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writes:Why is it that I feel more alone over the holidays? I have family and friends, yet I long for the warmth of a man. I feel like I will never find a man and have that marriage I so long for. I'm 43 and never married. Something BTW, I always wanted. That bond, shared love and closeness that comes from your spouse. I feel like time is running out and I will be a lonely old maid forever. Why is this the path that has been chosen for me? What have I done wrong? I'm feeling so blue this holiday season..... Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (28 December 2012):
It’s just bad luck. Honestly that might sound like a bit of an unhelpful answer but often that’s just how it is. I’ve lost count of the number of questions from both men and women in your age group and younger, they’ve always been single and they do all the right things: they have a wide social circle, they try always to find opportunities to meet new people and so-on yet still fail to find some-one. So, they ask, what more can I do?
Well obviously if you’re not doing those things, you should start doing them. I’d also suggest you have an open mind to on-line dating, which gets a totally unjustified bad press. Look around for a good site as there are some dreadful ones and some brilliant ones, and follow all safety advice, and you could find it a really rewarding experience. The best relationships often start with a great friendship. Do you have a lot of male friends? I’m just wondering whether you are confident around men. The reality is that even if you do all the right things, you’re talking about finding that one special some-one with whom to share your life in a loving relationship. Just one person out of everyone out there. No matter who you are, there’s always a big bit of good luck involved when you meet that one for you. You’ve just not had your good luck yet, and you’re by no means alone.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (28 December 2012):
You're not alone, for many people the holiday season is just a reminder that everybody else has found love and started a family to enjoy the season with.
Have you tried Internet dating?
Beating yourself up over this isn't going to help, just make your social life a priority and don't leave it up to chance.
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