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writes:Hi, I'm 4 months pregnant with my ex's baby we had been together 4 years and this was planned. We started going through a rocky period recently, during this time my ex slept with someone else and ended up finishing with me for her. I got in touch with him and he told me to get on with my own life as we was happy in his new relationship. I'm totaly devastated and I really don't understand as he was so excited about becoming a father for the first time, he's not a silly little boy he's 42.I really thought we were going to be a happy family, I'm heartbroken and would appreciate any advice or just someone to talk to. Do you think he's just scared and will come back? I desperately want us to get back together, I've not heard from him in over 2 weeks.
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (23 March 2009):
Of course you still love him... you agreed to have a child with him and that kind love and that dream doesn't go away in a few months. It must be so frightening to face going through this pregnancy on your own. I completely understand. Seriously, you are heartbroken and pregnant... this is no time to be proud... definitely reach out for the love and support you need from the people who love you. You sound like a lovely woman I know you won't be on your own forever, even though your fears may tell you this. Just try to get through the next few months one day at a time and it will get better. When the baby comes you will fall in love again - that's guaranteed. You WILL get through this. God never gives us more than we can handle, though sometimes it may feel like it. My heart is with you. Hold on to what is good in your heart and keep your faith that things will get better. BIG SUPERWARM HUG TO YOU!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for takeing the time to reply. family and friends have all told me the same but unfortunately i still love the guy. i'm scared of being on my own forever i don't want to go through the pregnancy on my own i want my babys father by myside.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 March 2009):
I wholeheartedly agree with the anonymous person below!
Not much more I can add really.
Except to make sure you have his address, call him and ask for it (plus date of birth nat insurance number etc) and tell him you need it to go to the CSA, and they can take a third of his paycheck every month for the baby.
See how happy he is to "move on" then.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (21 March 2009):
 The Anonymous poster took the words out of my mouth! Bravo that man! (I'm guessing you are a man)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): I'm so sorry sweetheart. That's excrutiating. He may be 42, but a man who would plan to have a child with his woman of 4 years and then dump her and take up with someone new after hitting a "rocky patch" is most definitely not a mature adult. This man is a horrible callous cowardly immature selfish bastard and I can't imagine why you would want him back. I know you are probably too shocked and heartbroken to be angry right now... and you want him back because at this moment you really need some support in your life. I just want to give you a huge hug. What you need right now is to find all the love and support you can from your friends and family. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and your soon-to-be child. I don't care if he's scared his behavior is beyond unexcuseable... if he tries to come back you should throw him out.
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