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| Latest articles: Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
This question has 11 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 December 2008: Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
This question has 10 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
9 November 2008: Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
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I need some ideas on how I can support my friend.
Q. Hi, I am 15 and so is my friend who I am trying to support at the moment. I was just wondering if I could have some ideas on a way I can support my friend. She is having a tough time at the moment with exams, home life and at school. She has been ...
A. 24 October 2009: Aww, that's great!!
Congratulations on getting A grades in your exams and that's really great news about your friend too =) xx... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 13 April 2009: Anonymous: Hey, I'm not saying that there aren't small bad habbits you should change, just firm beliefs and who you are as a person.
If you were happy the way you were before you met the man you're in a relationship with then you shouldn'... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 29 December 2008: scythe: Exactly, obviously, if there are any small habbits that are annoying, you could, maybe, change the, but never, ever your beliefs, or morals, or anything like that. I agree with that, if you don't know yourself, it's impossible for anyone ... (read in full...)
Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
Q. Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
A. 24 December 2008: XxAnGelXxx: I completly agree with you. We feel comfortable when we are with people who are like ourselves. But, like you, I don't think it's right that we are labeled, because we all have different aspects to our personalities. Yeah, I agree,... (read in full...)
I need some help with an apology letter to someone I offended.
Q. i need some help with writing an apology letter to someone i have offended. please read what happened and let me know what i should say. i was a very insecure and possessive type of person with people close to me in my life. when i say possessive...
A. 19 December 2008: Heyy,
People shouldn't think of you as 'low' because you went to a counselling session. In fact, people should admire the fact that you realize what you've been doing, and want to sort it out. Most people can't do this, and stay in denial, ... (read in full...)
Still young and desperately looking!
Q. Many of us teenagers seem to be looked at differently just because of the fact that we've never had boyfriends/girlfriends. Most of us are obssesed with the fact that a relationship with a person is needed ASAP. Well, I have something to tel...
A. 16 December 2008: Heyy,
I think this is a fantastic article! Seriously, it's awesome. So many teenagers (girls, and even boys), desperatly want a relationship for one reason or another, and I think it's great that you are sharing your view with people about th... (read in full...)
The too nice older boss that you need to avoid.
Q. This is a little bit of a story and a how to on how to not be taken advantage of. I was given a job right off the bat by a man who owned a shop. At first i was young(17) and naive to think, maybe it is my personality and knowledge that got me the ...
A. 16 December 2008: Heyy,
I'm 15, and it sucks to hear something like that has happened too you, and think it's great you are warning so many other girls, maybe even women, out there, who may do something like this, without thinking. Mainly because a) the age diff... (read in full...)
Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
Q. Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
A. 14 December 2008: Heyy,
Thanks for all of your answers! :D
britt429: Yeah, I agree, it is really sad, people should be who they want to be, and, it seems like they're being punished for it, it's not right, everyone has the right to be who they want to be, and ... (read in full...)
Is Teen Pregnancy Cool These Days?
Q. I just thought I'd speak out about this because I'm 15 years old my friends range from 16 to 19 but a lot of my friends and people I know are 16 /17! And to be honest I'm shocked that girls now a days in this day and age were contraception is so ...
A. 11 December 2008: Heyy,
Teenage pregnancy is not cool, in my opinion anyway.
I know a few people in my year (11) who are preganat, and when I was in year 9, someone in the year below me was pregnant (abortion).
But now, in year 11, I know what you mean, I've... (read in full...)
I don't believe in getting intimate with any boy just to satisfy sexual needs, I want to wait for the "one". What do you think?
Q. Hello friends. I am a 29 year old unmarried, virgin girl from India. I would like to discuss one of my beliefs with all of you. Hope you don't call me a psycho as all others call me. I have been a very outstanding student, always a topper. I am wor...
A. 8 December 2008: Heyy,
I agree with you, you shouldn't just be with someone because you can, you should love them, and they should love you, and it should be the best thing in the world, not just something, where you can say 'I have a boyfriend'.
I think I hav... (read in full...)
My parents hate her, my friends hate her, but I love her... what do I do??
