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I haven't had any luck with women tonight, and it's made me miserable. How can I stop worrying about being single?

Q.   Why has coming home from a club become so depressing? I'm at a difficult time in my life. I'm not in a relationship and I feel like I really should be more capable at attracting women than I am. I'm 20 and I've only dated 4 women in my life, 3 of...

A.   15 January 2009: man, your young, you have your whole life to look foward ti. Trust me, when its the right time, you will met the right woman, i know, i was where you were a few months ago, i was about to give up on love and on women, but then she found me. Stop ... (read in full...)

How often to have contact with g/f & b/f?

Q.   I am wondering, how often do people have contact with their bf/gf? And by contact, I don't just mean seeing them face to face, but talking on the phone, sms/text messages, email, instant messages online etc... I liek to have contact with my bf ...

A.   10 January 2009: my girlfriend is really busy in college and very focus, We text each other every day and talk on the phone every night. It helps between dates lol. It really just depends on your boyfriend.I would talk to him and figure something out. ... (read in full...)

I need a better job, any suggestions?

Q.   Goodmorning my fellow earlybirds : ). My problem is related to finance and my relationship. I'm 18 and my bf is 21 and he makes like 3.5 times as much as i do. I work at starbucks and I've been working there for like 8 months now, and its my 1st j...

A.   23 December 2008: Have you though about applying to some hospitals in your area. There are things you can do there that you do not need a degree. They have health benefits and also most hospitals will help you if you want to go back to school. ... (read in full...)

Symbolism of ring: Could it be given as only a christmas present?

Q.   I'd like to get my 22 GF some jewellery for Christmas. We have been dating for 15 months and this is our 2nd christmas together. I have already given her a necklace and bracelet. Should I get her a ring? I feel like the symbolism of a rin...

A.   19 December 2008: a ring is nice, i would just make sure to tell her that it is not an engagement ring. Or you could get her earrings, which would go with the necklace and braclet you got her the christmases before.... (read in full...)

I'm 21 he's 57, is the age gap too much?

Q.   Hi, I am a 21 year old female and I recently met a guy off a dating site and we really have hit it off big time - sexually and spiritually! He's so considerate, loveable and all-over gorgeous and I may be falling in love with him. Trouble is, he's ...

A.   4 November 2008: I have always said age is just a number. I mean my Girlfriend is 12 years older then me, i don't see it as a big difference. I do think tho, that 36 years is a bit much. That is like dating your dad. I would just be afraid that something would ... (read in full...)

I'm devastated... the love of my life confessed to me that he is really a woman.

Q.   Not sure where to begin and not sure of what kind of advice I'm looking for either. I met a wonderful 'man' online 8 years ago. He was the most caring, thoughtful, sweet and honest person I have ever met. We had a history... a love that was just ...

A.   11 October 2008: i have been there, i have gone though what you have, but i have been him/her. There are alot of reasons why this person did what they did. I am not trying to condone there actions. if you cant, send me a private messege and i will tell you my story. ... (read in full...)

Does anyone out there believe in Soulmates???

Q.   This is more of asking your opinions... does anyone believe in soulmates? and if yes how do you know when your find your soulmate? Thanks....

A.   9 October 2008: I am a true believer in the idea of soulmates. I know in my heart that there is one person out there for everyone and finding that person is half the fun. But when you find him/her you will know. You will be able to commuicate so well where you ... (read in full...)

Will God forgive my dead cousin for her gesture? I am open minded to all different beliefs.

Q.   My cousin killed herself. She was 27yrs old. In my church we were always taught that if you kill youself then you are going to burn in hell forever. And I was eavesdropping when some family didnt know I was there and I heard them saying things about ...

A.   2 September 2008: I am not religious at all. but i do believe that god loves everyone and would never let one of his children suffer in hell if they were a good person. Yes your cousin killed herself but i do not believe she will burn in hell. I think she is watching ... (read in full...)

In regards to cyber-relationships, can you really be friends with someone you've never met?

Q.   Ok, I spend a lot of time on the internet playing online games etc and enjoy chatting to the new people I meet. I am VERY careful as to what I reveal about myself which is not the issue here. My question is whether or not you can have a true fri...

A.   12 August 2008: You can truly be friends with people you never met, I met my best friend in the whole world in a poker chat room about 3 years ago. You would never know that we never met by the way we talk to each other. With some people it doesnt matter how u meet ... (read in full...)

Can he really fancy me if I am 10 years older?

Q.   I am 33 and have recently become very good friends with a 23 yr old guy who calls and texts me all the time and I am attracted to him but he is really good looking and cannnot imagine that he would fancy me but am getting mixed messages.how do I ...

