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writes:me and my ex split 2 and a half months ago we were together for 7 years, he said he wanted to be single. i was totally devaststed. i found out he started seeing another girl 2 weeks later. he says he still loves me but doesnt want a serious relationship however he is with this girl constantly. i know he cheats on her and everytime we meet we end up sleeping together, he promises he not using me but that he just misses me. he doesnt want to get bak together at this moment in time as he feels its too much. i am trying so hard to move on and get over it, but i dont want to be with any1 else, the thought makes me sick. This girl does not want us to speak as she is possessive and jealous he tried to finish with her and she threatned to kill herself (they had been going out for 6 weeks). i just dont seem to be getting any better, im good at pretending so noone knows i am in pain. . i have been working day and night to keep my mind off it but its all starting to really get me down.how on earth am i going to get by this
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Gee some guys really do have it all huh. It almost makes me envious for these type of guys, they have all the girls at their beck and call and they seem to always want to come back for more. No committment , no relationship, just good ole sex and thanks darling now bugger off.
You have got to start seeing yourself as a person who can offer something to a member of the opposite sex, not just a shag to a cheating scumbag.
You know what you have to do, writing here is setting you on the right track, the next is telling this user to get out of your life.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Hi
Hes used the oldest excuse in the book. They always seem to miraculously end up with someone real quick though. I mean, lets face it, its not easy meeting decent people is it these days.
The relationship run its course, it got to the classic 7 yr itch. Harsh maybe, but true hunni.
Time to move on and NOT sleep with the guy. Not dissing blokes here, but its not unusual for them to like having their cake and eat it, some women too i dont doubt! But dont be led down the garden path and give him a free reign to live like a single guy with all the benefits of a stable relationship.
You met when you were young, go out and live a little now. I tell you what, you dont know it yet, but you have got some good times up ahead! Fewer bad ones too no doubt but thats life.
Enjoy!
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, sexi  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Hi
After 7 years, it is understandible why you feel the way you do. Firstly you need to set some boundaries here. You need to tell him that he should decide who he wants to be with. He cannot be with both of yourll. I think that even though he says that he is not using you he is and only for the sex(sorry for being blunt). He has to make up his mind coz his uncertainty is hurting you and leaving you confused.I f he doesnt give you a definate answer as to who he wants then you should stand up for yourself and cut all contact with him. If you do this then you would be able to get over him quicker.This guy know how you feel for him and that is why he is stringing you along. Put a stop to it, it is either you or the other girl.Stop sleeping with this guy, it is gona do you no good.You have to get respect for yourself back and in turn he would get the respeact back for you and your feelings. Speak to him and let him know what's goinh on with you. If this guy walk out of your life, then he wasnt worthed and im sure soon enough he would realize what a mistake he has made. Now he know that he has got you both so why should he make a decision, you would always be there ( as per him)
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk, i would be glad to help
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