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I don't want to be gay!!

Q.   I am a Baptist Christian guy. I know the Bible prohibits homosexuality, or bisexuality etc. But I feel attracted to mens bodies. It's not like I love men. It's lust. And with girls I'm not attracted to their bodies as much but I love them for who ...

A.   24 February 2011: im around the same age as you, and i know how you feel, i never wanna marry a guy i think its socity and rules that put gay marrage in my head is wrong, but in the past i have messed around with a guy but i dont see anything wrong with it, ive ... (read in full...)

He smokes weed and I really hate it!

Q.   I love my boyfriend, we have been together for 4 years, we are really in love together, but the problem is that he smokes weed, and i really hate this thing, I feel that he just shouldn't, i dislike the way he talks to me about weed, and that its ...

A.   24 February 2011: I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!!! -_- me and my gf/ex we met and became best friends thru smoking and now weve been on and off for almost two years, she likes to smoke , not all the time but she smokes and I hatee it! shes already dittzy as it... (read in full...)

How do I stop thinking about and texting my ex-boyfriend??

Q.   I'm becoming really obsessed with ex boyfriend. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I'm still in love with him. I've texted him almost everyday since we broke up telling him how much I miss him, how I want him back and apologizing for the mean ...

A.   24 February 2011: Exactly like splashy said, we all go through it. I want to give you the advice that his friends probably gave him, and my friends gave me (but I didnt follow). lol Do not text him, ignore him, eventually he probably will text you back, But yes, ... (read in full...)

Is my friend bi or gay....and interested in me?

Q.   So I think my friend is bi or gay. He always tries to hold my hand and he always puts his arm around me. He hugs me, rubs my back, and touches my face and thighs. Sometimes he will sit on my lap or let me sit on his. At football games, we cuddle ...

A.   24 February 2011: your age says 13-15 and thats a very curious age, ive been there and i have family that ive talked to just around your age whose going through the same thing. there are a lot of guys out there who act really homo with each other but "no homo" an... (read in full...)

Betrayed by my so-called friend, what should I do?

Q.   It all started about two years ago. I had a huge crush on a boy 1 year older than me. He seemed like the perfect guy. He was nice, cute, funny, athletic, and smart. My really close friends all knew that I liked him, and thought we would make a cute ...

A.   6 January 2011: Hahah, sounds like she just watched "mean girls" and it went to her head. I would confront her about it. Idk what to tell you, I'm sorry that your going thru that. I would just say don't hang out with her.... (read in full...)

What should I say or do to help him not be teased and to understand him more?

Q.   this guy at school acts like a girl and he dresses like a guy . people teases him and call him gay but i dont think they should. i dont know how to approach him asking is he gay or not and might offend him. i personally think he just enjoy acting ...

A.   6 January 2011: if he doesnt care about being teased, then who cares! teenagers can be really mean, i dont even know why but ppl teased me about being gay just cuz i hung out with girls and acting a little bit fem. but i mean i was 13, i wasnt anywhere nea... (read in full...)

How can I keep my boyfriend's erection?

Q.   Hey, i really really need some help at the moment. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins, we have done everything appart from actuall sexual intercourse. We both love each other and are ready for this. Not long ago we attempted to have sex. Usually, ...

A.   6 January 2011: when i first started having sex the same thing happend to me, i couldn't keep a erection, idk, maybe subconsciously its the pressure of sex , everyones different but he'll keep it up one day, promise ... (read in full...)

Why won't she let me finish her?

Q.   whenever I go down on my girlfriend, she pushes me away when she's about to cum. when I ask her why she wants me to stop she just gasps "no" like she's afraid of something. I don't understand why. She says that she enjoys it. why won't she let me ...

A.   30 December 2010: THE SAME THING MAN!!!!! My gf refuses to let herself orgasm from being fingered or oral. It pisses me off because i wanna satisfy her in that way. I later found out that it had some deep reasons why she wouldn't let herself even when she wa... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend and we're in an amazing relationship even though we're so far away....then why did I cheat?????