A.   8 August 2008: The best way is just to ask him if he has ever though of you as something more then a friend. Remember age is just a number and does not really matter. Its the connection you have to the person that matters... (read in full...)

Crush on much older woman!

Q.   Hi everyone, I becanme friends with a woman twice my age. She's an artist and so am I, and although very different, we have a lot in common. She's supposed to be straight. She's divorced. But I feel there's a common affection, that is very strong. ...

A.   5 August 2008: I think you the two of you are great friends. I would be careful about how you go about this. Because if she does not feel the same way, you could loss a great friend.I would just talk to her and ask her in a vague way and test the waters, just be ... (read in full...)

His overprotective family is making him choose!!

Q.   I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost three years now, and his family have been there to invade our privacy the whole time. No matter where we go or what we do, they are always phoning him, even if he is about to see them, or has just ...

A.   15 July 2008: Its time to move on. After three years and nothing has gotten better. Any man would be going crazy if there family ran there life. He knows he doesnt have to do anything and why should he change, if he gets money for doing nothing and everything he ... (read in full...)

How do you get rid of the memories?

Q.   Hi, I would just like to ask if anyone knows how to forget about someone, and get rid of memories of someone they onced cared about? About a year and a half ago I very nearly got with the most fantastic girl i ever met - asked her out and she...

A.   8 July 2008: You never get rid of the memories completely, trust me on this. Everyday will get a bit better tho. You will still have times you remember and you will smile. You will meet someone else who is even more incredible then you could ever dream. I always ... (read in full...)

I'm falling for someone who is Transgendered....from female to male...

Q.   Hi! So...this is complicated. I will try to condense it some to make it more readable. I was engaged to a guy, who after 3 years told me he wanted to be a woman. I cut off the relationship as I just couldn't deal with him wearing my clothes and such...

A.   28 June 2008: Dont feel like a jerk. With your ex, its simple you saw him as a man, and to picture hiim as a woman freaked you out, which is understandable. With this new person, you already see him as a guy, even tho you know he is not. Yeah i know it sounds ... (read in full...)

Why did my ex contact me for no reason? Was she thinking of me?

Q.   so i live in the states for univeristy, and on the last day of exams my ex decided to text me for no reason other than to ask me how i was, and how the semester ended. i replied with a cold good and im getting ready to go back home, and then she ...

A.   27 June 2008: Only she knows why she texted you. It could have been cause she was wondering how you were going, could have been that she misses you. Or it could have been for some silly reason only she knows. Dont spend alot of time wondering what everything ... (read in full...)

I'm worried that I just messed up our friendship. Do you think I did?

Q.   I have this friend, and i totally dig her, she is awesome. She is going though a divorce and i'm being a good supportive friend. Which is so hard to do, because i have feelings for her. Well i did something stupid, i sent her an email with a poem...

A.   25 June 2008: well i sent her the poem, and she emailed me back asking who was it for, i told her it was for her, she said Wow, idk what to say. and now im worried. she hasnt emailed me back in a day, we email each other everyday, im thinking maybe she needs time ... (read in full...)

What's a good movie genre for a date? I want one that will make it easy to touch her hand or kiss!

Q.   i'm due to go on date to cinema with my friend. I want to kiss her, but problem is there's no romantic film out to watch, in fact there's so many horror movies. Is horror movie good to watch? Any genre film which will make her or make it easy for me ...

A.   22 June 2008: I always prefer to take a date to a horror movie, its the perfect way to be able to put ur arm around her if she is scared. Trust me, it works. As for the kiss, you will just know when the time is right... (read in full...)

I have recently fallen for my neigbours wife after knowing her for over 20 years!

Q.   My neighbor and best friend married a girl 22 years ago. A few months before the wedding I chanced across his fiance on the beach. We sat and talked for 4 hours. One of the topics was that she and he could never "talk". Over the years, whenever ...

A.   17 June 2008: i'm probably going to sound like the bad person here but i dont care. GO FOR IT. if you have feelings for this woman, tell her, she might have the same feelings. Would you rather feel like this the rest of your life and wondering what could have ... (read in full...)

Anyone knows of an Internet site to meet people?

Q.   I am a divorced woman in my mid-40s. I'm thinking of signing up with an Internet dating site. Which sites are the best is I want to meet a man interested in a long-term exclusive relationship? ...

A.   14 June 2008: your best bet is to try www.plentyoffish.com Its totally free and i have met some awesome people on it, best of luck to you... (read in full...)

