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... Send *arm-Inspire a private message | | | *arm-Inspire's profile:I am a 23 year old female from England, I am currently in a relationship and have been for just over 2 years.
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He likes me. He likes me not! What's it to be? And how can I tell if he likes me?
Q. Okay. I like this guy and he doesn't know. I like him. I have tried to be flirty but I still don't know if he likes me. He is with me in most lessons and we see each other every day. He always turns around or calls me to turn. I am not sure ...
A. 11 January 2013: Don't wait for subtle hints, a lot of people end up missing their chance when they just wait for the other person to make a move. If he does feel the same it's likely that he's waiting for some sort of sign from you aswell, so neither of you woul... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty when he is the one who can't be trusted?
Q. I broke up on trust issues.he is pleading to not go.I know I am doing it for good and If i stay I will fall again in the circles of accusations and justifications.Being a LDR it just not helps. My question is why I am the one who feel guilty? ...
A. 10 January 2013: I find that if you're quite a selfless person by nature you will find yourself feeling guilty if you have hurt someone's feelings for your own well-being/benefit. The pleading probably isn't making it any better either, it just cause's you to p... (read in full...)
No trust for my boyfriend anymore because he ignores anything that bothers me, and now I suspect him of cheating....what should I do?
Q. I’d like to know how you guys think I should address this situation or maybe even what I should do…im also sorry it's soo long. So When I first got into a relationship with my boyfriend we decided it would be a completely honest relationship and...
A. 9 January 2013: "is there something i can do to help him see this because arguing with 3 different gf's about the same issues clearly isnt working."
Theres no point in going to efforts to help someone who doesn't want to change, he's made this apparent if he's alre... (read in full...)
Was I too quiet at a work dinner party? I'm older than them and the're cliquey. Or were they mean asking me to sit alone at a table, as I'm vegetarian?
Q. We had our work post Christmas party last week, at a restaurant. I arrived slightly late but a few people came after me. I'm older than 80%-90% of my colleagues, didn't bring a partner, (as I have none) and I have a little bit of social anxie...
A. 9 January 2013: I don't really understand the concept of vacating the veggies to another table. I'm a vegetarian and i'm fine with sitting with meat eaters, as long as they don't feel the need to launch chicken nuggets at me across the table. I'm sure your col... (read in full...)
I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.
Q. Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all...
A. 9 January 2013: Being so easily persuaded into bed isn't going to, in any circumstance, fool anyone into think you're madly in love with your girlfriend. 23 times before you decided it was wrong? Thats advanced double digits, you're incredibly selfish. She wou... (read in full...)
No trust for my boyfriend anymore because he ignores anything that bothers me, and now I suspect him of cheating....what should I do?
Q. I’d like to know how you guys think I should address this situation or maybe even what I should do…im also sorry it's soo long. So When I first got into a relationship with my boyfriend we decided it would be a completely honest relationship and...
A. 8 January 2013: I think i should add on for the other aunt's and uncle's not familiar with these mags, they contain topless female only models.... (read in full...)
No trust for my boyfriend anymore because he ignores anything that bothers me, and now I suspect him of cheating....what should I do?
Q. I’d like to know how you guys think I should address this situation or maybe even what I should do…im also sorry it's soo long. So When I first got into a relationship with my boyfriend we decided it would be a completely honest relationship and...
A. 8 January 2013: To start with the magazines, Zoo and Nuts are not collectors items, and they most certainly never will be any sort of Playboy magazine. A magazine with aspiring glamour models that would be willing to get their tata's out for a fiver and a packet o... (read in full...)
Why the reluctance? My Bf will not invite me to his home
Q. My boyfriend will not invite me round his house its been 6 months and I still have not met his family :( I get he doesnt have a lot of spare time out of school but his brother who is in sixth form and his girfriend (who are always round his) kee...
A. 8 January 2013: Do you live within reasonable distance of his house to maybe meet them on a weekend, or do you do your own thing on a weekend without eachother? You could also just walk up to the car with him and formally introduce yourself to his mum, it wouldn't... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend using escort services again? Should I hire a private investigator or just end it?
Q. I'm struggling. The men among you might help me out... 3 years ago, I discovered my boyfriend (then of 7 years) had been visiting escorts. I found this out after becoming suspicious of his behaviour and after some crafty web-history anal...
A. 7 January 2013: The fact that you still have the feeling or instinct that you have to catch him again isn't a positive way to carry on your relationship. The trust obviously hasn't been rebuilt from the last time you caught him and 3 years is a long time to be ca... (read in full...)
My relationship feels awesome, but I'm always expecting something bad to happen! How do I let go of these irrational fears?
Q. So, I have this little problem. About 6 months ago, I met a guy who I initially detested, in a science research station. He was gross to me, I hated everything about him, the way he looked, the things he was talking about, we had absolutely ...
