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I'm 20, I have had my fair share of life experience and i'll always tell it like it is. I'm not a doctor so if you dont know what it is get it checked, i cant read peoples minds so if you dont know what a guy/girl is thinking dont ask me, ask them. All i can give is my opinion and advice i'm not a miracle worker.

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My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?

Q.   A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...

A.   24 May 2014: I'm sorry but i have to agree with everything CindyCares wrote. Again i'd suggest actually talking to her, not through text but face to face to get it sorted but if i was going out of my way to go to the hospital as a friend in need and then got ... (read in full...)

Shouldn't we get to know each other a bit more before we actually meet?

Q.   Hey fellow aunts and uncles, i started online dating about 6 months ago and i was a bit disappointed with it as it was always older men or creepy messages i got :( However this really cute guy messaged me, just the normal how are you?. We started ...

A.   19 September 2013: That was a bit of a mixed bag haha. Im still a bit unsure about meeting him but it might just be an anxious thing. I told him we could meet up this weekend and he told me to come up with something to do because he doesn't like to choose as its ... (read in full...)

I can't seem to figure out exactly what I'm holding onto with my 'virginity.

Q.   I am so confused as to how to view my virginity. I am 20 years old, female, live in London, UK. I would say I am pretty. Long black hair, light brown eyes, taller than average - 5'8, medium sized body. I have met guys in the past, but usuall...

A.   10 December 2012: Just to point out, if he "put the tip in" you are no longer a virgin.... (read in full...)

Is it odd that I can only contact my BF via facebook?

Q.   Is it strange that the only way i can contact/speak to my boyfriend in the evenings is via facebook? We've been together for 4 years. I dont think he is cheating but i dont understand it. When he gets home from work, he puts his phone away and d...

A.   27 September 2012: Are you listed "In a relationship with...." or just "In a relationship" because to me that could mean he's also "In a relationship" with other girls and telling them the same story. It sounds very odd, if you dont think he's cheating, then i have to ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him I'm a virgin? I want the first time to be special.

Q.   Hey everyone I am 23 years old and I am a virgin..I have never really had any serious real relationship,I have just french kissed 2 men that's it..I was just waiting for the right man..now i'm finally in a real relationship but my boyfriend doesn't ...

A.   12 September 2012: Wow some harsh answers! you should tell him you're a virgin as it will mean you can go at your own pace and you'll probably feel better the fact he knows. If he cares about you he'll be happy to go at a pace thats comfortable for you. You should ... (read in full...)

Do women look at men's butts?

Q.   Is it true that women look at mens butts like men look at theirs...!!??...

A.   26 August 2012: No i can say i have never felt the need to look at a guy's ass... (read in full...)

Pro's and con's of plastic surgery?

Q.   What are the pros and cons of plastic surgery? I have more than enough money and I'm thinking of getting liposuction in another country. I've done some research and they can perform it on me even though I'm not overwieght. I'm average but much ...

A.   9 August 2012: If you have more than enough money why would you go to another country to get it done? why not stay where you are and look around?... (read in full...)

Do girls masturbate?

Q.   hi i reacently talked to a good friend whos a girl and she addmited to me this got me wondering.... do other girls masturbate too?...

A.   27 July 2012: Yes of course we do... (read in full...)

I would really like your opinions on this.

Q.   This is not really a question, but just something I'd like people's thoughts on. So, lately I've been noticing on Facebook the emergence of a lot of those supposedly inspirational photos/quotes aimed at women about loving who you are, being ...

A.   13 July 2012: I absolutely agree, there is a lot of support out there for women who are different and dont look like the media portrays, me included, yet there is not much at all for guys. I personally have to say this though, i dont care for the "chiseled guy ... (read in full...)

How can I make him jealous on Facebook?

Q.   Im dating a guy and everything is going on well. The only problem is sometimes i don't feel like he loves me. So i have come up with a plan that is to make him jealous. I know it might sound silly but thats the only plan i can think of. He really ...

A.   26 June 2012: you could grow up and work on where your relationship needs work? or is that only sane people that do that?... (read in full...)

