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writes:I broke up with him about a month ago because he was mistreating me, yelling too often. I know I broke his heart. We had a bitter breakup, he got very cranky and both of us said we didn't want to speak again. After less than three weeks of no contact, he called me. I missed the call. I later text him asking what he wanted, he wanted to know how I was. I told him I was good and said nothing else. He tried to call me again later. I didn't answer. I text him later saying 'what do you want to know now?' I tried to return the call, but got voice mail. I know it was pretty nasty of me. As much as I want us to just get along, I find it hard after all he said to me was very cruel and he would never apologize. I feel like I should now make the effort to contact him, as he's tried and I've shot him down. Should I contact him? Ideas on what to say? I don't necessarily want us back together as his attitude towards me won't change, I just want us to not be bitter.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 July 2013):
 Why do you worry about being in good terms with someone who was mistreating you and yelling at you ? He was cruel, he never apologized, you agreed you did not want to be in touch anymore - he changes his mind, and you shot him down, as it was your right to do, and surely the most sensible thing too. Perhaps you could have been a bit more diplomatic, but that only counts if you wanted to stay friends with him, which , I think, it's superfluous and inappropriate, because a) he's an ex b) someone who yells you and mistreats does not qualify as a potential good friend.
Just think .good riddance, and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2013): I think any kind of break up never really falls the way you want it too. Maybe its too raw to reach a happy medium just yet, give it time and perhaps eventually you can reach common ground and be civil. The more communication you have with each other right now the more likely you will be to argue etc maybe it is best left so you can both evaluate what went wrong and learn from mistakes. Moving forward, if that is what you really want, should be your concern, good luck.
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