A. 7 January 2013: Opposites attract. I tend to find the more like you your partner is, the more likely you'll clash, i think it has something to do with variety possibly. Because a debate to me, is alot more satisfying than constantly hearing "Oh my god, ME TOO!" ev... (read in full...)
Worried I cant get pregnant when I'm older, help?
Q. Had unprotected sex on 4 different occasions since I lost my virginity, I was really worried I'd get pregnant but I've just got my period like normal... Now I'm really worried that one day when I want kids I won't be able to have them?? Is there so...
A. 7 January 2013: It depends what point of your menstrual cycle you are at when you have intercourse, you may of had sex on days when you are least fertile (when you're not ovulating).
Or it could be low sperm count before you rule yourself infertile, speak to... (read in full...)
How do I move forward knowing he has feelings for a close friend ?
Q. I have recently entered into a relationship been dating a few months and just had the couple talk a few days ago . Already having a few problems . When we were dating I kissed another guy when on vacation when it was New Year's Eve . When asked I ...
A. 7 January 2013: I was going to write an essay listing your options then while writing and thinking about it, you really only need one option. Leave him. Even though you should of been prepared for the answer since you initiated the question to start with, and ... (read in full...)
Why the reluctance? My Bf will not invite me to his home
Q. My boyfriend will not invite me round his house its been 6 months and I still have not met his family :( I get he doesnt have a lot of spare time out of school but his brother who is in sixth form and his girfriend (who are always round his) kee...
A. 7 January 2013: I wouldn't go as drastic as to split up with him over it, he could be telling the truth, he might be worried about what you think about his house as a representation of himself. He also may be reluctant since some families will go out of their way... (read in full...)
My girl friend is bi-curious and wants a three-some.I'm not sure. Can I have advice on this?
Q. Hi everyone, new member here in need of some help! Background: Me (22), GF (19) Been together since Nov 2012, already in love. Lost my virginity to her (saving myself for someone special, she didn't know I was), she has now had 6 sexual partner...
A. 4 January 2013: You've been in this relationship for a little over 2 months, you haven't even had the chance to explore eachother sexually or learn about eachother emotionally.
You don't know where you each stand on the level of commitment and you don't even know... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 3 January 2013: Would you be content with him carrying a picture of his ex around in his wallet?
Perhaps taking it to bed everynight?
Thats what your ring signifys to him, you're carrying an ex around on your finger.
Keep the ring, just don't wear it.
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PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?
Q. I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned...
A. 3 January 2013: He wants you to be his primary next of kin, and there is a high possibility it could be a scam.
I suggest you take a look at this website - http://www.army.mod.uk/24211.aspx
It applys to the US aswell.
Drop contact.
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My girlfriend said there will be no more sex because I asked her about a man I seen her with!
Q. Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's is not going to open her legs for me. Due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street so I stop gave her a lift to her home,to cut the story short at night before ...
A. 3 January 2013: Did you confront her or was it just a curious question?
If you confronted her then her reaction could be one of two things.
1. You jumped down her throat, she got insulted about something that might of been completely innocent, stopping sex bec... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is constantly rejecting me for sex and its making me feel ugly and not at all confident
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for quite some time. We have always had a wild and awesome sex life, and I can't say I've ever really been disappointed... until recently. My boyfriend has always had a very high sex drive for me, and I for him. La...
A. 3 January 2013: You're right sex is a big part of anyones relationship, and you shouldn't be worrying how you sound when you discuss something that matters to you. In my opinion its better to sound 'whiny and pathetic' than to keep your problems cooped up in your ... (read in full...)
How would you deal with double standards in your relationship?
Q. My boyfriend has an issue with double standards in our relationship. He feels like he can do and say things to me but if I reciprocate the same behavior he has a fit! I'm getting a little tired of it, it's killing our relationship. How would you ...
A. 3 January 2013: He is stubborn. Let him know how you feel, tell him everything you've written here, you can't expect someone to just know how their actions are affecting you.
You also can't expect someone to change their destructive behaviour if they don't know... (read in full...)
I can't get these images of his getting lap dances (before we were married) out of my mind!
Q. I am upset abt the fact that my husband (then boyfriend) got fully nude lap dances at gentlemans clubs/strip bars at least 6-8 times before we were married. Although we were living in different places at the time n it was an on off thing, but we ...
A. 2 January 2013: I wouldn't class this as 'Harmless fun', watching girls at a strip club is one thing, it's fantasy, having a woman stick her bare boobs in his face and touching them up is another, and in my opinion is borderline cheating. People may argue that i... (read in full...)
I believe it's just lunch. But why not tell his partner that he goes to lunch with women sometimes? Is it cheating?
