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... Send *heeler a private message | | | *heeler's profile:I am from Mississippi, and have lived most of my life here. In the past I was not particularly excited about living in a rural state, but over the past few years have come to realize the good things about the South that made me who I am.
I now live in San Antonio.
I am from a big family, seven kids.
Just like all of you, I am trying to navigate through life's many ups and downs, and relationships certainly provide plenty of these. Personal relationships bring more fulfillment to life than anything else. How much does it mean to have a beautiful home, plenty of money, and success if you are alone?
Thankfully, we can get through all of it together!
I have been through some crazy situations in my life, and will gladly offer any advice I can to help someone else.
I don't pretend to know more than anyone else, but I do know that whenever you are inside the problem it is much harder to get perspective. And that is why we are all here!
Hopefully I can give back just a portion of what has been given to me.
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How can I get him to comfrot me when I feel sad?
Q. Last night I started to cry because I had a bad dream about my boyfriend but he wouldn't comfort me when I was crying. He wouldn't even talk to me. How can I get him to comfort me when I feel sad?...
A. 7 February 2011: How long have you known this guy?
I am gonna go out on a limb and suggest that maybe this guy is not the type to show physical affection outside of the times when physical affection is part of sexual intimacy. If he doesn't tend to hold your han... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking she's doing something that she probably isn't?
Q. This may be a mix of me having trust issues and being the jealous boy I am, but my girlfriend and I are very serious about each other. She trusts me, and I "trust her". For some reason, I always find myself sitting here in pitty thinking my girlf...
A. 7 February 2011: My question is how does she respond to your questions when you do have them?
If a GF responds usually by dismissing the question as ridiculous, or ultimately not taking any action to help alleviate your fears at least some of the time, that is ... (read in full...)
Am I needy or is my boyfriend a prick?
Q. I need help deciding whether my anger at my boyfriend is justified. I live in Florida. He lives in Texas. I go visit him about once a month. In November he and I agreed that next weekend, Feb. 11 and 12, I would visit. I bought the plane ticket...
A. 7 February 2011: Geezus...well I wrote a book and accidently deleted it when switching pages to determine how many beers are in a keg. Long story, no pun intended.
What I wrote, which I will now synopsize, is that telling this young lady to cancel and reschedu... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he doesn't know why this dating website sends him emails
Q. Hi all! Some of you posters have been really helpful with my last situation... so I'm hoping you can help me with this one! I recently found e-mails (for updates, it seems) from Lavalife in my boyfriend's inbox. Normally that kind of stuff wouldn'...
A. 7 February 2011: I can say first hand that lavalife somehow has me on their mailing list and I get TONS of unwanted e-mails. I have been getting them for what seems like several years.
I didn't even know what lavalife was until you posted this.
That e-mail a... (read in full...)
How to recover from broken heart? Should I ever go back?
Q. last night my boyfriend broke up with me because we never see each other. I love him so so so much this is just killing me. he said he loves me too, he really really loves me and he says I'm an amazing girl and such but he still broke up with me... ...
A. 6 February 2011: You are too young to really understand that you will be okay soon. And I know you probably don't want to hear that "time heals everything", and that is not what I am saying.
In fact, I am currently in the middle of an extremely sudden break-up... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between her and her ex
Q. hey righty I was browsing on my girlfriends phone when she got a text from her cousin so she asked me to say what it said then in the message menu I notice her ex bfs name so i clicked it ( i will explain more of this further down) it was a single ...
A. 6 February 2011: Something I have learned first-hand unfortunately is that it is a BIG red flag when a girl is a) deceptive about communication with an ex, especially one that left them, b) has clearly lied about deleting his name from her contacts, and c) is not ... (read in full...)
I've been a fool and she's cheated but how can I get things right again?
Q. Heres the thing. I am in a relationship with this women for a 2nd time that I love but she has cheated, insulted and said bad things about me behind my back. I have forgiven all that because I believe that, if you can't accept someone at their worst ...
A. 6 February 2011: She has absolutely no respect for you, does not truly love you, and will be a constant source of pain if you continue to be in a relationship with her after what she has shown you.
To be honest, she probably only came back because she thought ... (read in full...)
No sex and worried my girlfriend wants to cheat on me
Q. Hi guys and gals. alright so where to start.Ive been in a relationship for a lil over 4 years now, it used to be great but now i have a few concerns/issues i was hoping to get some feedback for. *facts* me and my gf have had sex before. i...