How do I uninvite a former friend to my wedding?

Q.   Hello everyone. I feel really down from time to time because of this. Right now I'm in a loving relationship, and I could not ask for anything more. He's the one for me, and I'm the one for him. There's no question about it. However, before h...

A.   3 April 2012: I absolutely love cerberus's answer but again would probably cause too much drama and you'd worry about what would be said i suggest going with what Wisdom said and just tell the truth that you've heard whats been said and that there should be no ... (read in full...)

Should I go on holiday without him?

Q.   hi i have a bit of a problem. i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are both 26 the thing is we planned to go abroad this summer for a week. But i would also like to go abroad with my girlfriend later on this year for 1 week. He thinks...

A.   30 March 2012: "I dont think i will now because its causing too many problems with us." Maybe you should really be thinking that if he loved you he wouldnt be so controlling and jealous and stop you from going away with your friend. Go on holiday have a great time ... (read in full...)

Virginity and being fingered

Q.   Am 17, been fingered b4, and am wondring......even after being fingered, is the hymen still in place??? Can you stil say u r a virgin?...

A.   19 March 2012: you are still a virgin for the love of god educate yourself on sex education... (read in full...)

Where can I meet people my own age to date?

Q.   Hi there, just a quick question, when people say to meet new friends they should take up new hobbies i was just wondering where these things take place, i started college and met some wonderful friends but was hoping to find people worth dating, ...

A.   17 February 2012: Hi there thank you for your answers they are all great. However in my local area there isnt really anything out there class wise, i enjoy singing but theres not really anything that promotes that either. I tried online dating but felt uncomfortable ... (read in full...)

Am I being scammed?

Q.   I need some advice or guidance with this problem.. I will explain the situation and why I feel worried now I met a Turkish man on Facebook (he is 37 and I am 35)and we have been talking for about 1 year 2 months. The conversations is...

A.   12 February 2012: From what ive read from your post it does seem as if something is going on, not with him and this girl but for your suspicions of being scammmed. I would trust your gut and if you think something is wrong then you need to stop talking to both of ... (read in full...)

After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?

Q.   Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...

A.   2 February 2012: well go then, tell her, leave her or stay. Dont keep updating on here go actually do something about it... (read in full...)

I feel guilty doing things my mother disapproves of, but should I?

Q.   Hi everyone, Over the past year, I have begun the process of "growing up". I'm getting ready to graduate from college, moving out of my mom's house, I've been applying for jobs, etc. In a few days, I'm leaving for a New Year's vacation with my ...

A.   2 January 2012: this is classic parent behaviour when their child is becoming an adult, its good she is supportive which shows she cares and wants you to be happy but she is just sad at the realisation that you want to be independent now. As you say you're not ... (read in full...)

Is this a relationship red flag?

Q.   Is it a red flag if a guy only seems interested in you when he is own his own i.e. when his guy friends arent there?...

A.   10 December 2011: I'm not in a relationship with him his guy friends are my best friends too, i didnt know if he was maybe just shy or as you say being someone he's not around one of us. Men.......so confusing haha... (read in full...)

He asked what turned me on, and is now avoiding sexual intercourse because of it!

Q.   Got a really strange question for you. My boyfriend has asked me over time what turns me on. He knows some things but recently he asked again and I finally told him one thing. Now he seems to be avoiding sex with me. I told him that I dont wa...

A.   9 December 2011: The poor guy you probably frightened the life out of him he asked you in the hope you would tell him your sexual fantasies not that you wanted a baby i'd have done the same if i were him... (read in full...)

Pill question?

Q.   Hi, I've tried finding out about this but nowhere seems to give me a concrete answer so thought I'd ask here! I take the contraceptive pill, I finished my pack on Sunday so this week is meant to be my period. Problem is, I'm meant to be staying over ...

A.   8 December 2011: no it wont do anything you've left it to late to "skip" a period you must take you're next packet starting on the next day so monday and not have a break to skip a period it will have no effect if you start now... (read in full...)

