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A close friend told me that my boyfriend isn't a good guy!

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Question - (29 April 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 May 2015)
A female Canada age 22-25, anonymous writes:

A close friend of mine recently told me that my bf isn't a good guy!he said he s very mean and took his friendship for granted and took advantage of his friendship. he is telling me not to have a relationship with him as he might cheat on me or take advantage of me and leave me. Its been 6 months of my relationship and i love him so much and i really feel that he loves me too! i dont want to get hurt so what should i do! should i breakup with him?or continue?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 May 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI can see why your friend would suggest these things after how their friendship ended, but ONE thing is THEIR friendship, another is YOUR relationship.

You friend might HAVE ulterior motives (such as "revenge" for the end if a friendship, or because HE felt it was ALL your BF's fault the friendship failed, which... might NOT be entirely true.)

Yes, you BF can leave you, he can cheat on you. It CAN happen. However if you END an otherwise great relationships over something that can potentially happen (according to your friend) you are selling YOURSELF and your BF short.

YOU are the one dating this guy, NOT your friend. And if your BF has DONE nothing to mess up the relationship I think you should give it a chance. And take what your friend says with a grain of salt.

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A female reader, LiveAnnLearn Serbia +, writes (30 April 2015):

LiveAnnLearn agony auntPeople have more than one face and their behavior depends on the circumstances, who knows what happened between your friend and boyfriend and how did your friend perceive it, how objective is he etc. If it's something several people told you it would be a concern, but I wouldn't really base much on the opinion of just one friend (who may have ulterior motives himself).

There's always a chance of getting hurt but it's worth it if you're enjoying the relationship as much as it seems that you do ;)

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (29 April 2015):

N91 agony auntHas your bf ever given you a reason to not trust him?

Are you sure your friend isn't trying to break you guys up because he likes you?

We need more information.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2015):


I think you have to continue until YOU find out what he's like and how YOU find him to be.

Your friend may be right, from his point of view, or he may have an ulterior motive.

Even if he is being truthful, you can't base anything on what someone else says. He will see things from his point of view,but your boyfriend may be able to put a totally different slant on it. We all see things so differently, especially when we're involved in the situation. There are misunderstandings and different expectations and lots of other things that could be colouring your friends opinion of your boyfriend.

You be the judge of the people in your life.

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