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writes:A guy that I dated for years all of a sudden didn't want to see me anymore. It had always been kind of casual but we had always been really close friends, for over 10 years. When he said he no longer wanted to see me, he said that he just didn't feel it anymore and "I need to get overmyself". It was a blow of course to my ego but it really hurt to hear it come from a "friend" We had always been there for one another. Quickly after he started doing that he started flaunting any woman that he could get near in my face. All of a sudden all of his facebook pictures were of him and various women. When I would just try to email from time to time and be friends, he would ignore me. When I would get upset that he was ignoring me while he obviously had time for everything else on facebook. He called me a stalker. I shut down and just left him alone. He quickly started acting remoresful and seemed willing to be friends again. Anytime I would post something on facebook, he would go out and try to out do me sometimes at the same event. On my birthday he was on facebook but never called or bothered to say Happy birthday. I kept thinking I had done something wrong.The parade of women continued and he always made sure he would post about things I had said I wanted to do....it started feeling like he wanted me to see him do the things I wanted with someone else. All of his female friends (who are friends with one another) all would pretend at one time or another to be his girlfriend..then when I would stop talking to him, the girls would stop. As soon as he starts being friendly with me again, he starts in with another one of those girls.Well now, there is a girl that he is saying is his girlfriend, and she and him are taunting me. It's very bizzare. I posted pictures of me on a date. A few days later he posted pics with this girl almost mimicing the pics I had posted. he gets his other friends to over exxagerate how great they are together...it all seems so contrived and I don't know why. But the second I stop talking to him or block those girls he stops and the behavior stops. We've had lots of chances to stop being friends but keep this horrible mess going. I called his relationship with the girl fake because it did come across fake and like he was trying to get attention...Plus she's friends with all the other girls who pretended to be so in love with him and are in the pictures hugged up prior to her. Well when I said he was being fake all of a sudden they went into overdrive trying to prove how in love they are and the pictures and comments got taken to other levels.He took her to a motorcycle rally in another city...that night I get a call from a number I didn't know in that city and all i could hear were motorcycle engines reving...I kept saying hello and no one said anytihng. I know it was him. I just don't understand why all the games on his part. I get it if he doesnt like me but why the torture tactics and attempts to get me so jealous but wont' talk to me hardly anymore. It makes me feel like I can't trust anyone...I knew him for so long when he was at some of the lowest points of his life and had no one else who cared.....and he just turned on me for no reason and got his friends to help. I don't want to be with him like that anymore...I guess I'm just trying to understand how could someone turn and be so cruel and seem to take so much joy out of it.sorry for the grammar or spelling errors..don't have much time to type....Please just help me see this person and my own stupid behavior for what it is.....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 April 2012):
 Block and unfriend him. It's facebook for goodness sake you don't have to look at his page. THAT is your choice.
If you get odd calls, just hang up. And consider blocking his number. Sooner or later he will hopefully get over his need to show you up. If he is playing some kind of game and YOU stop playing, it stops being fun for him.
Time for you to look to the future and let his guy live in the past.
Time to focus on YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): All this kind of Facebook stuff is passable when your 13 or 14. Its the kind of games you expect sometimes, immature and pointless
I am sure you have much better things to pass your time with. He has shown his true colours and does not value your 10yr friendship. So stop being a friend. As other people have posted. Block him. Block his girl-friends.Block him out of your life,period.You do not need it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2012):
 A friend of mine had some weird stalker and so he had to become invisible on Facebook. There are setting that keep your name, your photos, your wall and everything else off any search engine. First, block him and her and anyone who you know is his friend. Then turn on all the security/privacy settings to maximum. Only your friends can see your photos, no one else. Only your friends can see your status or whatever you choose to post.
Don't try to figure out WHY he's doing this nonsense. He clearly is a loser and trying to figure him out is simply a waste of your time. Life is too short to try to step into the mind of an abusive jerk. There's no gain and it's only negative energy.
Block block block and unfriend as needed.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Just block him, and her. And anybody she knows. Facebook can be such a pain sometimes, dont let this crap get to you. It all sounds really childish.
Sometimes people act in ways that to us are inexplicable, you have already unblocked him once and permitted him back into contact with you, I think you may just have to accept he is nasty, and dont allow him back in!
Move along, there is nothing here for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): I don't need to make you see anything here OP, you know why he's doing this, you know what he's doing the real confusion is why are you playing this game?
That's the real question here, why are you still playing?
Look just block him on Facebook and this game ends. Block or remove any mutual friends who you are not really friends with and hide all the ones you can't remove from you timeline.
Block his number, block his email, twitter, everything.
Problem solved. Just stop playing is game and letting him bother you like this. If he rings from someone else's phone block that too.
I'm not going sit here and help you analyze details you already know. I mean you're definitely not stupid enough to think that is some fucked up way of showing he still loves you or something, are you? No, you're not. Let him go, cut him off and live your life free of his bullshit.
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