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writes:I split up with my boyfriend because I found him on a dating site. He keeps saying he was set up, he deleted the account and it actually says closed by user so there's 100% proof he did it. He got nasty and said I'd set it up or my friends or sister did, just called me a slag and everything else he could think of. Well I decided to go on this site as he obviously didn't care much about me so thought why not! He found out and text me calling me lazy, ugly, fat, lousy in bed. Which was nice although when we were together I was pretty, had a nice body, good in bed according to him. He really hurt me that he would lie about what he did, blame me and call me all these really horrible things. I was a bit drunk and text him saying I was on a date. I feel just terrible about it cos I would of hated him to do it to me. But he's just being awful, he's threatened to post naked pictures of me on the internet, he's going round telling everyone I'm a bitch, he leaves nasty voicemail and I don't know what to do. I'm terrified he's going to post this stuff. Is it illegal to do that anyway? I've made everything worse by saying I was on a date, I don't know what I was thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): Hi, there! I know exactly how it feels. next time be careful. Since you know how ugly things can be with him when you fight, i hope you'll be smart enough to NEVER EVER get back with him.No matter how beautiful or serious sorry he might be to beg your forgiveness. PLS. forget him.. Threatening posting your naked pictures online is the worst thing to say to someone you used to care for. I mean at one point and time, he must have loved and crazy about you. Now, his turning into this monster, out of nowhere.Here's what you need to do:1. Ignore him. 2. If he don't stop, report him to the authority, I'm sure that's enough for him to stop. Unless his crazy and no dignity at all.3. Don't talk to him, again..4. Most of all, LOVE YOURSELF. Be strong..You deserve better than this.. Good luck..
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 I have to agree with Aunt Honesty. NEVER let people take naked photos of you. I don't care how much you love the guy (or girl in some cases) at the time, naked pictures can and will come back to haunt you. Remember that if pics like this ever are posted and future boyfriends or employers see them...you could be screwed.
What you do is that you block him from all of your accounts, from email, from texting, from the phone, etc. You do not communicate with him. You fuel his fire and allow him to control you when you respond to him. He knows this. He also knows the more outrageous he gets...the more ticked off you get. Hence, controlling you even more. Do not talk to him and don't see him. If you do, you will just cause more problems for yourself.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Problem is that you let him take the pics in the first place. I know it is probably not what you want to hear, but when we are in relationships, we tend to allow ourselves to do things we normally would not do(i.e. having a BF take nude pics). You are not the first one that has happened to, and it won't be the last. I would just chalk it up to a bit of experience and be wary in the future in your relationships if anyone wants to do any impromptu photoshoots... just say no...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 I'm afraid it is not illegal no, sometimes that is why it is best never to let someone take naked photo's off you as this is what can happen, however my guess is that he is just threatening to do this, am sure he won't actually go through with this. There is a thin line between love and hate, and my guess is that he is hurting over the end of the relationship and that is why he is being so horrible towards you as he wants you to feel bad as well.
My advice to you would be to just ignore him from now on, don't write back to his messages don't respond to rumours that he is talking about you, just ignore him and soon he will get fed up. I have to agree that it was not the smartest thing to do sending him that message as it has only wound him up more, but it is done now and a lesson to be learned not to try and rub his nose in it. Yes he did do wrong setting up a dating profile so now the best thing you can do is to move forward with your life and ignore any contact from him at all.
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