Girls, especially, do you think a guy being able to dance well is important to you?

Q.   I hate dancing. I mean REALLY HATE IT lol. Its embarrassing and boring. And everyone else loves it, which makes me feel awful for dissappointing my friends, and i just end up hating dancing even more. Thing is, i keep hearing about how impo...

A.   7 December 2011: It really doesnt matter, i think what matters is that if he cant dance he can at least have fun with it and have a laugh at his own expense which is always charming and funny at the same time... (read in full...)

The big question ... What do girls think when ....

Q.   What do girls think when they see a decent-looking guy with a fat, ugly girlfriend? What do they assume about him? I'm pretty sure that if a guy is seen with a hot girl, people think he must be something special. So is it the opposite if he's...

A.   4 December 2011: I would have to wonder why the guy would call his girlfriend fat and ugly in the first place as its so vile and disrespectful i'd say he was an arse and she deserves better, but if i did see a couple as you described them walking through the town i ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend went to the movies with another friend without me knowing!

Q.   Hello everyone, My boyfriend is 22 and am 20 we are doing long distance relationship,we are both going to different universities!I love him and he loves me.we have been together for a little over a year now! My boyfriend has a way of doing certain...

A.   24 October 2011: if you went out with one of your girl-friends for a movie and dinner it would just be an innocent chat and a catch up, if your boyfriend went out to watch a movie and grab something to eat it would be him meeting up with his friend so why is it only ... (read in full...)

Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?

Q.   Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...

A.   24 October 2011: I think most people men and women have to be attracted to someone, looks wise its not being shallow or vain its just natural to be attracted to your partner personality is what keeps a relationship and and going though you cant base a relationship ... (read in full...)

Help! Advice? Am I driving my daughter away? Am I being too controlling?

Q.   My daughter will be 21 on her next birthday. She is a high achiever but also could be a handful at times. From the ages from 16 to 18 she was out a lot, yes she was doing her A levels, part time job and cared for her horse. She also did go out with...

A.   5 October 2011: I think if you were my mum i'd have either left by now or went completely insane you cant forbid her from doing anything she is an adult, being on the pill is very sensible but none of your business, you are VERY controlling you have to giver her a ... (read in full...)

My married lover puts me in awkward situations where I have to meet his wife. Why would he do this?

Q.   Hi, I am having an affair with a married man and have been for over 6 yrs, we are both in our late 50's,we both care for each other very much and get on really well and enjoy seeing each other. we can't break it off so please no moral judgments. i...

A.   11 September 2011: maybe because he can and he gets off on it and as for "we can't break it off so please no moral judgments." dont make excuses you dont have to be with a married man who will never leave his wife for you, you just have to find someone who actually ... (read in full...)

After she gave birth she is not tight like before! What can I do?

Q.   Hello all cupid users Can you please help, since she gave birth sex is not like before. Her vaginal wetness is not the same. its dry. And how can I get the vaginal tightness she had before? Thanks...

A.   11 September 2011: well said honeypie... (read in full...)

Is this a scam?

Q.   I have an appointment with a Casting Agency, which i applied to to become a Supporting Artist/Extra, but they told me that i have to pay £40 to have some photos taken !. Do you think this is a scam, and should i not bother going to them ?. I have ...

A.   7 September 2011: It is a definite scam you should never have to pay for anything ... (read in full...)

I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!

Q.   He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...

A.   3 September 2011: I'm with moos mum why cant you accept the answers people are giving you, if you dont want to be friends with her cut her out, cut him out and move on and stop wasting peoples time thats 3 questions about 1 problem and who knows how many answers what ... (read in full...)

Dissociative Amnesia -Will he rember us?

Q.   Ok from the beginning. I met my first love after school at a hangout spot. He joked with me and sooner or later he was asking me for my number online. We exchanged numbers and began talking. Throughout those 4 months we both learned hat we were ...

A.   3 September 2011: I have to post. It might not be what you want to hear. I too suffer from dissociative amnesia i just woke up one day and forgot my whole life. I started being able to keep things in my mind since last august but i dont remember anything before that ... (read in full...)