Q. ok... here is the situation i have... I am completely in love with this girl i go to school with but i have dated her 6 times before in the past each one lasted about 5 months. Well we have been really good friends since we broke up about a year ...
A. 7 December 2008: Hey,
Okay, well, firstly, ask them why they hate her so much, they have to have a reason, when you find out, you have half your decision, based on what they said.
Secondly, you have broken up 6 times and all of your relationships ha... (read in full...)
He's throwing his life to drugs - how can I get through to him?
Q. my best friend is the best thing that happened to me in years. a while ago he promised me he would never touch drugs, i believed him. then he did the unthinkable and turned to drugs. he knows i dont agree with it, he knows i get angry at him, im ...
A. 6 December 2008: Hey,
This really sucks! I couldn't imagine going through what you're going through.
Well, I don't know really, do you think you could convince him to go to a rehabilitation centre? Get himself clean, or maybe tell his parents?
If y... (read in full...)
Why am I getting all these mixed emotions about who should be in jail?
Q. Okay, so here's my issue: I was raped when I was 9-12 and then when I was 13 (2 different people) The first one is my cousin, and I never pressed charges, and the second is an acquaintance. My problem is, when the second guy got charges pressed on ...
A. 4 December 2008: Hey,
Oh my God, that is so much for one person to deal with, it's not right, at all.
Well, first of all, the 2nd guy should be put in jail, he did what he did, and now he should pay the concequences.
You probably feel angry at your cousi... (read in full...)
I'm bi, want to make a move on my best friends ex girl and worry I'll look like a fool!
Q. I'm really like this girl. Couple problems though she just broke up with my best mate, he bullies her and is pretty horrible to her but they're still crushing on each other. I'm having a party on Friday because it the end of exams and I don't know ...
A. 4 December 2008: Hey,
If your mate bullies her, make sure he doesn't, be there for her, and stick up for her. What I would like to know, is why she likes someone who bullies her...makes no sense to me, but anyway..
Maybe not make a move so soon, considerin... (read in full...)
The Nice Guy
Q. I remember being a kid and watching those corny teen movies like “Can’t Hardly Wait” and I recall thinking that the nice guy always gets the girl and believing that is how it really is. But as I got older I came to learn that Hollywood is full of ...
A. 4 December 2008: Okay, I am going to start by saying, some girls are like this, but not all of them. Some are like that, but they are constantly looking for attention, and want to see who's the next guy she can get with. However, this is not true for all girls, some ... (read in full...)
Girls, what if you don't have the perfect body?
Q. "I look nothing like the girls from Sex and the City" "My body isn't even close to the bodies in the magazines" "My boobs are too small" "My boobs are too big" "I have a ghetto booty" "I have no butt" "I have stretch marks" "I have...
A. 4 December 2008: Heyy,
This is an awesome article, seriously, not joking!!
Women of all ages complain about how they look, it mainly starts from teenage years.
This article show's the truth about women, and how they feel, and how they should be happy wit... (read in full...)
My BFF likes him too, should I just forget about him?
Q. So the guy i like is amazing you could even call him a rare package (yes i know i'll probably meet more who i think the same of, but this is the one right now). I think that he likes me too because he's always trying to show affection to me by ...
A. 4 December 2008: Heyy,
Aww, that sucks. Well, in the end it will be up to you what to do, but remember, he has to have a say as well, don't just focus on you and your friend :D.
I don't know what he will say, because I am not him, but you guys can still hang o... (read in full...)
Why do SOME people assume things about people, that may not even be true?
Q. I have just learnt that apparently some guys think that all girls are slags, this got me so annoyed, I am so angry that people actually think like that, why do people think like that, it's just gross, disgusting and demoralising/degrading towards ...
A. 27 November 2008: Hey,
Thanks for all your responses. It's helped me understand a lot. It really got on my nerves when I found this out. Thanks again. It's still frustrating, and I do not agree with it, but sometimes, somethings are just the way their are.
Than... (read in full...)
How can I avoid taking drugs again when around my old friends?
Q. so recently i started hanging out with some of my old friends, and when they really knew me we were all in the drug scene together (smoking pot every day alone or in combination with other drugs) but after i moved i got a new girlfriend and we had a ...