Q. Ok, this is my question. If a man that you are in a serious relationship with does not tell you that he is having lunch dates with different women (strickly as friends) is that cheating? He always mentions his lunch dates with men, but for some ...
A. 2 January 2013: "My feeling is if your afraid to tell your partner for whatever reason, then you know you shouldn't be doing it." - In a nutshell. If hes afraid to tell you, then that should be raising alarm bells that possibly something is amiss, if your behavi... (read in full...)
I had sex with a random guy to get over my ex and now I feel so ashamed....
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, first love, and the guy i lost my virginity to a few weeks ago and i still feel incrediblely heart broken. I went to a party and drunk loads to try and forget about it and ended up having sex with a random guy. I feel ...
A. 2 January 2013: Why would you feel ashamed? You're single, and you had a ONS with ONE person, that gives you a grand total of sleeping with 2 people in your life, that doesn't make you a s^^^ at all. A lot of people get drunk and do stupid things. You made... (read in full...)
Are his reasons for keeping it casual and unofficial valid?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over 6 months. We were boyfriend and girlfriend until the end of November when he broke up with me. He said he wanted to break up because he's too stressed because he got fired from his job and he needed t...
A. 2 January 2013: I don't see how what you're both doing already is any different to how it would be if you were official?
You see eachother once or twice a week, thats about the average time un-cohabiting couples see eachother, including myself in my own relation... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend tried to kiss me but now claims it was my fault, and my friend believes him over me!
Q. Hello. I have a really close group of female friends and have been.since school age really. I moved over here when i was 13 as my mum and dad divorced and she remarried my stepfather, and he moved to ireland for work reason. Anyway i was really ...
A. 2 January 2013: Your friend is blinded by love and/or brainwashed by her boyfriend. There is no real easy way to tackle your suituation if shes refusing to believe you or the bystander and unfortunately probably never will. You say shes aware of him being flirta... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is overly friendly with another girl, now he's travelling miles away to visit her and has booked a double room......is he cheating?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm in a bit of a predicament with my partner right now and I have no idea what to do. We have been dating for five months, almost six, I really like this guy and we spend loads of time together but he met a girl at a festiv...
A. 2 January 2013: If your boyfriends mate took his girlfriend, why are you not there? Fair enough it's a reunion but aren't you are mean't to be a part of his life now?
No one can tell you if he's cheating or not since you haven't provided alot of evidence to say ... (read in full...)
I am attractive to men so why don't they ever approach me?
Q. Please don't take this in a wrong way and call me conceited and superficial,I'm putting the problem as it is.. I am 23 year old woman, and by god's grace I have the charm, personality, the beauty.. I can walk into a room and have men look at me, ...
A. 2 January 2013: Men are intimidated by attractive women as women are of attractive men and the fear of rejection flows through all of us.
It's not prohibited that a female approach a male if they find them attractive, you have charm as you state, why waste it?!... (read in full...)
Rebound. Do I find a way to stop loving him? Or do I hold on and suffer?
Q. I was a friend to my ex for a year before he discovered that his wife had betrayed him and they proceeded very quickly to end the marriage. Of course, he ran to me as a shoulder to cry on and, slowly, things developed into more after the divorce....
A. 2 January 2013: I rebounded once from a 3 year relationship with a friend i'd been talking to for around a year, we got into a relationship almost immediately after i had split up with the ex because i needed something or someone to concentrate on. (He asked me o... (read in full...)
My friend stuck her used vibrator in my boyfriend's face
Q. So recently ive found myself in a strange situation and its one i never thought i would expect to deal with in a relationship and i truly hope no woman ever has to deal with this. I know your all thinking you boyfriend cheated on you. Wrong. So it ...
A. 1 January 2013: For starters i can't stress how much that was completely bizzare, disgusting and unsanitary of your friend to do. If i was in your suituation i wouldn't even be able to stay civilized with her, let alone be friends. As for your boyfriend it co... (read in full...)
Was my reaction appropriate?
Q. Dear cupids, I am deeply hurt and can't think straight. I broke up with my boyfriend last year because he was using another girl picture(he claims to be his cousin) as his profile picture on facebook and i suspected cheating. When I told him I was ...
A. 1 January 2013: Frankly i think the whole relationship sounds very immature and you probably brings out the worst of each other. The fact hes so quick and un-fazed to let you walk out on him and you're focused on getting your own back when you should be workin... (read in full...)
My ex said we can get back together if things don't work out with her current boyfriend, but I can't handle the thought of her giving her virginity to someone else.
Q. The relationship with my ex-girlfriend is a long and complicated one so I’ll try to explain it as clearly and concise as possible. (The names used are not the real names of people involved) We first started dating during our sophomore year o...
A. 31 December 2012: Thats the first time i've heard of someone not wanting to lose their virginity to someone because of intelligence.
