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writes:I'm 18 years old and I have been in a relationship for a month and 1/2 now. I am going to be leaving for college soon while my boyfriend is gonna be back home. He will be going to college soon after my freshmen year but we are going to be attending two different colleges. ughh, I'm not good with long distant relationships and quite frankly, I don't even know how they work so I don't want one. I try to explain this to him but he just wont take no for an answer. He's planning out our lives together and I'm only 18 yers old! I don't wanna limit myself to just one guy, I wanna see what else is out there for me. Should I leave him or should I stay? Reply to this Question
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reader, masterpo +, writes (21 June 2010):
long distance relationships are very hard. the only way to keep in contact is by phone, email, msn, or txt. unless the schools are going to be close to one another, you 2 wont see each other that much. say that you really love him but you just really cant take long distance relationships.
you really should stay friends with him though. and i suggest still try and stay in contact. you never know when one of might need the others help in the future(as a friend)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Leave him now and save both of you heartache. LDR's in college don't work. One of you will cheat. A month and a half is no where near enough time together to put yourself through that.
Break up with him. You'll both mature a lot over the next year. You'll understand more why your relationship would be doomed after a year of college.
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When I was a junior in HS I started dating a girl a year ahead of me. We decided to try to stay together when she went off to school. I'd go visit when I could, but it was hard because she was 8 hours away. She cheated on me. It hurt like hell then, but now, after having been through college, I understand. I was expecting way too much. All the freedom that will be new to you both, the parties, the temptations... Not to mention that you will actually have matured a lot after your first year, even if you don't do anything but party.
She tried explaining to me that she was in a different place after that first year. I didn't understand until I had experienced the same thing.
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reader, lautnerlove101 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 ok! what i think you should is tell your guy straight out tht u guys shuld try nd see other people.it sounds like he really likes you if he wants to be with you tht badly. i kno you said you dnt want a long distance and i agree completely. all they do is ruin your life trust me i kno. it also seems like you wanna chance to find yourself before settling down wit a guy,and thts great.do tht there is always gnna be more guys. i think you should leave him cus if yall were really ment to be then he'll be there later in ur life........hope i made it easier for you
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