A. 25 November 2008: I know this probably won't be what you want to hear, but I don't think you should hang out with your old friends, they may not be pressuring you, but it may get to that, and the more you are around it, the more you may be tempted. Your girlfriend ... (read in full...)
My Mom's drunk BF harassed me and I'm afraid to tell her the truth!
Q. hi i'm 18 and life has never been better for me up until a week ago. i was staying with my mom because she hasn't seen me in a while and wednesday she had to work so i was at her house with her husband. it was his day off and with him being an ...
A. 24 November 2008: Hey, I'm sorry but you really have to tell your mum about this, think about it, what would have happened if the cat hadn't distracted him? You probably could have done something, but what if...? This probably isn't what you wanted to hear, e... (read in full...)
My BF says if we do it while I'm on my period and he pulls out, I won't get pregnant. Is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I always have sex using condoms. But he often tries to put it in without one. He's usually on top of me and starts to rub the tip of his penis on the outside of my vagina, but doesn't put it in without a condom. He has been ...
A. 24 November 2008: It's up to you what you want to do, however, from what I have learnt, this is not true, you can still get pregnant while on your period because the sperm will wait (I guess is the best way to put it), until it is over, and carry on, its journey.
... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 23 November 2008: Hey, Thank you!!! Don't worry I won't! :D :D :D... (read in full...)
Peer pressure!
Q. Hi everyone... My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we do really love each other :), but her older sister who's now twenty did something maybe some would consider rather silly. She had unprotected sex with her boyfriend, she got ...
A. 22 November 2008: Hey,
If your girlfriend wants to wait a while, then let her, until it all blows over, it may just be friends having a joke, but if she or you or both of you are feeling uncomfortable about it, then don't give them anything to laugh about.
It's... (read in full...)
Why do I keep putting myself down if others see different?
Q. Hello, for the last few months I have felt so ugly, and useless. People say the opposite yet I always seem to see the bad side of myself and I don't see it in the mirror! I feel really unloved when it comes to boys, my home life's okay - but there ...
A. 22 November 2008: Hey,
It's common for girls to see the bad side in themselves, instead of looking for the great things, the think of one small thing and let themselves think it's a bigger issue than it actually is.
I agree with Teacake, don't comapre yourself... (read in full...)
I need some ideas on how I can support my friend.
Q. Hi, I am 15 and so is my friend who I am trying to support at the moment. I was just wondering if I could have some ideas on a way I can support my friend. She is having a tough time at the moment with exams, home life and at school. She has been ...
A. 22 November 2008: Hey,
Wow, this is hard, you really are so busy, but also want to support your friend.
Maybe, you could set out a schedual or something and spend time with this friend about 1 or 2 hours every day, or every other day, which ever suits you b... (read in full...)
Do I tell my parents that my sister was smoking
Q. I caught my sister (she's 12 and I'm 15) smoking with her friends (they were smoking too). My sister begged me not to anyone. My parents would kill her if they knew and me for not telling them first. I'm going feel bad if she gets heart cancer or ...
A. 21 November 2008: No way! You are not being controlling, you are being a great sister and saving her life. Doesn't she care? Doesn't she know that smoking can kill her? Damage her health? Sorry if I'm sounding harsh here, but you're doing all you can for her, and ... (read in full...)
At what point in a relationship do you reveal your past?
Q. At what point in a relationship do you reveal your past? I'm 20 yrs. old and this is really my first attempt at a serious relationship. I was a troubled teen. I used drugs and alcohol. I became sexually active at 14 and had literally dozens of ...
A. 20 November 2008: Hey,
You should reveal your past to him whenever you feel comfortable with it. It's your choice, if he really likes you, he will accept who you were and who you've become. Whenever you feel comfortable with telling him, then you should tell him... (read in full...)
I like goth clothing, is goth believing in the devil?
Q. Hey, I'm a christian. I like goth clothing. Just the way they look, dress. Can I dress goth? Is goth believing in the devil. I want to know more about goth. Any advice?...
