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writes: I have a friend who is gay. Im straight but i still want to be his friend because hes cool. but im affraid he might think im gay and start hitting on me or something. important note: i am not attracted to sexually i only want to be his friend because hes funny and is on the same sports team i am on. what should i say or do. Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (27 April 2012):
There is no need to say or do anything, just be a good friend to him. He presumably knows that you are not gay, so it’s very likely that he only wants to be your friend anyway, even if he does find you attractive. Unless he tells you he wants more, do nothing. If that does happen, calmly and respectfully tell him that you wish to be friends and nothing more, and tell him how much you value the friendship. But if he knows you’re not gay, I think there’s very little chance that’s a conversation you’ll ever need to have. If a straight man and a straight woman can just be good friends, so can a gay man and a straight man, or a gay man and another gay man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): Don't say or do anything..?? Just because he's gay doesn't mean he likes every guy that gives him the time of day. Just the same as you don't like every girl that talks to you..
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 If he starts to get a little to close to him then I would just explain that you aren't interested in him that way. This isn't any different then when you have a friend who is female who you are attracted to but you know it stays as friends. Same thing here where he may be attracted to you but he stays a friend because he understands the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): You have to remember that if someones gay, it doesn't mean that they instantly like anyone of the same sex that comes with-in a 4 meter radius of them.
Just pretend he's another normal friend, which he is, and if he obviously hits on you, be honest and tell him you straight.
Maybe you should tell him your crush or something, that way he'll realize your not gay, without you telling him what you really think.
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reader, Steelhawk65  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Just because he's gay doesn't mean he is attracted to you.. And gay people are usually very good at being able to determine anothers sexuality, so I really don't think you have to do much of anything.
And IF he does start hitting on you, you can tell him you're not interested.
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