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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hiya! My name is Kate, I am 21 and I have been chatting to this lovely man who of which is 44 via email for the past 1 and a half years!I met him on a dating site, as I joint it to suport my friend who wanted to meet someone (I was forced to lol) So I did, and I got an email from John saying .. "hey, nice picture, can we chat, would like to but I think you might have a problem with the age" After that I emailed him, why not? as I wasnt looking for anything - so a wee bit of banter on msn wouldnt hurt, right? anyways, He works on cruise ships and is only home for 2 months on vacation everything 4 months after work. We exchanged numbers, starting chatting on the phone and texting - lovely person! He is funny and great! You could say I started Liking him. When he was at the airport for his work, he would always ring me up and i would chat to him for ages on end til he got his flight, at work we arrange times to talk and we chat nearly every night on msn - however, here comes the problem ...The question of meeting up was always in the air, and i agreed to it - so we did and it finally happened after a year! due to work and my other commitments.. uni and work etc ...it was great! we went for drinks and then back to his hotel - (he lives in ireland, he came over to scotland to see me) we fooled around a little but I told him that I didnt want to sleep with him .. yknow first night rule and all that! so we didnt, but it was amazing, in bed, he was holdin me so tight and his arms were around me .. It was so nice? I really dont care about his age - He is ana amzing person.We ended up sleeping togeather - after all he was over for the weekend. He's due back to work very shortly - which means less communication with him as hell be work and also cause of the time difference, so i thought id tell him how I felt - I told him I had a crush on him! and then he said a few things which I didn't like! He starting texting back saying that I am still young and I have a lot to live in life and that he doesn't want to hold me back in it, he then said that I am a sexy great young lady who he doesn't want to hold on to (in case he ruins things for me) - then he said that maybe we should wait for a couple of months and see what happens - no commitments and we shall see from there! I went off my head - I was drunk at the time when I was telling him this and I told him that he was to have a nice life and that he was to state his intentions in the first place. the next day he started chattin to me on msn and he was being so nice to me - asking me lots of questions, acting interested in what I was doing ... So I just said out straight "can I still come to Belfast" and then he said of course, any time you want why would I say no? then I said to him "does he see this going anywhere and would he want it to go anywhere" then he said "yes to both, I do like you, its just that it took so long to meet up" ... then I asked him if the age difference is defo not a problem? then he said that it is not a problem to him in any way.Can I become more to this guy? Could He be potentional b/f material? I have only met him the once, does he perhaps want to meet up again like we agreed then see how it goes?wbx
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 The odds are against the two of you getting together.
As soon as you said you had a crush on him he started backing away. That's not a good sign. On top of that he straight out told you he doesn't want to hang on to you. That isn't what a potential boyfriend says.
If you're interested in something casual, stick with it. If not, try meeting some local guys that you can spend more time with.
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