My FWB is dating someone else, but still wants sex with me

Q.   We had a friends with benefits type thing for a while. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I feel ugly :( I'm not easy a...

A.   30 August 2011: of course he's going to come back to you for sex thats what you were to him before why would that change if he has a girlfriend and alse can get whatever he wants from you... (read in full...)

My friend left me on my own during our night out in a town I don't know

Q.   Am i overreacting or taking this too far by telling my best friend i don't want to be friends anymore. Would you still be friends with someone who did this... Before I start, i just want to say unlike the girl. I didn't know the area we were in, the ...

A.   25 August 2011: do you know what i went through the exact same situation word for word exactly as you just described the only difference was i had a seizure and she went to another club and left me there and 2 bouncers had to help me to a taxi we dont really talk ... (read in full...)

I want this boy to leave me alone. He makes me uncomfortable

Q.   He was in school with me he had a crush on me. We both had to sit upfront together I was with Linda (learning support) and he always bragged that I always wanted to sit by him. I told the teacher about this so she had a word with him. I was just ...

A.   23 August 2011: show him up, stand up to him and tell him where to go... (read in full...)

What do women actually find attractive in a man???

Q.   What do women actually find attractive in a man? i would love to know if i fall into a catagorie :) hehehe thanks...

A.   19 August 2011: I usually only have 1 type of guy i go for, tall, skinny, dark hair, nerdy personality, can make me laugh, not take themselves too seriously, not muscly, muscles freak me out haha, but everyone is different you will find some people find you ... (read in full...)

I cant get over the fact I'm not going to be her first kiss!

Q.   I've never been kissed. My girlfriend has. We met in person, now long distance, it has been almost a year. She was kissed years ago, and it still makes her feel used to me. It hurts so bad, and I am so depressed. I've waited my whole life for h...

A.   17 August 2011: come on man seriously a kiss is just a kiss god just get a grip... (read in full...)

What body type do ladies find attractive?

Q.   Everyone will have a different answer, I know, but... what type of body do you girls like in an 18 year old lad? As in skinny, slim and toned, bulky or lots of softness? I'm doing a bit of weight training to get biger and just wondered what people ...

A.   13 August 2011: muscles actually freak me out haha i'm attracted to really skinny, tall nerdy guys. Everyone is different though... (read in full...)

Is my ex having sex with other men?

Q.   is my ex having sex with other men? she still shaves her pubic region everyday i found this out cause we ended up having sex one nite out of the blue so why would she still go through the hassle if shes not having sex with others?...

A.   10 August 2011: its nothing to do with you so keep out of it... (read in full...)

All about tattoos...just how bad is the pain?

Q.   I know this isn't a relationship question, but I get a lot of great advice from this site and it's always my first choice. My question is for those who have tattoos. I've been looking at a lot of tattoo related things lately, and my biggest curio...

A.   27 July 2011: i have a tattoo on my shoulder the pain is quite bad but not bad enough that you wouldnt go back for more its like a scratching burning sensation but some people have different pain thresholds... (read in full...)

How long does it take for breast size to increase while on the pill?

Q.   Hello all, I've been on Microgynon 30 contraceptive pill for just under a week now. I am 22 and this is the first time I've been on the pill. I went on it mainly to try and calm down my bad periods. But I am hoping I may increase my breast size a ...

A.   14 July 2011: im also on this type of pill and my breats havent gotten any bigger in the slightest :(... (read in full...)

I'm almost sure that I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder.Does anyone else experience something like this? Or does anyone have any advice as to how I can calm myself down and prevent it from getting out of hand?

Q.   Dear all, I haven't been officially diagnosed, but I'm 99% sure that I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder. On top of this, I think I have a pretty obsessive personality and I really don't like change. As a result, I end up losing control of mysel...

A.   18 June 2011: i have a disorder and part of it is called dissociative movements and everytime i get into a stressful situation i have paralysis seizures where i cannot move my arms of legs. it may be a good thing to see a doctor as they can give you a proper ... (read in full...)

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