A. 6 February 2011: Well, you both started dating when you were very young, and are now making the transition to adult life.
During this period of your life there are going to be many many changes to both of you in every area of your lives. You need to be focused ... (read in full...)
Why did he say he fell for me, now changes his mind so quickly?
Q. Here's my story: I met a guy online. We were actually both trying to get off SpeedDate because we were fed up with online dating, it just wasn't working. We started up a conversation and it took off like a rocket. We fell in love, fell IN love and ...
A. 6 February 2011: Okay, three weeks and just online are two parts of this story that you should really take a step back and be objective about.
First of all, one of the significant problems with online dating is that there are a million intangibles that can only... (read in full...)
Can you truly love someone and yet have sex with someone else?
Q. I have another posting with more details and a different question, but after reading some other posts (and just being honest with myself) I feel this question needs to be answered as well. Long story short, I met an amazing girl, we had a perfect...
A. 6 February 2011: Thank you all for your words, I really am taking them to heart.
I am just still in shock, even though I know exactly what I should and will do.
This is the first time I have been with a girl that would use her kids, friends and family, and virt... (read in full...)
We broke up because I accused him of cheating
Q. My boyfriend dumped me 3 weeks ago because I accused him of cheating. I've accused him only because I was feeling insecure after a few incidents where I found out he was talking to other women sexually online. We live together and are unable t...
A. 6 February 2011: Something about your situation rings so true to me, and I am sure so many others.
At some point the two of you probably loved each other, or at least said so, and yet when you made him aware of a specific fear that you have, he intentio... (read in full...)
We fought and haven't spoken in a week. Will he come back to me?
Q. So, My boyfriend is 23 and I am 18. We have been together for over three years now, long distance. Mostly we have a great relationship, he's a really great boyfriend. He's really attentive, loving, always tells me how perfect I am etc. We used to ...
A. 6 February 2011: Here are the facts:
You have apologized, and told him you want to be with him and love him.
The ball is in his court now. You can't force him to call back any sooner. He is probably hanging out with friends or at the house playing video ga... (read in full...)
What should I do to regain her interest? Advice needed!
Q. Ok, so I've been dating this girl I met a couple of months ago. And it started off great! She was crazy about me and she had strong feelings towards me. She loved my personality, my confidence, my great sense of humor... Things were going very ...
A. 6 February 2011: Please, for the sake of your sanity and future, listen to what I have to say and do it!!!!
By the time she is actually willing to tell you, it has gone past the point where you can do anything to fix it. That does not mean you have no chance o... (read in full...)
Now I feel as if our whole relationship was a sham...
Q. Hi Jo I split up with my ex-boyfriend at Christmas 2009 after 2 1/2 years and have never really got over him as there was no official split as such - I thought (mistakenly it turns out) that we would work things out but he never responded to me so...
A. 6 February 2011: In so many ways I can directly relate.
And from what I can tell you seem to be a very reasonable person that is attempting to not jump to any conclusions.
The last text I ever sent my ex was, "You promised you would never hurt me, and I will b... (read in full...)
She went back to her ex but I think he's just putting on a good act
Q. My Girlfriend was with her ex for 2 and a half years. she and i were friends and she told me, basically, how horrible he was. e.g. he gets drunk all the time, he tells his friends right in front of me that we don't do it enough. etc... I told her ...
A. 6 February 2011: First things first...
You must always remember that anyone, and I mean anyone, who is unloading about their ex or considers you a friend they can come to when things are bad are only going to tell you the bad things. It makes perfect sense wh... (read in full...)
I ended it with a text message!
Q. Hi everyone, wow this is going to be a long story, today I broke up with my ex, my reasons? well I am a very loving, thoughtful, kind, caring person to be with, my faults? I am clingy and needy, I was with my ex from October 2009 till today, we had ...
A. 6 February 2011: First of all, I know this is a website where people offer their own suggestions, but I strongly suggest you check out a book called "Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Mellody". I say that because I have the EXACT same issue with wanting to be lo... (read in full...)
My ex and I had coffee yesterday and I'm feeling down and confused. Please help.
Q. I realize this will be a bit on the longer side, but I promise I won't ramble on the details and get to the point. It'll be long because its necessary to give a slight overview on what happened to us. Thanks for the patience :) We dated for 2...
A. 6 February 2011: First of all, I am recently involved in a sudden and unforeseen break-up, so I hope that doesn't taint the legitimacy of my advice.
For so many of these questions regarding whether we "should or shouldn't" in relationships I always seem to come ... (read in full...)
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