Were you planning to yell math equations at her during intercourse? Was that the intimidating part?
In all seriousness,... (read in full...)
How can I win my son's love again? Please help!
Q. After my divorce, my son changed totally with me, he was so close to me but now he changed and he told his dad that he saw me with another man and this was 5 years back. I thought he forget about it but he didn't .I was not happy with my husband at ...
A. 31 December 2012: I don't believe there is any real way you can win over your son, parents separating can be traumatising for a child let alone him finding out in your circumstances.
The likelyness is high that hes decided to side with his father, because the divo... (read in full...)
Any advice? My GF tells me on sms chat she want sex, but then won't!
Q. I am in relationship. i and my girl friend make romance frequently.. but not sex. she always tell me that she wanted to have sex on sms chat. but when we are together, she don't allow me to do so. we had given each other hand jobs. any advice?...
A. 31 December 2012: When you're communicating over something either online or through sms in your case, people like to put themselves in a protective bubble. Meaning they can say ANYTHING they want because they get the feeling they're anonymous since there would be no ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 30 December 2012: I'm not going to quote everyone else, they seem to have it in a nutshell, but i will suggest you take a look at this website (recommended by the NHS and myself personally) and fill in the form, it may give you a better idea of what you want and how ... (read in full...)
I'm bi-curious. Women! How would you feel if your spouse suddenly said he was bisexual?
Q. Hey everyone! My question is pretty short I guess, but I'd like to know the answer in different ways. Would you want to know if your HUSBAND was bi-curious/bisexual? (Would you want to know if your HUSBAND was bi-curious/bisexual years later ...
A. 30 December 2012: I was with my ex-boyfriend 2 years before he decided to tell me that he was actually bi-sexual, the only reason he decided to tell me is because he was finding himself more attracted to men than women.
He wasn't even subtle, it was more of "Babe... (read in full...)
Feeling overshadowed by this new girl
Q. Hi guys, I hope someone out there can help me out as I am feeling pretty stuck on this situation. I have met a lovely guy recently who I really feel I can connect with as we seem to get on so well like a house on fire and we share common interest...
A. 29 December 2012: I think your options are to ignore her like you said, ask your guy out just the two of you and keep group activity to a minimum, or create events yourself as a small group to avoid communication with this girl.
Since shes part of your circle o... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? Am I damaged goods?
Q. What is wrong with me? Am I damaged goods?:(? So my ex bf cheated on me with 2 other girls and he dumped me when I found out. He got with someone straight after and when it didn't work out he came back begging me. Of course I gave him...
A. 29 December 2012: Spendy, you're not damaged goods, your confidence has suffered a massive knock.
Don't ever let another person change the way you value yourself, especially if its an ex that clearly just wanted a dig at you or kick you while you were down before y... (read in full...)
Is it only me who gets upset that some people cheat, and then want to keep that fact a secret from their partner?
Q. Some Posters seem to be condoneing cheaters and ex promiscus people. Why do people think that its ok to lie to their husbands or wifes??? I just read where one agony aunt said "don't beat yourself up over it you just felt a connection so yo...
A. 28 December 2012: It's just a matter of a individual stating their personal opinion, you need to look at the suituation and the consequences before you urge someone to admit infidelity to their spouse.
I'm all about honesty but you need to put yourself in that pers... (read in full...)
Has anyone else had a back brace for scoliosis? I need one but I'm worried. What is the procedure?
Q. hi, i need to get a back brace for my scoliosis and i've been told by many others that when they take a mould of your back to make the brace, they will ask you to take your clothes off and only stand their in only your underwear and nothing else. p...
A. 28 December 2012: Hi Franny,
I haven't had a personal experience with scoliosis but i know going to the Doctors and having to get parts of your body out you may not be comfortable with can be daunting.
But you don't need to worry about it, Doctors aren't there... (read in full...)
Why did he change his story? He said he met her twice and now he says he never met her! Bad memory from smoking weed?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We met online on a forum. I was aware that he also talked to another woman. I didn't have a problem with it at the time. We got to know each other better and he said he would like...
A. 27 December 2012: It's nothing to do with his smoking weed, thats an obvious excuse to make, its textbook twisting the truth to avoid confrontation for his actions and making you look like the crazy one. It doesn't sound silly and you are rightfully confu... (read in full...)
I am struggling to move on without closure
Q. How do you move on from a relationship without closure? I was with a wonderful man who treated me well for just over 2 years. It was long distance for the majority due to his work but we always ensured we'd see eachother twice a week. He treated me ...
A. 27 December 2012: I think he may of given you the closure just not as definitive as he could have. To put it simply, getting out of a 2 year relationship and going straight to being friends when there is still some apparent romantic feelings still there, isn't the... (read in full...)
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