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writes: Ok so basically I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 3 years.We are happy enough, don't really feel butterflies that much any more but we do love each other and he cares about me dearly as I do him. We have fun together and he is my best friend. A week ago I was with my friends wait for a club night to happen, but it never did so as I had a free house I invited my friends over to mine we has a laugh. I got very very drunk and when I'm drunk I get very lovey. I cuddle everyone and kiss girls ( as I'm sure most 18 year old girls do) I was kissing this one girl and my guy friend came in and we had a three way kiss. Now this guy and the girl and seeing each other. Now this is after he has cheated on his girlfriend with the girl! I feel awful and I don't know what to do I love my boyfriend and want to tell him but when I have said anything like this in the past he get aggressive and tends to hurt me. I and really scared and sad about this, what do I do. Sorry it's so long . Help me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2015): you need to stop getting drunk if you are not able to control yourself . ( only if you are single )
And if he physically hits you , you need to dump him
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should say this is the first and last time this has happens, what I mean by things like this is if I say that I have done something when I in fact haven't
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 February 2015):
 When you cheat your boyfriend gets aggressive?
You do get why he becomes upset, I hope. If you're so "affectionate" when you get drunk that you cheat, and then your boyfriend gets so aggressive you are afraid of him, then really, honey, what are you two doing? This "relationship" as you call it needs to be put to an end, because all I can see it a whole ton of drama and heartache and zero respect for one another.
If you're in a relationship you DO NOT go around kissing others, whether they be girls or not. And NO, other teenage girls do NOT do this, you are single handedly responsible for YOUR actions, and can not go around saying "everyone else is doing it" as some form of cover up.
Take responsibility for your actions. You cheated. Own up to it and tell your boyfriend. If he get angry, well you know what.. You kind of had it coming. Now, if he hits you then that's not acceptable, but you can't blame a guy for getting upset when you cheat on him. As this has happened on other occasions though, I really do not see why you have a need to stay in a relationship with him. If you're in a relationship you don't go around kissing and cuddling with others, and if you have a need to do this then you can not be in a relationship. It's that simple.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (24 February 2015):
 So you are just going to not tell him and IF he somehow learns about you will pull out the.. I was drunk excuse?
I think YOU need to have some boundaries for yourself. Maybe LOADS of 18 year old girls kiss people, IF THEY ARE SINGLE.. YOU are not.
A kiss on the cheek, sure, not a big deal.. - a snog? no, I don't think it's OK and more importantly... neither does your BF. Otherwise he wouldn't have gotten so upset in the past.
However, ALL this kissing and getting drunk PALES in comparison to your BF actions...
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** he get aggressive and tends to hurt me.***
So he gets violent with you? How is that EVER OK? And why are you still with him? (please don't say because you love him.. because no one should FEAR the ones they love.) Hurting YOU is NEVER OK. NEVER.
Maybe it IS time for you to walk away and be single a while. You kind of seem like you have some things you STILL want to do that is more fitting for a single person, then one in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2015): When you say he hurts you, do you mean physically? If so, you need to get away from this guy now, while you're still young and unscarred by years of physical abuse. It will only get worse with time.
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