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writes:Hi Im 17 and gay i met this guy and i really like him the only problem is he wants me to have sex with as many men as i can in 1 night and predictivly the rest of my life, as it turns him on. I really like him so i want to do this and imagine it will be ok, as how bad can it be? I'm just not sure Please advise meScott E Reply to this Question
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 oh my little ANZAC brother............ NOOOOOOOOOO this is not a good thing!! If he loved you and wanted you he would not want to share you!
Sweetheart don't do it, look at why he wants you to, then look at what you think you should do and definatly discuss with other older gay men in your community, speak with gaydar or gay and lesbian rights and get some councelling and advice before you even think of somthing like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Don't let some guy tell you to do something you will regret later, if he really cares about you he wouldn't ask you to do such a pethetic thing. He only cares about his sick twisted desires, then tell him that you want to watch him fuck as many men in one night and see how he feels. He's an asshoe! Leave him alone and find someone that will respect you and want you to himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Honey, all I'm going to say is don't drop your standards and degrade yourself just for his pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): That's a shame as it would be nice if he were turned on by you. If he's only turned on by you sleeping with lots of other men then in the end you'll be spending more physical time with other men than you will with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Anything you do can or will be twisted around in the end...I say don't do it. I have done things I am very ashamed of, and it doesn't even come close to what you're thinking of doing. I'm concerned for your emotional and mental well-being....
Love yourself enough to not do this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Why degrade yourself for him and his weird fantasy? Dont put yourself at risk for someone who might decide that he actually cant handle what you have done even if you have done it for him. No matter how much you think you like this guy - he is not worth the risk!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 April 2008):
If you are happy working as his personal porn star and letting him see you as purely a slutty sex object then that is fine. Use protection obviously. And where are you going to find all these men from? Just pick them up in bars? Do you know how dangerous that is? You could get beaten up or worse.
Personally I would see that as being completely out of the question and wrong. I would see this as border line abuse. He wants to see you degraded.
Are you sure you are mentally strong enough to go through that? You only like him, you're not in love with him. How do you know that he's going to like you after you do this? How do you know he's not going to turn round and say "thanks for that - bye then."?
You'll feel utterly used and will have put yourself in incredible danger and for nothing.
It isn't worth the risk. Don't do it. Find a man who respects you and wants you to himself.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 protected sex can only do so much. whether gay or bi or straight... if i were u i would not engage in this. think of it this way. if u get an std like aids, or herpes etc, will he, or anyone reallly want u after thyat? its a lonely life for many. i have a gay friend who has hiv and sadly, hes now lonely looking for love, but once hes admitted to having hiv, not many venture near, even though there gay. so beware of this choice and make a wise decision! theres no turning back once u have croseed that road. its a long slippery slope... good luck sir
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Well if you're not happy about doing this then don't! You can't let someone tell you to do this, just because yuo fancy him. Having sex isn't something that just be thrown about, it's supposed to be special and important. Also, you need to make sure that you are safe if you decide to do this, having sex with lots of different people is a great way to spread disease so you need to be SURE you are using protection!
Keep us updated.. And good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, molar305  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Let me preface this by saying that i am not gay, so i don't have any insight into his mind. however, i'd be careful with this. b/c should things get to the point where he needs an excuse to break up, he could call you a total whore for sleeping around so much, even with his consent. i'd becareful of anyone saying sleeping around is okay b/c it turns them on.
this could be a test.
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