Did he give me his business website, in hopes that I would call him?

Q.   i have met a guy on myspace and we clicked and have spent hours on instant messenger, we have not exchanged phone numbers yet but have made tenative plans to met in the future. he owns his own biz and gave me his website address, this has his ...

A.   12 June 2008: I say call the guy. Go for it ... (read in full...)

I happened to see my son masturbating and don't quite know what to do about it!

Q.   I am a mother of 2 kids, 11 year old boy and 8 year old girl. My husband is on a business tour and will be back only after two months. Couple of days back I happened to see my son doing masterbation in his bedroom. He does not know that I have seen ...

A.   3 June 2008: Its perfectly normal for boys his age to start to masterbate. It feels good and he is not hurting anyone by doing it. I would tell you NOT to talk to him about it. Boys dont like talking to there mom about stuff like this and it may embarrass him. ... (read in full...)

Its my first time, I'm 13! help!

Q.   hey, my name is maria. im 13 years old, and my boyfriend is 15. weve been together for a year, and im ready to have sex for my first time. im not scared or anything, but i am nervous! its not his first time, so i dont know what he expects out of m...

A.   20 May 2008: You are too young for sex. You may be ready but your body sure aint. Wait a few years, you will be glad you did... (read in full...)

I'm 25, so why am I still single?

Q.   Why am I still single? I'm a 25 year-old intelligent woman with a college education and a good job. I would say I'm above average in appearance, though slightly overweight, but I have lost weight recently and I'm getting many positive comments about ...

A.   13 April 2008: Dont give up, there is somone out there for everyeone. That is what they tell me. At least you have had some relationships. Im 26 years old, and never had a girlfriend. It just takes time. Someone wil come along. Dont feel pressured by your mother ... (read in full...)

I'm single and he's married, is it possible to be 'just friends'?

Q.   Can a man and woman be friends? He is married, I am single. We were friends in college, ran into one another, and I am not sure if a friendship is appropriate. I feel I can be friends without complication, but can a man? Do they seek friendship f...

A.   30 March 2008: I see no problem in just being friends as long as you keep it just as frineds. Im a 26 year old guy, and most of my friends are married woman. I just find them easy to talk to. I know enough about them to respect them.... (read in full...)

I'm 25 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend, where can we meet in private?

Q.   Ridiculous as it sounds, I'm 25 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend. They're very snobby and he is from a less priviliged background and they don't think he is good enough for me. We had been seeing each other 6 months befor...

A.   29 March 2008: Since you are both students, why dont you try to meet on campus, maybe at the libraray or the coffee shop. If that doesnt work, you could maybe meet at the mall or park. There are tons of places you could meet and then your parents wouldnt know. ... (read in full...)

Can mother-in-law legally force my husband and I to allow her access to our kids?

Q.   Okay,My husband and I do not allow for his mother(childrens grandmother) to see our children,for many reasons She has talked very Bad about my 2 kids a 4yr old and 18 month old(thats only 1 of many reasons)just to make it clear NO type of abuse is ...

A.   29 March 2008: Legally your mother in law has no basic, you and your husband are the childrens legal guardians and have the right to decide who gets to see the children, She is welcome to try, but no judge will hear the case... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers masturbation/porn to sex???

Q.   My boyfriend and I live together and have what others consider a perfect relationship. This is going to be a bit long winded, but I feel I need to start at the beginning so that it is all properly understood. When I first moved in, I quickly re...

A.   20 March 2008: I don't understand why you stayed with him for so long. For him to treat you like that is insane and not right. Yes, us men masterbate. But we also like having sex. If he is not even intersted in the real thing, i think you should leave him and find ... (read in full...)

My husband really wants a baby of our own but I can't have one, what are our other options?

Q.   Hello loves, I really am hoping someone can give me a few options here, im 27 years old, and my husband and I have been married for 4 years, 3 years ago we tried for a baby but failed. We've kept trying and no success, I've had 6 miscarriages. Im so ...

A.   13 March 2008: if the main problem is that you can not carry a baby. Then maybe you should see if u can find someone who would be willing to carry the baby for you, they can implant your egg and your husband sperm in someone else, that is not a problem. It might ... (read in full...)

Should I ask this girl out at work, even with the age difference?

Q.   My problem is that there is a girl who I work with that I want to ask out. You see I've started a new part time job at this place in november, a month before I started a girl joined part time as well. We are always talking a lot during our shifts ...

A.   12 March 2008: Go for it and ask her out. ... (read in full...)

I need to move on with my life, because I see no future with her. Please help me!

