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writes:my recent boyfriend of 8 months is a great guy but why is it that when im around him, i get depressed. I mean we have our good times but most of the time im irritated. I dont understand it. He doesnt do things that annoy me. I dont know if it has something to do with my past relationship. A year ago i was with a guy whom i dated for 4 years. It was a very unhealthy relationship because he always made me cry and he cheated on me 4 times. I know, its stupid of me to take him back, but i finally broke it off because i was so tired it. Once i was single, i partied and did all the things single people do. Then 3 months later i meet my recent boyfriend. Everything was doing fine in the beginning until now. He said he's comfortable with me already that he doesnt feel the need to try anymore. Even our sex lives arent that good. I at least get it once a month. Everyone says he's a great guy and that im lucky i have him. I dont know.. Is it just me?? please help!
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reader, emma26690  +, writes (7 March 2007):
 Hi, I would recommend that you talk to him, tell him that you love him but can you spice up your loves, maybe take a romantic weekend, or a few new moves in the bedroom? Don't be afraid to talk to him -- hes your b/f thats what hes there for! Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): Only you really know the answer to this...you say your are irritated and depressed around him, it sounds like you rarely have sex and he is no longer trying to impress you, so there is no romance anymore.
Big mistake on his part. It sounds like your relationship is in danger of ending...maybe it should end because he is not the right guy for you....sometimes people have different libidos and can be really mismatched, and that is something that does not change really just because we want it to,
I would sit down and tell your boyfriend how bad you are feeling, think about what you would like to do or have happen and be specific about it....like maybe he needs to be more attentive and romantic and so do you.
It is really hard to say everything about your relationship as we are not inside of it and you are.
Try this web article below to see if this applies to your relationship, it does not really offer solutions, but you can sort of see what those might be based on your own evaluation of your and your boyfriends needs.
http://www.care2.com/channels/solutions/bms/3130
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