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writes:[Moderator note: paragraph breaks were inserted to make this easier to read. Also, ".." was removed from every single sentence. Please use standard punctuation and paragraph breaks when following up. Please.]Haha. Here's the thing. My ex boyfriend broke up with me the day after my birthday. He gave me lots of excuses as to why he broke up with me. He said i was nagging, i'm too clingy, i'm possessive, and we always had arguments. on top of that, he was mad at me for apparently confronting this girl who keeps on coming over at his apartment every weekend. He said they're close friends and i shouldn't have confronted the girl because she was very sad about what happened. So i was that stupid that even though i had a feeling that they're having an affair, i still kept a blind eye and even apologized to the girl and to the girl's parents. But he still left. Even so, he said that i am "very cruel and i took things too far." okay, so i accepted the break-up. Believing that it was all my fault. I spent the first week crying, apologizing, saying sorry. I even looked stupid coz he told me to "back off" in front of his "close friend" (which is the girl). So then, i waited to let the things cool down. after a week, we saw each other. And guess what, he brought me to a restaurant then to his apartment. In the afternoon we had sex. And in fact, he called it "the break-up sex" i was so damn in loved that even though i know i swallowed my pride and my values, i still did it. The next day, he brought me to his house again coz he wanted to "eat lunch with me somewhere." while he was taking a shower, i saw his phone beeping, and it was a message from the girl. Guess what, they were calling each other "baybee" -- a name he used to call me. They were exchanging i-love-yous. Oh yeah that was like, a stab in the chest. So i confronted him when he got out of the shower. i was like, "since when have you been doing this to me?" i was crying really hard, and i didn't know what to do. I was so sad. He freaked out and told me to get out of his house, he even said he's gonna call the police. So i cried even more, coz i couldn't believe that someone like him, who obviously cheated on me even before we broke up, would tell me to leave and he even acted as if he didn't do anything wrong?! Haha. What a dickhead. so i left his house, the next day i told him i'm gonna completely leave his life now, since i found out that he has someone else. Then he rang, and told me that he wants to "patch things up" and maybe we can "talk it through." stupid me i believed in him, so we went out again, had lunch together. And had sex again. -_- i told him, "promise me you'll never message that girl again" he said, "yes i promise." days passed and we were seeing each other, we were acting as friends. But every afternoon, he invites me at his house and there ya go, he had his doses of sex. I thought that doing this will make him fall in love with me again, since he was being "so passionate." as days pass, he started to tell me that "look, maybe we should stop seeing each other. Or maybe we should see each other less and less." i asked him, "is this because of another girl?" he said, "no. (with conviction). I am not going out with anyone i just want time for myself." alright then, so i backed off for three days. Waited for him to go back and talk to me, just to find out that the girl was coming over at his house again haha. So i was like, alright then. I asked him if there was something going on. He said "no we were just doing homework together. I was not even sitting next to her." alright then i accepted that, even though i already had a feeling that there was something going on. Days passed and he kept on wanting me for sex. Picked me up at school and we drove at his house, and we did it several times. Then one night he said "don't call me tonight im gonna be busy i'll see you tomorrow" okay then. So i accepted it. but on that night, i started to fear that maybe he was doing something with the girl. Coz he just randomly ignored me. I decided to come and visit him at his place, i saw him he was sleeping. Then he talked to me and started swearing at me and asked me to go away. Alright so i went away. at night he rang me and asked me if im okay, i said i am. And i was so sad i hanged up and didnt talk to him. Then he called again the next day, this time we had a good conversation about how our days went. On a monday night, he picked me up at my place and we slept together at his house till 6am. tuesday we saw each other. Wednesday he asked me to buy a pill. Thursday he said that we shouldnt see each other today. I waited and okay then, i understood. And then today. I rang him and i asked him what was going on, if he's seeing this girl already. He said that "there is nothing going on between me and her." he said this on a friday morning. Then in the afternoon, i was walking to my mom's office when i saw him stepping out of the car with this girl. I approached him, and asked him. Is she your girlfriend now? He said "yeah". And my heart was crushed i couldn't believe that he just used me coz he could have told me at the start that he likes her or he has feelings for her so i could have backed off immediately. he kept on denying it until i caught them together. Oh well. On that same moment, i spoke to the girl. I told her. "you know what? Three days ago, jason and i just had sex. So be careful if he's telling you that he's sleeping at night, he's not. He gets out of the house and drives to places to have sex with me." jason was so startled. he didnt know what to do. His face turned pale. Now i got my sweet revenge my mom saw me talking to him, and my mom said. "don't ever treat my daughter like that. She doesnt deserve you, if you're in our country, we will kill you" there goes my second hit revenge so i left, and before i left. I said to him one thing. I said "go to hell."what do you think? to all my ladies out there who feels the same way that i feel, ive got your back
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): This guy is a major creep--one humongous loser! Quit going back to him and letting him use you. Things will never change. You need to move on. I suggest that you start dating others. There's someone out there who's right for you, but this guy isn't him.
Good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 Good for you girl!
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (15 May 2010):
 Surprised you didn't just end it sooner but good on ya for taking a stand and getting out of a pointless and toxic relationship.
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reader, Ilovemyoreo2010  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 honestly i wouldnt have went back to him after the second time that he told u to leave him alone. a guy that wants that much "ALONE TIME" is NOT spending it alone!
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reader, Olilara +, writes (15 May 2010):
Why on earth did you keep going back to this guy if he treated you that way?If you were that upset and he continually kept seeing this other girl, why did you keep going back?I don't think anyone deserves to be treated the way you were but I think it's very important that you learn from this experience.Don't be a doormat, don't let guys like this one walk all over you and throw you around.If your gut says to get out in future, and even more so if you have PROOF things aren't as they should be, just get out.I'm sure you deserve better. Stand up for yourself.
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