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*onski
writes:Not entirely sure with this, I'd like to think she likes me but I really struggle to tell the difference between what counts as friendship or relationship material.Basically put I met up with this girl who I got talking to online and I met up with her recently. We initially got talking before the meet up and agreed to go bowling and then go from there. Well we met up and almost instantaneously we started talking as if we'd known each other for a long time, there was no awkwardness and if anything I felt really comfortable and relaxed around her. We played 1 game of bowling and just asked each other questions whilst playing as well as a bit of teasing if we messed up a bowl. She was pretty much laughing and smiling the entire time and then afterwards we agreed to go for a coffee. After we settled down we were pretty much talking nonstop, the conversation had no awkward pauses and maintained eye contact 90% of the time (there were moments where we'd look away but then instantly snap back to each others eyes), one minute we'd be talking about things we like and then the next we'd be talking about things like places we've been to or family.Then after a while and losing track of time she asked if I'd like to get another drink somewhere else and we agreed to go to the local alternative pub. We got our drinks and sat upstairs where it was just us and we carried on talking even more and just generally making silly conversation and laughing at each others jokes. Then after a while she had to go meet up with friends at a restaurant but before we parted ways she asked if I'd like to come in with her but I politely declined as I had to get shopping done (not that I didn't want to spend more time, if anything I regret not staying). She pulled me in for a hug and we parted ways.One thing I noticed was she did mirror my poses quite a bit and if she had a drink she'd occasionally look down at it and fiddle with the ice before looking back at my eyes, and she did mention quite a lot about taking me places, meeting friends and potentially seeing her family.Normally I'd take these as signs she likes me and not resort to asking questions like these but as I said at the top of my post I'm really struggling to tell if this is just her personality and she's being friendly, I've tried flirting but either she is picking up on it and too embarrassed or she's oblivious to it (like for instance we agreed that if it's not raining next monday we'd go around town playing pokemon go and I said even if it is I've got an umbrella big enough for two and she just kinda sideskirted around it saying that she finds being under umbrella's with people awkward and she likes going at her own pace).It also says on her profile that she can be quite cuddly and affectionate and I know people can be generally like that in a friendly way and not have it mean anything. Also she's a demisexual as well as me so I find it quite odd if she does like me in that way as demisexual's only gain attraction if we feel really connected to people first. Any thoughts on this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 May 2017):
 Enjoy date number two. Don't over analysis everything.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (29 May 2017):
 Have a great date :)
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reader, N91 +, writes (29 May 2017):
 No problem.
Good luck for the future
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reader, Konski +, writes (29 May 2017):
Konski is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers Honeypie and N91. I'm going out on a 2nd date with her tomorrow and you were right, she didn't say it directly but she gave some very big hints to say she likes me romantically.
Thank you for your help :)
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reader, N91 +, writes (26 May 2017):
Yes she definitely likes you.
She wouldn't of asked you out for another drink and to go with her to the meal if she didn't.
Keep going with it, best of luck.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 May 2017):
I think she likes you. If she was "just" being friendly - she wouldn't have gone for BOTH coffee and a drink after the game of bowling. And she certainly wouldn't have asked you to continue onward to have dinner with her friends.
So yes, I think she likes you.
So check the weather Saturday/Sunday and if it looks like Monday is going to be great weather -CALL (not text) and ask her if she still wants to go catch some Pokemon. If the weather is looking like it's going to be crap GET 2 umbrellas and call her. Now she might decline AS it is Memorial Day weekend and she might already have family plans or the family might make some and theirs would take priority.
She might not have caught on to the flirting or she ISN'T big on flirting (some people aren't). Don't forget you two are still strangers. While you ARE getting acquainted you don't KNOW her personality fully and she doesn't know yours.
If you don't ask her out soon you will never know. Don't WAIT for her to spell it out. Don't try and second-guess things. If she doesn't want to go out with you again, I'm pretty sure she will tell you. And I don't think that is the case, as she mentioned several times of places and people she wanted you to met.
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