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writes:Me and my boyfriend, we were planning to stay at the chalet for a few nights. we're going to share a bed but my parents were afraid that we would have sex. how can i persuade them? Reply to this Question
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 wat do you expect in all fairness? you, him, chalet, one bed=sex. to be honest i think if he is planning on taking you away for a few nites, then he thinks sex is on the cards. of course your parents dont trust you - i wouldnt either!! respect your parents - they are only looking out for you. if you are not going to have sex with him then dont spend a few nights alone in a double bed chalet. simple as
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I don't think this is going to happen for you.
And I think that if all you want to do is sleep next to him in the same bed, then this is NOT a safe situation for you to be in.
My parents were not comfortable with me sharing my bed with my boyfriend until I was 19 and had been going out with him for over a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I don't trust you either. Boyfriend, chalet and shared bed. Yea right. I hope they lock you up and keep you safe for a very long time. They're parents, they're not stupid you know.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I can guarantee you that if you're boyfriend is thinking he's sharing a bed with you for a few days, he's hoping to have sex. Your parents don't trust you because they know better (than you)...
If you don't want to have sex, then don't share a bed with him.
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reader, silvia{love}  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 i dont think there is a way out. you planin to sleep on the same bed with your boyfriend is actually givin your parent the impression that you are going to have sex with each other because there is no way you can convince them that you aint gona have sex. i think the best way is to sleep differently for the time being and act neutral maybe as time goes on they would larn to trust you with him.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I dont think you can and I wouldnt allow my 16 year old duaghter or my 14 old year son to share a bed at their age with their boyfriend of girlfriend. It would be very easy to be tempted and then you have all the legal implications of underage sex and possibly unplanned pregnancy to deal with.
Your parents are not being mean they are just being good parents x
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Sweetie, you are at the age when the hormones are rushing through your bodies and sex is on the mind almost constantly... your parents were once your age and they probably remember what it was like to be horney... My suggestion to you is for you to rather listen to your parents and rather over time show them that you are mature enough to be trusted.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Well that all depends. ARE you planning to have sex with him? If so, your parents are right to be worried - you're too young to be bothering with all that stuff. Keep it PG for the time being.
And keep in mind that even if you're not planning to have sex, sharing a bed may not be the best way to fight temptation. Perhaps you should just agree with your folks instead of trying to persuade them.
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