Q.   I can't get my ex out of my head. She split up with me almost a year and 4 months ago, and I still think about her every day. I worry I'll never find and love another one like her. What can I do to stop dwelling over my break up for good?? Anything ...

A.   10 March 2008: There is no magic pill you can take to forget someone you cared about. No matter what your friends do or say. It is just going to take time. It might take u months or years. In the end you will never completely forget about her. She will always be a ... (read in full...)

How can I handle my girlfriend not showing me she loves me??

Q.   I have been with my g/f for about 2 months but we really have been together for 7 just not officially. She does not show me any affection. I almost feel like she doesn't like me or anything. She tells me all the time that she does, but i have to ...

A.   7 March 2008: Dude, i hate to say it, but i dont think she is into you, Why do you want to put time into a relationship that is one sided. Go find yourself a nice gal who will treat you well.... (read in full...)

I'm scared I will end up alone...without the family and marriage I want.

Q.   hi, I am really worried that no one will ever fall in love with me again and i wont get the family and happy marriage that i have always dreamt of! I have had one successful relationship that lasted two and a half years but we broke up in augu...

A.   2 March 2008: you will not end up alone, you are still very young and will find the right person, i would stop worrying about it. It will happen. I was like that when i was your age, and with time and age you understand that things happen when they do. Don't rush ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know any good sex songs?

Q.   does anyone know any good sex songs (non romantic) that would be fun to play at a party?...

A.   2 March 2008: i like The Hot Tub song by Phil Vassar... (read in full...)

Approaching a girl.

Q.   Here's the scenario. I'm 15, I'm at a party, I see a girl that is like an angel. How would I approach her? What would I say? Because I don't want to sound/look like an idiot. Please, pleeeeease help me on this....

A.   1 March 2008: Well if your at a party, and the music is good, just go up to her and ask her to dance. If its not that kind of party, just go up to her and be yourself, dont try to impress her by being someone your not. ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure if I should be doing this stuff...

Q.   I really like this kid. I don't know though, I'm trying not to get too involved because I don't want to get too attached because I'm sick of stuff like this but whatever anyways, he came over my house today and we did stuff. He tried to get it in, ...

A.   28 February 2008: you are too young to be doing anything like that, you need to enjoy being a kid and not be in such a hurry to grow up. If he tries it again, tell him no.... (read in full...)

What do I write on my ex's birthday card?... I still love her.

Q.   Ok, so i dont know how to explain this or anything so here it goes. My ex's birthday is in a few days and i want to send her a birthday e-card. I just dont want to say Happy Birthday I am usually so good with words but im at lost for some here, ...

A.   27 February 2008: She is married now with a cute little girl. so us getting back together is not an option. i just want her to know i care and that im thinking of her... (read in full...)

Is his watching horror films just a "bloke thing" or should I be a bit worried about my husband's state of mind?

Q.   Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, I have a question about horror films. My husband loves to watch them, including some pretty gory, ultra violent ones. I don't like them but I will watch them sometimes although I don't like the really bad ones....

A.   17 February 2008: All guys like to watch horror films, its not cause we are crazy. We just get a thrill from them. If it really bothers you talk to your husband about it. ... (read in full...)

I am willing to have a secret affair with a co-worker (we both have troubled marriages.) Please advise.

Q.   I am 34 years old, married for 6 years, with 2 children. My husband and I have began on a rocky road. His family caused alot of trouble between us the first 2 years. We finally got past that, only to run into financial trouble. My husband is a ...

A.   9 February 2008: I say go for it, but also change your life if your not happy, Divorce the Hubby, but if u want to continue with the other guy, and he makes you happy that is all that matters.... (read in full...)

He thinks we're friends but I love him! What do I do?

Q.   This is going to sound really sad, but please read on... your advice would be much appreciated... I have known a guy for nearly 25 years (I'm 40, he's 41, not your classic I this site I guess). I have always loved him, as botha friend, but ...

A.   8 February 2008: The way i see it you can two things, go on like this and cry over him. It wont change the fact that he doesnt know. Or you can sit him down and explain everything to him, tell him how you feel. The worst he can say is he doesnt feel the same way, ... (read in full...)

How can I fall out of love with my best friend, to go back to the friendship we had before we started dating?

Q.   i fell in love with my best friend, wed know each other for 6 months she was new and we got really close really fast. i finally asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. we went out for a month and a half. all we did we talk about how we never ...

A.   6 February 2008: Im going though the same thing. It just depends how solid your friendship was before you got envovoled. Some people can go back to being friends after it is all said and done, and i hope that you two are able to do that, i would just tell you to ... (read in full...)

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