Q.   Ok so here's my situation I'm with the love of my life and she's the bestest person ever and we share and talk about everything Everything is great and i truly care for her and miss her and always think about her and she has the same feelings fo...

A.   30 December 2010: you couldn't control lust with love. :( ive been cheated and cheated on people. its not worth it. at all. if you really loved her and had respect for her you wouldn't have let your D**K take control of you. sorry man, but you gotta tell ... (read in full...)

Share relationships that have gone right?

Q.   So I enjoy answering questions here on dearcupid when I have spare time. The thing is they are mostly about relationships gone wrong/problems/etc. I was wondering if people would post about relationships they are in or have been in where things have ...

A.   30 December 2010: Things gone right... hmm what really good in a relationship is friendship and laughter. I tried going out with all my female best friends and usually was turned down because of "just a friend" thing. But then one friendship finally bloss... (read in full...)

He always accuses me of cheating, but I didn't!

Q.   Hi... I would really appreciate your help, because i am really desperate now... My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now.. i never done anything that could make him think that i like someone else, except going out a few times, and ...

A.   30 December 2010: I wanna say, he's crazy and get rid of him, but I can't. Because Ive been that boyfriend before. I feel like, its probably one of the two, he's a REALLY obviously a insecure boy or he's cheated on you himself and is soo paranoid of you doing th... (read in full...)

Help I got fired for kissing my boss Pleas HELP

Q.   Yesterday I got fired from my job for having an affair with my boss. I didn't expect it because we thought we were careful not to get caught but the video camero showed us kissing in the parking lot. has this happened to anyone else and how do I ...

A.   25 December 2010: Dang Im sorry :( thats kinda hot tho. U cant take anything back or change what happend. Just deal with it the best you can. Try and get your job back once things have settled or just move on. Good luck ... (read in full...)

The men I fancy tend to be straight and very rarely gay - why?

Q.   I would like to have your opinion on the fact that the men I fancy tend to be straight and very raerly gay and what does it say that I am into men from the age of 16 right up to the age of 79? Your views are welcome!...

A.   25 December 2010: i play both feilds, and i know what u mean, if i were gonna hook up with a guy, hed better be pretty dang straight. its just your type, u like straight acting guys. nothing bad, but its gonna be harder to find your type since the ones that are... (read in full...)

Help her to deal with my past...

Q.   Hello! I'm new here and looking for some advice. To start, let me fill you in on my past. I am a 23 year old female living in the south. I grew up around a lot of drugs and sex was glorified in my family. I didn't really have any rules at all and ...

A.   25 December 2010: aw well honostly it makes me happy to see that all types of people are going thru the same thing. no matter what the sex is. my current girlfriend kinda sounds a little bit like your situation. and i know everything about her past. and it PIS... (read in full...)

What makes guys jealous?

Q.   im curious what makes a guy jelous? im not wondering this so i can treat a guy badly, im wondering this because it seems like guys dont understand it when a girlfriend tells him something bothers them or makes them jelous. do guys not get jelous or ...

A.   25 December 2010: Things I get jealous over - my girlfriend getting hit on ... more than me. - ive gotten really upset about things shes done with her ex partners. i want all her memories to be revolved around me... lol sounds way controlling. i think guys ju... (read in full...)

He got really demanding when I was giving him oral, has he been watching too much porn?

Q.   when my bf and i had sex the other day he asked me for a bj and i accepted but he got really demanding. i think he watches too much porn he says he doesn't but i have seen him download it before. What should i do?...

A.   25 December 2010: hmmm he probably was just caught up in the moment. it happens. ive gotten really bossy when recieving, its a turn on. but your right, maybe its the porn that I watched that made me to act that way, but some guys get freaky and like to talk dirt... (read in full...)

Men: If your woman is satisfying you, why do you need porn?

