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anonymous
writes:Am I boring in relationships, I like going out dancing to live bands, taking walks in parks, going shopping,going to movies, holding hands, nice places to go eat, I like cooking, if a woman needs help at her place, I can do a lot when it comes to fixing things, I like giving presents,a sweet talker,I like listening how their day at work went, very polite, opening doors, am not a control freak, I let them have their own space, time with friends,I get left for guys who treat them, like they don't care about anythings,like i try to do for them,I always try to treat them like women always say they want to be treated by the guy they are with, you see women always come to me for advice, I just don't know how else you suppose to treat a woman,maybe am to much of a gentleman. I care about their feelings
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2016): Well to answer , one question, I only date women my age, or older, I have had a few women tell me , that cause I don't drink with them, it's boring,thanks for all your kind words, ive had three relationships in five years,I given my heart to each one of them , i know its not nice to say, but I hope they fined out what's karma is all about, they had the right to,end it,
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 July 2016):
 There's one thing I saw in your post. You say that your age is 51-59, right?? Nothing wrong with that, but are the women you're going after much younger, as in 20's and 30's??
You may come across as a creep if you're buying gifts and going after much younger women.
I have no problem with age differences, but you can't escape the feeling that an older gentleman going after much younger women are doing everything with the agenda of getting "hot, young tail".
You never specified whether or not the women you're interested in are your age.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 July 2016):
 I don't think it makes you boring, but is that "gentleman behavior" an act to woo the ladies, or just how you are?
Do you think it comes across as being genuine?
To me (and no, I don't prefer "bad boys" or men who doesn't treat me well) it wold make me uncomfortable if my partner/date fussed about me like I was made of china. I'm just not a fan of being treated like I can't do things for myself, here and there it's OK but constantly? That would be EXHAUSTING!
The whole damsel in distress and knight in shining armor, it's a bit outdated. You can treat a woman well, JUST by treating her as your equal, not some fragile princess.
As for the "sweet talker" - I'd drop that, if I were you. IT'S definitely outdated, and can come off as cringe-worthy and fake.
Gifts are lovely, but if you give them to someone you haven't dated long it can come off as if there were strings attached. Like you GAVE her that gift to get a little something-something in return. A thoughtful gift for a SPECIAL occasion or "just because" are LOVELY in a well-established relationship. But not to be overdone, because then it will lose the "special-ness" real quick.
You know the saying: " you can't buy happiness" ? You really can't buy someones affections either, not long term. Save your money.
I do agree that YOU might be picking the kind of woman who RATHER date a "bad boy" but tries out you because she thinks you are a novelty, different from what she is used to. So maybe? It has something to do with the "type" of women you approach?
Don't OVERDO it. Let it be genuine, organic and not over the top. Go slow. GET to know the person IN person. Learn what she likes, share hobbies, try new things and maybe NOT focus so much on what you *think* they expect or want but what feels right in the situation and with THAT particular woman.
And maybe try a different "type" of woman?
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (25 July 2016):
 I agree with Youwish, you sound like a lovely man! I really appreciate a man who treats a lady with love, kindness and respect. Is it possible you are trying too hard? We can't see how you act with the ladies so we only know what you tell us. It is possible that perhaps you come on a little too strong (not meaning to)??
Or as Youwish stated, are you possibly attracted to the kind of woman who likes the bad boy type? Keep in mind its really ok to be a little bit of a mystery when you are dating. I don't mean be elusive or standoffish..but again to follow behind Youwish..leave her wanting more...
Do not be always at a woman's beck and call...
I hope that helps. You sound like a nice man.and you deserve a lady that will appreciate you!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 July 2016):
You sound like a keeper! It's possible that you're attracted to the wrong kind of woman. Not all women are good, just like not all men are good. If you are finding that it's a pattern that women are leaving for "bad boys", then you're not going for the right women.
Can you be specific about two times this has happened for you?? Whenever a guy (or girl, we hear this story a lot about guys who leave loving girls for nasty ones) posts this, it's usually with a specific answer in mind.
Stay the same way you are, except don't make it obvious that you're like this! Doing stuff like this is great, but doing them all at the same time is like staring at the sun. Don't come on too strong. Don't give tons of gifts. You want to tantalize her, not smother her.
You're a GOOD guy! Always leave a woman wanting more.
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