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writes:How should i react to this....my friend lives across the strret from me with his wife. Lately she has begun to (vividly blinds wide open) expose herself to me at night in the window. The shower is directly in front of the window. She get's out she wipes herself dry and she bends over fully in front of the window. Honestly i am VERY attracted to her what should i do should i facebook her and tell her I love it or is she just teasing me i dont know how to react to this what should i do?
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 You've already been given the advice of "no", and a few "shame on yous". I suspect you'll do it anyway, so why are you still asking?
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (20 September 2011):
What is it that you want to achieve? You have a girlfriend and she is married to a friend of yours, so I am not clear what you are trying to achieve by thinking of sending her your number? Do you want to have an affair with her? Your actions should be guided by the kind of person you would like to be, it is for you to choose what kind of person you want to be in the world. Most people would advise you that pursuing her is a bad idea, likely to either end in you losing a friend or playing a part in breaking up a marriage, but it is not really for other people to advise what kind of person you should be in the world. You know what you are in store for, it is up to you to choose.
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reader, couger61 +, writes (20 September 2011):
couger61 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I do have a girlfriend who is very good looking but i have always had a thing for my neighbor and she is purposly standing in front of the window exposing herself. The minute i get home she runs upstairs opens the window and makes belive she's taking a shower. Should i facebook my number to her and see what happens???????
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reader, idoneitagain +, writes (16 September 2011):
There is the speculation around her actions, and there are your actions and choices.
She is doing this because she:
- likes the idea of showing off her body, or the fantasy of it even if she isn't sure someone is watching, and is a bit of an exhibitionist.
- Likes the idea of toying with you and using a form of sexual power over you
- couldn't care less about being naked and isn't really bothered if she is naked and someone might see her.
- doesn't know it is happening.
As for what you should do....
The appropriate or honourable thing to do would be to tell her, in case she doesn't know. It would be un-gentlemanly to let a married woman unknowingly parade around naked for the sexual pleasure of someone else (ie you). That might sound a little naive, but it is the appropriate thing to do. You will be able to gauge from her reaction whether she didn't know, or she did and was happy to.
If she is doing it on purpose, it is up to you to decide whether it is appropriate for you to look at your friends wife naked or not. You obviously love it, but I am not sure your friend would :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): honestly though, what if she ends up being the love of your life, but you just met at the wrong time? thats why you gotta do what a man's gotta do. Or keep imagining her gorgeous body in your mind for years to come. maybe even for the rest of your life?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Don't look, she doesn't belong to you and if you take her off of your friend that makes you a low life, good for nothing arse.
Shut your drapes and find your own girlfriend.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 September 2011):
 A poorly designed house if you ask me.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (15 September 2011):
Really?
"Thy shall not covet your neighbour's wife."
And if we can't at least agree not to admire our neighbour's nude wife, can we at least muster up enough self-control and decency to not watch and drool over our FRIEND's wife, never mind entertaining the idea of contacting her via Facebook?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 September 2011):
 She's probably not doing it on purpose and would likely be pretty horrified to find out you were doing this. I'd get yourself some curtains and take up knitting or some other hobby. Especially since she's your friend's wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): I don't think this is a good situation. You do not say you are married, so I'm hoping you're not and you don't have a g/f either.
I wouldn't do anything, if I were you. I wouldn't look and I wouldn't message her on facebook or confront her either. It is very possible she has some sort of fetish like a flasher that has nothing to do with you. Or it is possible she is a cheating scum bag. Don't ruin your friendship by falling into her trap.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Seeing as she is married to your friend I suggest you close your own blinds! Don't message her, don't watch her. You don't even know if she's doing this intentionally, if not she'd probably be horrified to know you've been looking at her in this way. Put an end to it now.
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