Q.   Ok first off, I’m not married, but I keep having this fear of my future husband watching porn. I understand that most men watch porn but why? If your woman is satisfying you why do you need it? Many men say they need variety, but is that fair? Women ...

A.   25 December 2010: yes, sex with a partner is wonderful thing, but theres something about pleasing yourself with your own hand that is different. sometimes men just get bored and do it, even if they already hooked up with their partner.... (read in full...)

My guy is looking at quite a lot of gay porn on line. Why?

Q.   I found gay porn on my guys wasn't just one site, there were several over a couple of days and some had galleries,is it normal for straight guys to look at gay porn? There was other porn but quite a lot of gay porn....

A.   25 December 2010: wouldn't you rather him watch gay porn and *maybe please himself to that, then him actually go out there and do gay deeds. I agree, It doesnt make him gay or bi, I have a girlfriend and have watched gay porn before, it is a curiousity it is a amu... (read in full...)

She lied to me and I have no reason to trust her now

Q.   ok im 17 iv been dating my gf for about a year,just today she told me something she had kept from me this whole time,it was that she played strip poker and whent skinny dipping one time a couple yrs ago (shes 16) with her friend and a guy,this ticks ...

A.   24 December 2010: you guys are so young. getting upset about this in a juvinile relationship is not worth it. and i mean , she DID end up telling you man, so she kept it for a while but she did indeed tell you the truth. girls do crazy s**t bro, atleast your wit... (read in full...)

Why do men TRY to be misleading?

Q.   Why do guys insist on doing purposely sweet things knowing it’s forced and insincere, knowing you already don’t buy it, but just to con you, do it anyways. God , if I’m trying to see the relationship for the whatever the heck it really is, I’m ...

A.   24 December 2010: As a man, I can say, men are a MESS. Not all, but there is a LOT of men out there including myself, who are young and just confused about themselves and confused about relationships that they are in. If you really love him and want this to work, yo... (read in full...)

I feel really bad, I got my boyfriend aroused but went no further. Did I do something wrong?

Q.   I'm 13 and don't really know what love is and know that I wont find my true love for a long time. so I don't really want to be involved sexually but at the same time I do. And I'm allowed to. My mom will get birth control pills and everything. ...

A.   24 December 2010: IM REALLY IMPRESSED BY YOU. Really, some guys just pressure and PRESSURE girls to do it, and if they dont, the pigs that they are, walk out. You are way too young to do anything. (I understand reality and I was 13 when I started doing stuff) B... (read in full...)

Am I putting myself in a bad situation?

Q.   Heyyy. I've dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. I'm a virgin and he's not. He hasn't relly pushed sex on me but I know he really wants to have sex with me, so sometimes it's a little hard to stop when we're together. Anyway, for Christmas, a ...

A.   24 December 2010: 10 months in a long time!!! If he didnt really like you, he would be out of the picture. I like this guy already just by saying he's just hangin out with you and no pressure, FOR TEN MONTHS. Just make sure, your ready, dont rush even if its TEN Y... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to know her past in details so that I can forget them?

Q.   I'm a 28 years old man and my wife is of the same age. Well, she is from a different country and we met each other when i had been to her country for some work. Well it wasnt love at first sight but we eventually fell for each other. At that time i ...

A.   24 December 2010: BRO ... I dont even know where to start. Im the same, Im the type of guy who wants to know EVERYTHING, know every deatil. But Im promising you, well if your like me... Knowing these details will satisfy a small part of you, but it MIGHT just ma... (read in full...)

I'm 19 and have never had a girlfriend.

Q.   i'm 19 and have never had a girlfriend. I have never been kissed or hugged (besides family). girls always tell me im a nice guy, but not what they're looking for - im always just a friend. i am pretty average, i recently started working out ...

A.   24 December 2010: I know exactly how you feel. all thru my life, I ended up having crushes on the girls in my life who were "best friends" and when I ended up asking them out, it was always "your just a friend" until one day, my girl best friend at the time slo... (read in full...)

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