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writes:Me and my partner are in love for a long long time. The thing is that my partner gives me wonderful blow jobs but when I go down on her vagina to lick it she gets reluctant. She doesnt want me to lick her down. I wanna know the fact - dont girls like oral sex on themselves?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): In my experience women love it and I've been told because of my build. I used to be creative with the act. Once I had a woman on my shoulders sitting with her vagina in my face, her legs wrapped tightly around me, and her back up against the wall. Yes, she was on my shoulders lol. I've done other stuff as well but i think more women would like it if the guy put more effort into it ;)
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (19 May 2011):
 I'm not a great fan. Makes me orgasm too quickly and too intensely. If a guy wants to do it after I've given a blowjob or two (or, hopefully, more) already, then I guess it's all right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): When I receive oral sex, so many things go on in my mind, mostly wondering what I taste/smell like, and I get nervous and reluctant, scared that I don't taste good and it's only a favor. I also have a tendency to twitch when a certain spot is hit and I get self-conscious. These things make me uneasy when a partner goes down on me, and I get reluctant to let them do it. However, when I'm reassured that I'm perfectly fine 'down there', then I can be more relaxed and enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): Thanks everyone here...although I feel I'm quite good in giving oral sex to my partner...the women here have answered my query very well - maybe she the kind who doesn't like getting oral sex. Many women dont like it and it's normal. Thanks.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 May 2011):
 Some do - some don't. A guy REALLY needs to know what he is doing or it can get very off putting and honestly.. boring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): The relationship women have with their own genitals is different than the one men have with theirs. You see yours every morning if not more often. Frankly, I haven't seen mine in years and I forgot what it looks like. The idea of letting someone see a hidden part of us that we can't even access without a mirror can be a little nerve racking. Men can have "dick swinging" contests. We got the Vagina Monologues. :(
The fear that comes with letting someone see part you that you really can't look at combined with the tendency for women to find their private parts a little gross (they are a little funky looking) makes some women reluctant to receive oral sex.
There is also the issue of whether oral sex does it for you or not. I've never been able to climax through oral and even if a guy brags about how he can go for hours at it, it's not a big part of my sex life at all. It can be very nice with someone you're comfortable with and I see allowing it as a sign of trust, but it's not something all women neccessarily like and are eager for.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 Not every woman is the same. Some women do not find receiving oral particularly stimulating or pleasurable and can easily do without it.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 May 2011):
 lots do (apparently) but not all like it coz i know that i don't (lots of partners have thought they could be the one to convert me - but no, sorry!) and lots of my friends don't like it either. if you GF doesn't like it then she doesn't like it or maybe you are not doing it right. what about your previous partners? or maybe there is nothing wrong with your technique, i have been with a number of men that promised me the most mind blowing time (so this sort of tells me that they have confidence in their ability)but then its not lived up to their claims! and it doesn't matter who i go with in the future, i cannot see myself ever enjoying that, so i can understand how your GF feels
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011): Some women feel "dirty down there" and need to be reassured that they are not only "clean" but "beautiful" and "taste great" and you "like doing it".
One bad experience with a guy can put them off of it, being told they "stink", "smell", "taste bad", etc. Just like a guy can be put off of it with a bad experience. I've got friends who don't like to do it. I love doing it.
My wife used to not like it...now she can't get enough of it, and she really firmly believes in the old saying "She comes first."
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011):
My girlfriend doesn't like it. She says it doesn't satisfy her like penetration does and she thinks it's kind of creepy or gross for me to have her genitals in her face. She doesn't like to give it either for the same reason, although she's done it a few times in the past. She will humor me and let me lick her for a little bit sometimes, but she says she gets no real enjoyment out of it. If I finger her at the same time she likes that, but overall she'd rather just have sex. I admit that my technique might stink, but overall if she's not into the idea of having a guy ogle her privates then no technique will change her mind and she's just not comfortable with that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 May 2011):
 some girls do some girls do not
most that I know do like getting it esp if the person giving it is talented at it...
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (18 May 2011):
 Hi
Many women like oral sex, and dont like to give it, and there are women who like to give it but not recieve it, it's each to their own. Maybe she cant relax when she knows she would climax, and finds this embarrassing, she could be affraid of enjoying it too much. Just take things slowly with her next time, and if she really dislikes this then I agree with aunt honesty try to find something else you could both enjoy, without the pressure.
I hope his has helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011): Maybe she gets off more on pleasing you, who knows? Or maybe she just isn't into it?
You should ask her, no harm in that.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 Relax and smell the roses. some gals just don't go for the reverse oral too much. don't read a bunch of stuff into it or 'over-think' it she's just shy.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 Every girl is different and I guess she just doesnt feel comfortable with you giving her oral sex. This is probably to do with her confidence and she cannot let herself relax. Dont pressure her if she doesnt like it well then find something else to do.
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