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writes:Is it true that older men make better lovers, due to experience?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I don't think so.
Not necessarily an older man is more experienced than a young one. A monogamous 50 y.o. man who is widowed or divorced after 25 years of marriage will have less experience of a 20something kid who is out and about having fun and experimenting every night.
Then, maybe experience is not the most relevant quality for being a good lover. Every woman is different, likes to make love in a different way , and reacts to very different stimulations. A good lover is the one who is able to give much pleasure to ME- I don't care if his moves worked wonders on all his exes.
So, the ability to get in tune with my needs, and also the humility to follow directions :) are what counts in a lover, not his age.
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Let's put it this way: A man at 35 will be a better lover than he was at 20 in 99% of the cases.
But this doesn't mean that he will be a better lover than some other guy who's 26, mainly for 3 reasons:
1) Some people are born with more "potential" then others. So some people are naturally just more talented.
2) Not everybody develops their "potential" at the same speed.
3) Not everybody learns "hard skills" at the same pace.
"Potential" here can mean a lot of stuff, like self-confidence, ability to express oneself, ability to connect to another person, to empathise with what they like or dislike... Also, the hard skills which are more generic knowledge about sex in general. You get that by openly talking about sex or reading material on it.
Also, there are circumstantial things, maybe the guy is going through a rough period in life, or he is having health issues that affect his sexual performance.
There is also personal chemistry, no matter how good the guy is, maybe he's just not your type.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 That's a common trope in erotic literature but I find it's not neccessarily true. I've met men in the age group who were wonderful lovers and then others who weren't the five minutes I spent with them (apart from the cum, I mean, which is always worth it). I could say similar things about younger men.
The bottom line is, how good a lover a man is (or a woman) has less to do with age and more to do with technique, talent, how much they care to give you pleasure...a lot more of it is in the brain than anywhere else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo it all depends on how you've mastered your technique.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Picky is good. I'm picky, too... you have to sacrifice and compromise in a relationship and I wouldn't sacrifice it all for just anyone.
I don't think that older men would necessarily be better lovers; maturity and experience are important too.
I'm 29-ish and I've never had sex at all (I'm not saying that as a good or bad thing; just being matter of fact). Most people who are younger than I am are more experienced sexually. Everything comes in its own time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Yes! I looove older men too! But I go for 35 and up...my current and first bf made it at 34. I'm 18. Just the fact that hes older turns me on...I attack him when he gets home from work! He has more sexual experience of course (hes my first), but he lets me lead once in a while and wow! I luv it! Careful when picking an older guy to date though, some are out to take advantage and use you as a little sex toy. You have to get 2 know them and let them know off the bat you're not going to be a passing fantasy or plaything or expect them to be sugar daddies. But mmmm! Luv the age diff! Just looking at my man make my legs water..its not just that hes handsome but soo intelligent, strong, and wise...and able to turn me on with one touch or look :p lol
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I am an older man and a better lover for it. When I was younger it was all about me. Now it's more about the woman. I don't expect everyone's the same though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Some are some aren't but one thing that sucks when men get over 40 is that a lot of them seem to lose their ability to get rock gard or hard at all....thats why we have all the viagra commercials.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question30 is too close to 20. I know I'm picky.
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reader, romany  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 why 40-50?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto specify the age group that I mean, 40 - 50
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reader, Kenj +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I think a lot of older guys have the infactuation thing out of their system and have finished being players therefore wanting to settle down.
So yes some older guys can be better lovers. Plus they are likley to have more experience when it comes to knowing how to treat a good woman.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (24 September 2010):
 what if the older man has only ever had one partner ... it does happen you know, so his experience could/would be limited.
Some older men have only ever indulged in sex, not love making, I doubt they would make better lovers regardless of how many years experience they have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know any 40-50 year olds that would go out with a 18 year old. I guess I have to look around. :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Why not try one and find out?
There is more to being a good lover then any one characteristic. Some are awesome I'm sure, some not so much.
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