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writes:I am love with my friend and i dont know how to tell him. we already have a sexual relationship, but he has a girlfriend.What should i do about this? i am single and we have been seeing each other for about 3 years.
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reader, Medina +, writes (4 November 2009):
You're singing to the choir. I have been in the same situation for the last two years. I have a friend who has gone through three girlfriends while having a sexual relationship with me. I never expected to be able to sleep with a man who was in a serious relationship but I am so in love with him that it completely clouded my judgement and my morals. The only really good advice I can give you is this: 1.) Is he such a good friend that he's worth losing if you tell him how you feel? It's a huge possibility that he might drop you the minute you let him know, or that things might become awkward. 2.) If somehow the two of you end up together would you ever really be able to trust him? If he can do it to his current girlfriend, he probably could do it to you. 3.) Do you honestly see a happy future with him? You've probably already asked yourself these questions. But take them into serious consideration. If you feel that you need to tell him, then so be it. Unburden yourself. But be prepared for the consequences and the realization that you might have to move on without him. I wish you all the luck in the world and i hope things go great for you. Things are only bound to get better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): hiiiiiii i to have the same problem but we dont have ay sexxual affair .my frn is too good he cares for me and i want to keep it up .im getting satisfaction from his happiness.think so this suggession would help u out of urr problem
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Hey, don't wait! Bring it on! Tell him and get him to answer, you or her? He is using you and probably his girlfriend too. Its not right to be with a man who keep cheating on his girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): It is just best to tell him, i mean, whats the worst that could happen? And ont hat note, he shouldn't be cheating on his girl with you, its not right. you need to tell him its you or her. And make him decide which is more important. If it's her let him go and find someone knew. [not only as a sexual partner]
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reader, saMmii3waMmiie  +, writes (5 August 2008):
Hey well let me tell u im going through da same thing as u and im a bit younger but let me tell u da best thing 2 do is to hope that at least he has some feelings 4 u or a least see if he likes u and not only sexualy but you n at least you'll now that he does care but the only thing 2 do is juss hope he breaks up with his girl or juss hope he wants u more...trust me im going through da same thing and all I can do rite now is wait...much luv...gud luck keep me posted!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Its sounds to me that you have already given the signal of love if you have slept with him. I think it will be a case of seeing how serious his relationship with his girlfriend is. If he wants his cake and eat it then you will be going down a road of heartache and pain.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (5 August 2008):
 basically, you guys are friends with benefits and now you develop feelings for him.
This always happens because women are emotional being and having sex with someone is very intimate.
If he wanted you as a girlfriend, you would have been his girlfriend. I say cut out the sex with him.
He's basically getting it for free.
I say tell him how you feel, and move on if he doesn't feel the same way.
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reader, clayman +, writes (5 August 2008):
ok if u have been cing each other for 3 years do u think it is time to tell him to choose u or her. because is playing u like a fool. so good luck u will need it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Lot's of missing information with which advisors could assess this situation, but the basic idea is that both of you ladies are very likely simply members of his "sex harem," and I still remember how much fun it was to be doing about the same back in the 1970s. Oops! Approximate age revealed again!
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reader, !Candice16! +, writes (5 August 2008):
 its hard to tell someone you love them when they have someone else. trust me i know what your goiing through. but if you have been seeing eachother for three years , then he also has some type of feelings for you.
The best thing to do is to tlk to him about your feelings but dont get your hopes up. keep your gaurd up to. give him the feeling your not trying to force him to come to you , but the feeling like you just wanted to tell him how you feel about him. ask about his feelings for you. talking is the best thing to do . remember dont make the convo to ...awkward if you get what im saying. i hope this helped you in some way. if it dosent work , which it might, then settle for trying to let go and finding another person. its hard to let go of someone you love i know from expeirience , i know this will help you. good luck and i wish you the best. im here if you need any more advice. send me a message if u need anymore help.
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