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writes:when my bf and i had sex the other day he asked me for a bj and i accepted but he got really demanding. i think he watches too much porn he says he doesn't but i have seen him download it before. What should i do?
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reader, JustinNki  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 hmmm he probably was just caught up in the moment.
it happens.
ive gotten really bossy when recieving, its a turn on.
but your right, maybe its the porn that I watched that made me to act that way, but some guys get freaky and like to talk dirty and demanding.
all depends
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): You know him. We dont. So if he was behaving out of character and things were making you feel used, disrespected or uncomfortable in any way. Then follow your gut instinct and have a chat with him. He might have been watching something that he fancied acting out but he didnt bother asking you first. That can feel almost abusive if you were left feeling shaken up or hurt in any way.
He should never get THAT carried away that he behaves badly towards you. Its not acceptable so dont put up with it. Tell him hes not allowed to act out porn fantasies without your prior consent. Maybe he needs 'time out' to cool his heels and reflect that there are two of you involved in giving 'pleasure'...its not ALL about him.
Its such a shame most guys are brought up with little or no knowledge about love making. Many 'learn' what to do from watching porn or listening to their male friends tall stories.
Talk to your partner and explain what is and is not acceptable to you. And hopefully he will never treat you like that again.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Surely you've felt something similar. When you're receiving stimulation (manual, oral, or from intercourse) and it's hitting all the right spots, and you're nearing orgasm, all you can think is that you want more, NEED more. Everything's going right and you're feeling that buildup of pleasure and manners fall away a bit and you just want to finish strong.
Many men tend to have sex that gets a little too rough, or goes a little too fast or too deep, because that's just naturally what a man is craving when he gets really into sex. It's not so much "porn" as it is "he's male"
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reader, sammi star +, writes (16 December 2010):
 It's probably nothing to do with porn, chnces are he got carried away in the moment and was only thinking of his pleasure. You don't say what he actually did or said but I suggest you talk to him and tell him how uncomfortable it made you feel. I'm sure he won't do it again when he realises it's upset you.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (16 December 2010):
 What should you do? Talk to him. If you are able to have sex with this person then you should also be able to have a conversation about your personal limitations and his need to respect this. If he makes you do things you are not happy with then stop having sex with him until he starts acting like a gent!
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (16 December 2010):
 What do you mean he got really demanding? In what way did he get really demanding?
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reader, Weeble +, writes (16 December 2010):
What do you mean by demanding? I'm guessing putting his hands on your head and trying to go faster/deeper. Very likely he was enjoying the bj and getting into it, with nothing more complicated than 'it felt good' when he was rougher.
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