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writes:I am in a real mess. Married 25 years. First year a guy friend tried to get next to me, then another one over a 12 year period. Husband knew but I didn't confirm it at the time. He even thinks I have them over our house, because about 20 years ago in our former home I let one man in to wait for him to come home. The men planted doubt in our relationship and had even lied about seeing my husband and being told to wait for him. I let him in believing this. My husband was furious and believes that we had plans. Now, 13 years later, after the men are out of our lives, he won't let it go. I have repeatedly confessed what happened but he believes sex or sex talk was involved. He even had affairs with several women and confessed this to me but he won't believe or trust me. He started drugs and some abuse verbally and physically when high. We love each other but can't get past this. He sometimes thinks that I am involved with them still. has access to all my calls on cell, email, and knows everywhere I go. I don't know what else to do.I have prayed and prayed, cried and cried. Any suggestions?
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reader, love girl  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 in my opinion you should talk and work it out but if it is as you say , i think its better to beak up , i know that its not easy after these years but a relation ship without trust is no relationship at all you'll always have fights espacially if he's an adect , abusive ,and a cheater , he's going to hurt you bad , and i'm sure he done it
i think you should leave him
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Yes leave this hypocrite and find a man who loves,cherishes and trusts you 100%.
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