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writes:Ok so I was with a Guy for a year..its been to rocky but recently I started thinking he was talking to other girls through texts an Facebook so I ended it after a few lies N things I found an he was keeping his phone on him an getting texted late which he said as a friend so anyway I ended it an we didn't speak for a week..I had to get a letter from his dad for business reasons N he for no reason told me he was so of course I was upset an shocked he told me she was better sexier nicer an he was so happy with her..after a week? Then I found out she's 21 ..wow didn't see that coming..but I dtried telling him I was t even though I didn't want him back..I was sohurt he's 39 years old..she could be his daughter ..he was so mean an doesn't seem to care an I'm trying to not think about it but I am an I dream About It its bothering me..how could he move o. So quick? We had a great sex life..I don't get It..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): well that 21 year old new girlfriend will probably dump him for a guy closer to her own age sooner or later. she'll want a guy her own age who will have more in common with her because they're at the same life stage, or will be hotter cos he's younger, or who can go clubbing with her and to college parties and not stick out like a sore thumb.
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reader, Martinizum +, writes (5 April 2012):
Martinizum is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for advice I know he must have been talking to her before we ended since he was out drinking that Wednesday an I he dropped condoms out of his jacket pocket that Saturday an he denied talking to anyone but that Sunday he's on Facebook looking at a half naked girl an that's when I asked him what he was looking at an he said it was a tattoo websitean if I wanted to see I say yes an that's when he changed his story to its his roommates girlfriends friends Facebook page..so I told him to leave a week later he's saying he's happy with his new girlfriend ..so I don't know first Guy who has met my boys in 3 years since their dad I usually don't let my Boys meet anyone but his age an he has two housing thought why not..ha everyone's right I deserve better ..thanks again.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 April 2012):
 He left the relationship a LONG time ago that is why he has "moved" on so fast. Also, it's not uncommon for people to JUMP the first available person of the opposite sex and start a relationship in order to "get over" an ex.
As for him dating a girl half his age, well obviously he can't handle;e one his own age, they are "too demanding" or "too serious" or just too smart for him. A 21 year old is easier to deal with ( no offense to the younger ladies).
Count your blessings.. You didn't "lose" a great guy you got rid of a tool.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 Some people can simply bounce from one relationship to the next without a care in the world, yes it is difficult to deal with but he clearly doesnt allow himself to get too emotionally attached in a relationship so he can move on very quickly.
He was obviously talking to other girls (or maybe just her) while you were together, so he had his back-up waiting in the wings for when your relationship ended. Hence why it was all so quick - she was ready and waiting for him when he became available.
You have had a lucky escape, he is a liar, and probably never really loved you - so at least you have got out of it sooner rather than later. Forget about him, he is a jerk and you can do better.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): He moved on so quick cos he had already been having a relationship with her before you broke up. Don't feel bad she'll probably leave him for a younger guy her own age sooner or later.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 He must not have felt the same way about the relationship as you. Don't try to figure out why it didn't work, just be glad that you are now free from him. He was mean to you, and didn't care about your feelings. You deserve much better than that.
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