A. 19 November 2008: Hey, No, you can dress how you want, and still have your beliefs. I am a Christian, and I like gothic things too :D. You should dress how you want, and listen to what you want, without having to feel your worshiping something your not. ... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 18 November 2008: Lol,
Thank you!!... (read in full...)
Am I REALLY ready to get married?
Q. My fiance and I have lived together for 4 years and I asked her to marry me about 3 years ago. Lately our relationship fell apart where we don't talk about things. My fiance is 6 years older than I am and I love her very very much. We had some ...
A. 18 November 2008: Hey, Okay, you love your family, and your brother, but if your brother wants to move out of his parents house, then why not get a place of his own? He probably wants to spend time with you, but your fiance wants to be with you. You probably ha... (read in full...)
Romeo and Juliet
Q. Several people have asked me, over the recent months, how I got together with the man in my life. I decided to jot this little tale down for the amusement of you all here at DearCupid. It began on one dull Monday morning, when I received a call ...
A. 17 November 2008: Awwww!! That's soo sweet lol :D ... (read in full...)
What's happening to this world?!
Q. What's happening to this world? Every time I'm here everyone is talking about sex, even 10-11 year olds, what happened to childhood? I didn't even know what sex meant when I was 10, there must be something to do, I can't take seeing some girls ...
A. 17 November 2008: I'm not saying 'don't come on the site and ask for help', I just don't understand why both girls and boys would want to give up their, innocence (right word) so quickly.
It's great people do come on and ask for help and advice, but why not wait... (read in full...)
What's happening to this world?!
Q. What's happening to this world? Every time I'm here everyone is talking about sex, even 10-11 year olds, what happened to childhood? I didn't even know what sex meant when I was 10, there must be something to do, I can't take seeing some girls ...
A. 17 November 2008: Hey, No, I agree with you completely. I didn't know what it was when I was young(er), and now, in my school (secondary school, year 11) someone in a few of my classes are pregnant, someone in the younger year is, when I was in year 9, someone ... (read in full...)
I don't want to labeled as some 'sex freak.' Is there anything I can do?
Q. Okay, this is a bit um... interesting. Here we go: I dated this girl for a very short time (I think it was about two weeks). We broke up because a. We weren't really meshing, and b. She was pressuring me to go too far too fast. The problem was,...
A. 16 November 2008: That's out of order!! I'm sorry, but I think that your ex-girlfriend is being extremely immature and she seems like the type of person that I woud not get along with in a million years. She's spreading rumors like this, when you haven't done any... (read in full...)
Girls, what are some questions you'd want to be asked by a guy that would make you feel good?
Q. Hello. I like this girl, blah blah blah, you've heard it before. I'm hanging out w/her as much as I can without seeming too clingy, but the problem is, is that most of our time is silent. Girls, what are some questions you'd want to be asked by a ...
A. 16 November 2008: Ask her questions to try and get to know her better. But nothing too personal, just nice, light conversation. You may find something you both have in common, talk about that, but not too much, that may get a little boring, but just find out more ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to ask her out? Face to face? Text? MSN?
Q. A quick and shortish question really. I like this girl and we have got together and kissed on two separate occasions now, i think it can go further and could lead somewhere, but there is one thing, i dont know how to ask her out? Any one got any ...
A. 16 November 2008: Hey, I think also face-to-face. My friend got together with someone over msn, lasted for nearly a year, but that's not the point. Face-to-face means a girl really knows you are being serious and not joking around, on msn or text messaging... (read in full...)
I have been so down this week and its all to do with him and what he is capable of...
Q. Right I haven't done this for a while, it's actually weird being on the other end so to speak... I'm going through a hard time at the moment, My ex husband (please no one say just get over it its not that simple I wish it was) yes my ex husband well ...
A. 16 November 2008: Hey, Okay, I'm going to say this. What you have been through is unimaginable for a lot of us, and how you survived and became stronger through it all, is amazing, most people wouldn't be able to come out and be a stronger person as you have, and... (read in full...)
Ashamed of my appearance
Q. Please help - due to a irrational fear of dentist when I was younger, I did not get the neccessary dential work I needed to correct the over crowding with my teeth which has resulted in vampire looking teeth. I am now ready to correct the problem ...
