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30-35,
*ebeccaa
writes:Hello, im slightly worried dont know if im paranoid but, but my gut feeling is telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me, and your gut instinct is always right, right?My boyfriend works at a m.o.t place not far from where i live. He normally only works there on a saturday for some extra money. In the week he is studying ready to leave school. He normally comes to get me after school and i go to his, however we have a two week break from studying then go back to school for another six weeks then leave school. His dad works as a lorry dirver and is away the majority of the week. On the saturday just gone he was going to go with his dad in the lorry and come back the next morning, they would set off at 4 in the morning. At about 5pm before they went me his mum his and and him were in the local pub, when he saw his boss. He asked if he could work, and he said yes. So instead of going with his dad he went to work on the saturday morning and his mum went with his dad in the lorry. He came to get me at about 6pm and said he has finished late, he also told me he was working the next day. There is a girl who works there in the office who is about my age. So anyway he went to work the next morning (sunday) and got home about 6pm again he said he had been busy again and was tired, and was working again the nexy day (monday, today) we had arranged to spend the whole day together on monay as his mum had gone with his dad again and wasnt home for a few days so we were going to have a nice romantic day in watching dvds and what not, so because he couldnt we had a bit of an argument nothing big but he claimed to have 'forgot' about it. He said no matter what he was working. So eventually that day he came to get me at about half 7. But the thing is i havnt heard nothing from him since he text at about 4 oclock saying hes still at work and its not nearly 8 o'clock and ive not heard anything and he said he was late when it was 6. What if hes cheating on me with that girl? I asked him about her, he said he talked to her abit and she asked if he had a girlfriend and he said yes but then she didnt say anything else. What do you think am i right, or just paranoid please help!!!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (3 April 2012):
 If you have doubts show up at his work place with a sandwich, chips and a drink/soda since he is working so late. Don't tell him just show up, either your gut is right or your imagination is working overtime.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 April 2012):
 He said it was “just because he was jealous about my ex and wanted to see what I would do”
Well that’s a lovely reason to break trust.
If you don’t trust him you have no relationship.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 Well if he has broken your trust before then that's a different story, but what was it that he didn't trust about your ex, had you done anything wrong on him to make him do that? It sounds like you both need to sit down and talk about this properly.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 I think there could be something else going on here. Not just work. If he has broken your trust before then you know in your own self what the answer is. trust your instincts normally they are correct.
Good luck
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (2 April 2012):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes he has broke my trust before he asked my best friend over face book to have sex with him, i saw the messages but he says it was just because he was jealous about my ex, and wanted to see what i would do.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (2 April 2012):
 Sounds like he is just working hard making the most of extra hours and cash.
Is there anything else other than the extra hours that makes you think he may be cheating? Is he getting dressed up for work? Or is he in his usual work gear when he picks you up? Is he using his mobile in secret? Are you arguing more?
Don't take one event in isolation and conclude he is cheating.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (2 April 2012):
To be honest he might just be genuine and you could just be jumping to conclusions here? Do you not trust him? Obviously not if you feel just because he has been working a few days late you automatically think he is cheating on you. I guess the only thing you can do is be honest with him about how you are feeling. Has he cheated in the past or broke your trust for you to automatically just feel like he is cheating on you? Obvious there is some trust issues there that need to be addressed here.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (2 April 2012):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe just rang me and said hes finishing now, but its too late for me to see him now, and hes working again tomorrow. Its only supposed to be a saturday job, and his boss wasnt even ringing him to come in on saturdays now all of a sudden hes going every day!
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