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writes:I need to get over this guy that i've liked for quite a while.He has a gf so i need to get over him. Any tips on how to get over him.Should i not hang round with him anymore even though he's a great friend, or should I still be friends with him??XxX Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou sooo much for everyones help,
To dear kelja, thankyou and i will try not to hang around him as often ad our group of friend dnt really mix ne way.
To anonymous, i absolutly love ur advice, im going to get stuck inot learning guitar which i ahve been putting off.
To askeve, im going to reduce the amount of time i spend with him to just when i see him in lessons, thanks.
To baby girl, im glad that i have someone else wu is going through the same thing, i appreciate your help.
To waterloo sunset, thankyou for the advice, but i dont hang around with him and his gf anyway, i doupt she even knows hu i am tbh, thanks for the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Why do you have to hang around with him anyway? If he has a gf you must look like a gooseberry. Just gradually move away from him and get a circle of friends that doesnt include him. You need to put him to the back of your mind, he isnt single so keep away. If you want to remain friends with him then that is up to you, but that isnt always an ideal situation.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Hi Hunni,I could have wrote this letter myself because I am going through the exact thing as you. I am getting over him though and it just takes time. What I am doing is that when I find myself thinking about him, and I block him out. It has helped that he isn't showing an interest in him anymore.If this guy is a friend then don't ignore him just don't look at him as a potential bf. You will get over him soon. I thought I'd never get over the guy I liked but I am! Good luck x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 November 2007):
 If you continue to hang around with him you're only feeding your feelings for him. The best thing would be to steer clear of him in the meantime. Let him look for YOU and he may well do that. Absence makes the heart grow fonder so don't give up hope here.
In the meantime here's some links that might help you to get over someone you like.
http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-the-Boy-Who-Knows-You-Like-Him
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Guy
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Guy-You-Liked
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): this was me two weeks ago. I liked a girl so badly for ages. I asked her out but she had a bf. I needed to get over her. I tryed continuing being friends and acting as if nothing happened but it was so fruitless. The fact is that it was different and nothing could be done about it. It really did just compound the pain being around her and knowing that i couldn't have her. I recommend no longer being friends because it just hurts too badly. You may not hurt as much but i did and i will swear it was like torture. Try distracting yourself so you no longer think about him. Set yourself a goal and work at it or get a new hobby or anything really to take your mind off him. Eventually this should work. That is what i have been told and i think it will. I am currently doing my own advice. I have taken up archery as a hobby and i am trying to achieve any targets i set myself. Although i have only been doing this a few days, it seems to have an effect.
Good luck and post a comment if my advice helped.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 If it is not possible to appreciate your friendship for what it is then maybe you should not hang around him until you are "over" him? The trouble with you still liking him and being near him is that you won't give yourself the time off that you need to heal and move on. You are actually preventing yourself from finding someone who is available to you. It may be hard to do but maybe some time off is just what you need to move past it. You can still be friendly, etc because maybe when you've moved on the two of you can still be friends. Take care.
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