A. 16 November 2008: Hey, Vampire teeth? sounds awesome!! My friend has teeth like that haha, she loves it too. Don't feel embarassed, many people are afraid of the denist, and hate getting braces. The best I can say is, don't think about anyone else or what th... (read in full...)
Prents!! Prime examples!! "Do you want a smack?" - "Are you going out looking like THAT?" No, of course I don't want a bloody smack! and Yes, I am going out looking like THIS!
Q. Has anyone noticed, that for all their showing-off, their cars, and their "I'm-dad/mum-so-that-makes-me-right" attitde, that parents tend to be slightly ridiculous most of the time? I mean, I still dont know the answer to "Where did you lose it?" ...
A. 16 November 2008: Lol, this was good. I really liked the one where it says 'It's always in the last place you look' Lol, I did find that funny.
It's true, parents do come out with the craziest things sometimes, and I hadn't really thought about it until now haha... (read in full...)
More about the classic "Be yourself"...
Q. "Be yourself..." classic advice on how to get a girl/boy interested in you. They should love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be to catch their eye. This is all well and good. But who is "yourself"? Is it the person at home: reasonably...
A. 16 November 2008: Hey,
I liked the beginning 'Who is yourself' because it's true, we act differently towards different people. You act differently towards your parents than you would your friends, it's really gotton me to thinking.
I guess, I don't know about... (read in full...)
Do I tell my parents that my sister was smoking
Q. I caught my sister (she's 12 and I'm 15) smoking with her friends (they were smoking too). My sister begged me not to anyone. My parents would kill her if they knew and me for not telling them first. I'm going feel bad if she gets heart cancer or ...
A. 15 November 2008: Good Job!!! I am really glad that your sister has someone like you, she really doesn't know how lucky she is!! Don't worry about her not talking to you, she'll thank you one day, as the person below said, in the long run, you have saved her life. ... (read in full...)
Why are some age differences okay in dating, but not others?
Q. Why is it ok for a 50 yo man to date a 30 yo woman, being 20 years apart? but yet a 21 yo man can not date a 16 yo girl, when that is only five years. Or even a 18 yo man and 16 yo girl. If they got caught the guy would go to jail...Why is that?...
A. 14 November 2008: Hmm, I think it's because there's a law about dating teenage girls aged 16 if you are a few years older. I'm not exactly sure, but I have a feeling it's frowned upon because, people probably think, that aged 16 is too young to date anyone older ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my parents that my sister was smoking
Q. I caught my sister (she's 12 and I'm 15) smoking with her friends (they were smoking too). My sister begged me not to anyone. My parents would kill her if they knew and me for not telling them first. I'm going feel bad if she gets heart cancer or ...
A. 12 November 2008: Glad you found a way to sort it out, smoking is dangerous and addictive, which makes it even more dangerous, but you have found a way to stop it, without having to tell them directly, which would probably be the most difficult thing. Either way, ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mum to trust me?
Q. Dear cupid, From the dawn of time my mom has told me to save sex for marriage, condom's don't always work, and guys will say anything to get sex. so now that i finally have a boyfriend my mom constantly asks me if he's been touching or grabbing...
A. 11 November 2008: You have to prove to your mum that you are a responsible girl, and a mature girl, who wouldn't dream of doing something like that, or go against her wishes, if they're that strong.
You should sit and have a talk with your mum, about how you know... (read in full...)
Unwritten rule of dating
Q. One unwritten rule of dating is not to bring up sensitive subjects. Current US policies, or other social questions, or deep philosophica/religious subjects are supposed to be taboo. This unwritten rule seems especially strong for men. It's somewh...
A. 11 November 2008: In my opinion, you should always get to know someone properly, before you consider haveing any kind of relationship with them, it leads to less fights in the future, and like you said, if you strongly disagree with them, it would be awkward.
... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 10 November 2008: I agree, we should really think about whether what we are doing is right. Yeah, that really does suck, about your parents wanting you to be like your cousins, I'd hate it, no offence to my cousins, lol, but if I were being them, I definatly wouldn't ... (read in full...)
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