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Was my reaction appropriate?

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Question - (31 December 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2013)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear cupids, I am deeply hurt and can't think straight. I broke up with my boyfriend last year because he was using another girl picture(he claims to be his cousin) as his profile picture on facebook and i suspected cheating. When I told him I was breaking up with him he said ok and hope i know what I am doing. I felt hurt but I got over it. This year came we came back together early this year and he broke up with me december because of the influence of his friend(I danced with his friends to get back at him and they laughed at him like 2 weeks after the event and he broke up with me in the month of december). Three days later, he apologized and we both made a promise to behave ourselves that this relationship would see next year. We vacated university on the 20th of december Since then i haven't heard from him, I was worried, called but his number wasn't going through, sent messages through his friends yet no reply. Then I sent him a message on facebook that how can my partner claim to love me and not call or text me. He did not reply. Then I called him yesterday to ask him why he hadn't called, he said nothing that he had been busy with xmas and family. I then said I did not ask for too much that even a 30sec call or less would make me feel better. He then rudely said what do i want him to do that he has said he is sorry and we should forget the matter when I was not ok with it. Then I said he shouldn't be rude that he should let me make things easy for us and told him we don't have to be in a relationship to talk since he dosen't care and then he said ok that he's cool with it that we can be friends. I felt he insulted my pride and me. He should have left me alone me alone when he broke up. I am a leo and he is an aquarius. I feel very hurt and I do not want to ever go back to him no matter what. I am very angry and diminished to an extent. Do you think I overreacted?

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A female reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] United States +, writes (1 January 2013):

[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony auntI think you did the right thing lovely. You do not need that negativity in your life. :) It's just a never ending roller coaster and I'm glad you finally ended it. There's better things to come.

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A female reader, Warm-Inspire United Kingdom +, writes (1 January 2013):

Warm-Inspire agony auntFrankly i think the whole relationship sounds very immature and you probably brings out the worst of each other.

The fact hes so quick and un-fazed to let you walk out on him and you're focused on getting your own back when you should be working on how to better your relationship, I think the whole thing sounds like an impending disaster.

I don't see how it could of deeply hurt since you seem to be the one suggesting to end your relationship rather than to talk about it rational adults.

He should have left me alone when he broke up - You didn't include in your post that he forced you at gun point to get back into a relationship with him? it was your choice to get back together aswell, hes not 100% to blame.

I think the question of you overreacting is irrelevant now, you should find someone you can be stable with from the beginning and someone who doesn't use his cousin as a profile picture?

Good luck

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