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writes:My boyfriend and i broke up saturday, because on thursday and friday he was with his friends, and they partied. he really doesn't hangout with his friends a lot. Nor party a lot.he wasn't texting me like he use too. so i got mad and assumed he was cheating. Because he didnt text me and he was with his friends more than he was with me. he had stayed the night with me everynight since the 16th untill the 29thof june except for 3 nights. then on that thursday june 30 he was with his friends thursday friday and saturday im not sure about sunday. but he was monday im sure... he didnt use to hangout with friends so much untill recently. we are having a baby any day this month.we both are 18. i want us to work things out but im scared the same thing will keep happening over and over. he says that he loves me and that he is in love with me. so the other day wednesday he made a facebook and he has added a lot of girls to his facebook. i'm scared that if we got back together then he wouldnt change his relationship status on his facebook and that he wont even mention me on his. what can i do? to stop being so afraid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): I think you should talk to him about everything. If he's never normally went out and partied and you trust him completely, I think breaking up with him was the wrong decision. Especially with a baby on the way.I would talk to him and try to fix things. He's probably just going out to get things out of his system before the baby comes because he's worried about it. Good Luck. :)
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 One question i have: how long have you 2 been together?
Is he excited about the baby? What are his feelings?
Are you living together?
I would sit down with him and talk to him about this recent behaviour. Let him know that, especially at THIS stage (where you could have a baby any day, now) it's really important that he step up and be there for you to support you.
To play devil's advocate: I can remember the time leading up to when my first child was born. It was an unexpected pregnancy, and i was absolutely terrified. As the day of his birth drew closer, my behaviour became increasingly erratic. Looking back now i understand why. I was basically living my final days as a free, fun loving kid out of college. When that baby came, that was it. It was responsible father time.
I wonder if maybe he's having a similar reaction, and is just terrified of the change coming?
I know in hindsight, it was actually a good sign that i was so scared. It meant that i understand the burden of the responsibility that i had coming.
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