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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys, I'll try and keep this as short as possible but two weeks ago my ex contacted me after us not speaking for 11 months. I deleted his number so I didn't actually know it was him but we were together for 2 and a half years. To be clear, he was the one who broke up with me and I was devastated because it was so out of the blue. Two weeks before the break-up I heard him tell his mum he loved me! (he didn't know I heard). I cannot really put into words just how well we connected to each other. It was instant chemistry between us and I took the break up very, very badly.Anyway he got in contact and we started chatting, he apologised for everything. As far as the break-up he went about the break up saying he wished he'd done things differently. That he'd ran out of money to drive the 6 hours to see me. (He literally did spend all his money driving up to me) He said he was stressed with his exams. I think I can understand maybe why he decided to break up. He also said he hadn't stopped thinking about me and had been wanting to text me for months but was terrified I would ignore him or never forgive him. He lives an hour away from me now as he's studying here.We met up a week ago. Right from when I saw him there was no awkwardness and I stayed two nights with him and we went out and did things and watched movies etc. We also ended up kissing one night, it wasn't like just a "kiss" though, it felt like a connection, he was kissing my nose and my neck and my forehead and playing with my hair. In conversation he was bringing up things he used to say like how cute my dimple is. And things like that I still had perfect eyebrows haha. He said "have you noticed how this is surprisingly just not awkward at all?" and he was right. I came home and decided not to tell my parents about even speaking to him because they were really angry at the whole break up. Since I got back we've been texting non-stop since and he started putting "x" at the end of his texts which he does to no one but his mum, haha. The thing is, I have no idea what's going on. I do still care for him. I want to try again with him but I don't want to get hurt because these past months were hell. I just couldn't get over him. He said yesterday his mum was asking about me and such and if we'd met up at all. He told me "my parents always thought you were lovely and they're right, you are" etc. He's called me beautiful and cute lot's of times in the past few days as well. What the hell is going on here? I don't want to get straight to the punch and ask him in case I pressure him but I don't want to be used or be a friends with benefits either. He was upset that he couldn't see me before he went home and kept saying so in texts (today).Yet he wants to see me when he gets back for sure, to have a movie day and go out shopping and such. I am literally so confused, what should I do and does it seem like he might just be trying to use me or do you think he really might be serious about trying again? thanks in advance for the help and sorry for the long post! :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 December 2012):
 Sounds to me like the breakup was do to the logistics of an LDR being too difficult for young broke people to maneuver and now that you are not LDR (I don't consider an hour LDR for adults) he wants to try again.
If you want to try again and he wants to and the impediment of a 6 hour trip is no longer in the way I say go for it.
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