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writes:I am 33 and have recently become very good friends with a 23 yr old guy who calls and texts me all the time and I am attracted to him but he is really good looking and cannnot imagine that he would fancy me but am getting mixed messages.how do I find out once and for all without breaking our friendship. A mutual friend says their is some chemistry but am so scared of making the first move. please any advice would be appreciated
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 I dont see any problem with that!
There are so many older women married younger men. So why is not possible for you.
Princess Alexandra of Denmark who is over 40 just got married a man in his 20s. They are happy couples....
Go for it and good luck to you.
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reader, DKW +, writes (8 August 2008):
Go for it, but take it easy. He's probably gagging for you but a little intimidated because he assumes you're a lot more experienced than him and he doesn't want to mess up.
Guys in their thirties tend to be obsessed with work, physically out of shape, carry all the woes of the world on their shoulders so if a fit guy in his twenties is up for it, why the hell not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Love is love, My Love....If he finds you attractive, and you him, then go with the flow Sweet pea! Best Of Luck Love Bug!!
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 This happenend to me too.
The best advice I can give is take it very very slow.
Let him take the lead. i too got mixed messages..but I think because they are so young, they are testing out their "game".
So don't make the first move. You will know if he wants you. Then i say go for it, because he is overage.
Also, guys this age is only looking or fun. so if you get serious on them, they will run a mile away.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 That too, Lexilou.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Youger men LOVE older women. When I was single at 32 I used to meet a lot of my friends sons when out (most of my friends older) and apparantly I was milf. Mum Id like to f**k!!!!! Wow makes you feel good when a young lad interested.!!!!!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (8 August 2008):
All women are delicious, but they are best when in their thirties and forties. I can very well understand that he will find you very much attractive, and not only physically. He must be feeling overwhelmed by the attraction he feels. Which makes me wonder whether he really means love or just lust. That would be my real concern. He can mean real love, you know? There's no reason why he wouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Of course he can like you. Its not that big a age difference if you consider some of the other age differences there is in the world....
Someone has to make the first move. It may as well be you. He does like you, its almost certain and if he doesn't, who cares?! He'll understand. We aren't totally heartless as a gender.
Seriously, just go for it. What else can you do?! Its that or get over him.
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reader, Transcowboy +, writes (8 August 2008):
 The best way is just to ask him if he has ever though of you as something more then a friend. Remember age is just a number and does not really matter. Its the connection you have to the person that matters
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