intervening 50-odd years????????
I trust you WILL let this girl get away without being one of your conquests..... SHE doesn't deserve to be another one of your triumphs.....
Please send a note in to this site when you grow up.... and tell us how it feels to be a gentleman.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): She's quite obviously not the one for you is she? Dump her, save yourself getting dumped. I'm pretty sure you can pay girls to do this kind of thing, I am right aren't I?My daughter dated a guy like you when she was 15, and after a week, he tried to force her into sex. However, after a week he still didn't know she's a black belt and instructor in several martial arts. She defended herself, rang the police and now he's in prison. Says a lot doesn't it? I can tell you I'd never been prouder of her! My daughter is now 20, and engaged to a lovely man. He's such a gentleman, and knows she wont take any shit from him, (not that he'll give her any). She told me she only lost her virginity to him last year, and they'd been together for two years. If this girl's a virgin, she wont want to lose it to a random dude shes been dating for less than a month. But yourself in a girls shoes
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 October 2012):
 you should dump her because she won't put out for you....
(do the girl a favor and leave her... she's not the girl for you go find some slutty girl to put out for you)
why in the world at 16/17 (and btw how old is she?) would you expect a girl to be sexual with you after a few weeks?
you are lucky that when you try to do something against her will (feel her up)P all she does is stop you... if it was me or my daughter you'd either get decked or hit somewhere else (trust me a hit in the jaw would hurt you less than what I would do to you)
do you know what they call boys who force girls to be sexual?
RAPISTS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): It would surprise me if she continues to see you for much longer.We're not going to give you TIPS on how to make your girlfriend do something she doesnt want to do. Have some respect for her. Oh and also, in the USA the legal consent for any sexual activity be it intercourse or just "fingering" to put it so horrifically, in some states is 18. You are underage, and if you are older than her and push her into doing something like this, and she tells someone, it will be classed as RAPE and you will be put on a register or jailed. Is this worth ruining your entire future for?It doesn't even matter if you are of age, if she doesn't want to do it, you will be in big trouble.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Well first off you can start by actually having patience and waiting, a couple of weeks and you feel that you should be allowed free access to her? That is not the way it works, yes I realise you are a teenage guy and your hormones are probably running wild, but it takes time and a trust for woman to allow a guy to become intimate with her. You need to work on building trust and making sure that she is comfortable with everything that is happening in the relationship, talk to her and see how it goes but don't put any pressure on her.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Why is she prude, why aren't you pushy and overly aggressive? She's not ready, stop pushing her. She probably senses you only care about "getting some" and not about actually being with her, why would she go further? P.S. Coercing someone into sexual activity they don't want is sexual assault.
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