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writes:please help, my boyfriend has recently suggested that we should experiment some more sexually and that a little bit of new things is good for a relationship. He want's me to have a 3some with him and his mate, i don't think a 3some is my thing but i know he'll leave me if i don't.and if i did it'll obviously get to the stage where he wants another girl not a bloke, i couldn't see him have sex with some1 else, it'd destroy me. Is it possible to have a 3some with no jealousy?i love this guy but what should i do? I really don’t want to lose him!
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reader, chachacha +, writes (8 March 2007):
Then say no.
If he leaves you because of this, then he's not someone you'd want to keep anyway.
He sounds horrible. In fact, making you believe that he will leave if you say no is reason enough to dump him anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Quite simple. You don't want to have a 3-some. I wouldn't either. He said 3-some or leave. Tell him you're leaving. If he says ok, he obviously doesn't love you. If he does a U-turn, you can decided if you should rather be with someone who you can love and who won't give you a dumb-ass ultimatum like that, and who just loves you back. Good luck.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (7 March 2007):
 You should not have a threesome is it you are not happy doing it.
No partner is worth keeping if to keep him, there is a condition of doing something you are not into.
As much as it hurts by feeling that you would lose someone you love, this person cannot love that much to push you into this situation. It is called emotional blackmail.
Otherwise what ever next in order to keep him, it may not end here and you may still lose him anyway. No great loss as far as I am concerned.
There is so much you can do to spice love life that may envolve compromising but both parties should be happy doing whatever they agree to do, not just one sided.
Angel of Love
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 March 2007):
 Do not do it. You can bet the next threesome will be with another female. If he walks because you refuse to do this, then so be it. Personally, I think any time people feel the need to bring a third party into their beds, their relationship isn't quite up to par anyway.
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (7 March 2007):
A threesome can be rather tricky. if either one of you are not comfortable with the idea, its is a no-no. Firstly you have to be very secure in the relationship, and secondly it has to be planned before its done so that there are no misunderstandings. It can destroy a well founded relationship, so be careful, and honestly, you should only do what feels comfortable, if he doesnt understand then hes not worth it.
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