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writes:Guys, here's a question for you.My boyfriend's ex, with whom he was in a 4 year relationship with, has had major plastic surgery on her face since they broke up nearly 3 years ago. She has a new chin, and most recently, a new nose, a la Michael Jackson. She wasn't very attractive before, something my boyfriend has acknowledged, though this didn't appear to affect their relationship. I'm wondering now that she's better looking (well, the nose is too narrow and pointy, in my opinion) if this could somehow renew his interest in her, even though the reasons they broke up had nothing to do with how she looked. I think I know the answer, but I want to hear what other guys would think if they faced a similar scenario. This girl looks completely different than she did when they dated, and is flaunting her new face all over facebook. What do guys think about plastic surgery in general?
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (22 June 2010):
Well her personality wouldnt have changed and the reason he broke up with her is probably still the same so only whats outside has changed she'll still be the same inside so no i dont think so
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Elective plastic surgery, in my opinion, is an extreme and temporary means of boosting one's self-confidence. This girl would've been better off spending thousands of dollars on psychotherapy rather than surgery. I mean, if she scrutinized both her chin and nose to the point of getting them "done," what will she focus her attention on next, and will this obsession with her looks ever end?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Your question about plastic surgery is too general. "Plastic surgery" can mean "what you do to help a person with severe burns". I am saying this just for the sake of clarification, and I'm not that stupid not to notice that you mean "Plastic surgery for merely cosmetic purposes".
Most of us men wouldn't go back to a woman just because she had her wrinkles ironed away. We're not that stupid.
I do find it interesting that you're obviously feeling insecure about your relationship with this man. I'm not sure your guy has even thought about her. Maybe he hasn't. But you have. Why is that?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Ah, okay. This is asked out of curiousity, not because you are feeling as though you may lose him to her, although you did verbalize some worry as to whether or not he would find renewed interest in her.
Did you ever notice when you got to know some people, that the way you perceived their looks changed? I mean, a really good looking guy turns out to be a selfish creep, and suddenly, he's not goodlooking to you any more? Or someone who was kinda okay looking, the more you got to know them, the more intriguing they were, the cooler they got and suddenly, they were truly attractive to you?
My guess is the nose won't change his fundamental appreciation of her character and attractiveness to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Imagine if your ex got a better face or figure or maybe some money.
It might make them look a bit more desirable. But it almost never would be enough to make you actually wanna break off a current relationship and get back with them when you otherwise would not have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is the author. You're reading into this too much. I'm not trying to tear her down, I've just never been put in this position before and was curious about what others might think. I mean, if my ex suddenly changed his face for the better, or grew another 4 inches I would be taken aback, but knowing myself, this wouldn't change the fact that I'm no longer interested in him. I can't read my boyfriend's mind, but I can assume that his non-feelings for her remain, despite the improvement in her appearance. Thanks.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 June 2010):
I'm not a guy but I know a few... I'd say most don't care so much if someone has had plastic surgery unless it is painfully obvious or it's turned that person into a freak show. As long as the outcome is acceptable and she looks good, my guess is that they would say, "why not?"
Now, as far as getting back together with her because she has a new nose, if he's that superficial, why would you be dating him? Aren't you selling your man a bit short?
I think this is more about your insecurity than her new nose. What's up with that? Tell us why you feel unsteady about the relationship and maybe we can give you the ego boost you need. Rather than tearing her down, let's build you up. Sound better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): Plastic surgery is pathetic there are people who cannot even afford to eat and people think that the way they look is a real problem?! Urgh, plastic surgery for purely aesthetic reasons isn't needed and people who get it really need to put there lives into perspective and grow up
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 June 2010):
I seriously doubt it would affect any decent man. There's more to them breaking up than her looks, and her having a new face won't change who she is inside. I doubt it will have an effect on him at all.
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